What should I do if my roommate is being a big bully?!


Question: Last week he called me names such as fat autistic clumsy ugly and nerdy because I did not allow him to use my computer for one minute to submit an assignment because I dont like people using my computer for privacy reasons. I got so angry when he called me those things that I attacked him but he had me in a headlock and kept punching me in my back, neck, and head until I bit one of his fingers and ran back to my bedroom. Two days ago I told him that I filed an official complaint to housing to request he be moved to another dorm and he slapped the back of my neck with a stapled copy of the complaint and laughed and call me those names again. While eating one of my donuts I told him since he is mean he is not getting any more donuts and he kicked the box of donuts that I bought at the bakery out of my hand and it hit the ground and I had to threw them all away. Since our fight he keeps calling me these names to hurt my self esteem and wont stop.


Answers: Last week he called me names such as fat autistic clumsy ugly and nerdy because I did not allow him to use my computer for one minute to submit an assignment because I dont like people using my computer for privacy reasons. I got so angry when he called me those things that I attacked him but he had me in a headlock and kept punching me in my back, neck, and head until I bit one of his fingers and ran back to my bedroom. Two days ago I told him that I filed an official complaint to housing to request he be moved to another dorm and he slapped the back of my neck with a stapled copy of the complaint and laughed and call me those names again. While eating one of my donuts I told him since he is mean he is not getting any more donuts and he kicked the box of donuts that I bought at the bakery out of my hand and it hit the ground and I had to threw them all away. Since our fight he keeps calling me these names to hurt my self esteem and wont stop.

You should have just let him use your computer you sound annoying. But he does sound like a jerk

it's called 'thirty day notice;.

stand up for yourself! bullys only like people who are scared. otherwise, move out now! you dont want som-one like that in your house/flat

god - how old are you 2?
grow up

for god sake dnt be so horribel if ur going to advise, make sure you advise properly. make an official complaint to ur landlord and be calm about it do not try to argue with him or fight him, you can get advice at the citezens advice bureu

The time for compromise has passed. An official complaint is just a piece of paper - MOVE OUT IMMEDIATELY. Yes he is a bully but you need to be in a safe place until you can have this bully removed. Your safety is more important than who is right or wrong. Get help and keep yourself safe.

If the housing people arent helping tty filing a police report for his assault on you on repeated occasions and then while you are there tell them you also wish to file for a restraining order and follow through, take your documentation to the housing people and tell them what is going on, and tell them if they arent going to do anything to help you, or move him so he doesnt become more aggressive with you then if anything happens to you again you will file a suit against them for endagering your welfare and not protecting you against a violent person, and you will tell the media about it, Trust me, they will certainly be more than willing to help you, once other people are involved.

wow these answers suck. ok dude its your computer if you dont want someone else using it thats your right. though it wouldnt hurt to be nice.

if your worried about privacy reasons why not make a different user name for your computer with limited access. that way you can seem like a nice guy but at the same time not have to worry about him looking in your stuff.

he is calling you names to get you upset. he gets a rush out of the control he has over you by saying things and getting a reaction (anger).

i understand that you get angry and that it hurts your self esteem but the more you show him (or anyone) that what they are saying effects you. the more likily they are to do it.

if you can stay calm and collected reguardless of the name calling then it will stop. once he knows that he cant produce a result by doing it... he wont see it as being something worth doing anymore.

i would suggest getting a new roomate though this one does sound like a jerk.

with the dounut thing im hoping that he asked for one and you said no?

if you were just eating them and he saw you and you said (before he said anything) "you cant have any of these because your mean" you were just edging him on and thats not good.

be careful usually people with self esteem problems who are easy brought to emotions by words use words themselves to try to bring up emotions in others. (because they want control)

hope this helps guy

I would switch dorms or as you said ... file a complaint telling them that the guy is harassing, taunting, and bullying you. I would have me OR that guy out in a second.

You should also stand up for yourself and if that doesn't work just keep filing complaints.

This guy is not an bullly he is agressive and can be violent.
if I were you i would go and make it offical by calling the police. They will then issue him a serious warning and then if he attacks you once more he can be arrested and jailed. A person who is hot-headed is a danger not only to you but to others as well. Get him to leave now not tomorrow.If he needs to use the computer they have them at the library and they will caution him on its use and if he is using it for illegal purposes he can then be asked to leave the university.Protect yourself also, go to self- defence classes.
Do get a witness to any injuries, bruises,etc., so if you need to go to court you will have the evidence of what he has done to you. Write the attack done on a sheet of paper, put the date, time, why it happened, what he did to you etc, In other words if its not written down it just does not happen.

Time to give him his walking papers! Who cares if hes being mean? of course he is- hes a jerk! don't engage in his b.s.
and you don't have to share your computer. its yours. tell that mean little bully to bounce!





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