Has this happened to you. If so, could you help me deal a little?!


Question: I have gotten into such a deep, deep state of depression that every memory I have seems negative. Though, when I thought of them before [about six months ago, before all of my issues started], I just brushed them off or didn't think of them at all.

But there are certain words or things that trigger these memories that I seem to think are horrible. Certain words, objects, songs, ect, ect.

I just wanted a few techniques of how to deal with this. I see my therapist on Friday, so I can talk about it then, but I would really like to see what people here have to say.

Have you guys been through these lows? How did you deal? If you haven't had this experience, do you have any advice of how I could kick this extreme case of negativity? Because all of this sh*t is really starting to take a toll on me - I'm scared to watch anything or do anything, for fear of having these horrible thoughts plaguing me.

Any help would be very much appreciated!


Answers: I have gotten into such a deep, deep state of depression that every memory I have seems negative. Though, when I thought of them before [about six months ago, before all of my issues started], I just brushed them off or didn't think of them at all.

But there are certain words or things that trigger these memories that I seem to think are horrible. Certain words, objects, songs, ect, ect.

I just wanted a few techniques of how to deal with this. I see my therapist on Friday, so I can talk about it then, but I would really like to see what people here have to say.

Have you guys been through these lows? How did you deal? If you haven't had this experience, do you have any advice of how I could kick this extreme case of negativity? Because all of this sh*t is really starting to take a toll on me - I'm scared to watch anything or do anything, for fear of having these horrible thoughts plaguing me.

Any help would be very much appreciated!

oh hunny i feel alot of empathy for you when i read what you have writ. I now how this is and would like to tell you how much i very relate to you as i am going throught the "exact same thing myself". For me darl'n speaking with people is great, but also remember to trust your own judgement as well. For me i wanted to discover why... It made sense to me that if somehow i knew why i have these awful negative looped thought patterns, maybe i could fix this. I knew i could. this is where im at now.
Alot of the reason to why i am negative i believe is because of the many things that have happened to me in my life, now i wont get into this but for you maye you can recognise that there are some very traumatic close to heart moments that have affected you that maybe once, like you say, you just shrugged off, but now are getting the better of you. I feel this is happening with us becasue it is undealt with big problems rolling around in our head attached with emotion and we created a nice little cave of negativity inside our minds where it only takes a little word or picture, movie anything to remind us and off we go. Its restimulation, we get reminded and become effect of it. I think the best thing that we can possibly do here is to try and stay cause. what i mean by this is to stay in control above of it rather than it above you...rather than become sad and down tell yourself okay this really ******* hurts, tell yourself maybe that you will stay on top of it and will be strong until i can deal with this. this is what i mean by cause, now this wont fix your probems babe but it will help to keep your head above water until your really deepy address the issues- the source of why you feel so low. While you do this its important to eat extra healthy, vegetabels fruit and to have great sleep. Having these things will allow your body to function at its best. Good food for the brain, Food for thought as you may have heard before. If your not doing this good eating deal, do it and in a day or so you will notice a change. Drink alot of water and excercise as it will help the endorphins and help develop serotin in your brain - that nice calm feeling. If you stay on top of these things as well as slowly address your issues. hopefully will slowly start to rise. But remember it will take a while, its a gradient.
With your negative thoughts, i know its so hard becaause its so hard for me, but try your best to erase and replace these thoughts with good ones....ie.... say you will not see a dear friend for a while. isntead of " oh bugger this i will miss them this hurts too much" Try to change this to " ok yeah im going to miss them, but it gives me something real great to look forward to and when i see them i will be doing better too so it will be better"....do you see what im trying to explain - i hope so. Educate yourself. Write, read, draw or do art if that is your thing or sport - whatever it may be for you. Dont feed your brain with badness, feed it with positivnes..
Get out a little, sociallness is good medicine if its with the right people.. but do it wisely and rememember to care for your bod. For me if i go out stay out late eat bad, drink booze im a depressed monster....baby steps. Go out for a bit maybe have one drink, have a nice healthy meal before you go out and come home so you can have enough sleep. While your healing your mind its important to have these things so dont compare yourself to others and remember your real friends will respect you for what your doing and admire you and your wisdom. all the best hope this hellps. Peace.

It helps to go to therapy, and to have other people to talk to about it too. It is hard to keep motivated and to avoid being negative. Having someone to love helps too.

There are so many people out there with the same problems! Just ask around, talk to people. It isn't easy but life is worth it!

Find hobbies to take up your time and keep you out of the house and around people. Or express your feelings through art, writing, music or other creative mediums. This is therapy in itself. Keeping a journal really helped me a lot when I was going through depression.

Most importantly, don't give up on yourself. Life will get better. Realize that sorrow is necessary to fully know joy. Read The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran - especially the section on Joy and Sorrow. It is very wise and comforting.

Good luck! I hope you find something or someone that makes your life better!

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i motivate myself and try to do the same fot others like yourself . hang in there i will do my best to help you if you need

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. You sound frightened and overwhelmed.
I have also had these feelings. Therapy helped me feel less overwhelmed by my feelings. It took a year for me to feel like I was no longer drowning.
I still sometimes feel frightened, sad, angry and overwhelmed. Only now I know that these feelings cannot cause me any harm if I just let them pass. It's like watching children play. Feelings need my attention, but they are innocent and harmless, sometimes even funny.

I read a lovely book called "It's up to you" by Dzigar Kontrul. It's based on Buddhist principles but very straight forward. It explains how to create some space in your mind, so you don't feel so overwhelmed.

Your okay, and your going to be just fine.





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