WHAT ARE THE FASES of healing a broken heart??!


Question: I finished a long term relationship, and i have no idea what is happening with me now. I look and feel lost.
I am sure that we will never get back together, and i need to move with my life.
I need help..
can someone answer me what comes after the shock of breaking up...
When will my healing process start...I feel agony..


Answers: I finished a long term relationship, and i have no idea what is happening with me now. I look and feel lost.
I am sure that we will never get back together, and i need to move with my life.
I need help..
can someone answer me what comes after the shock of breaking up...
When will my healing process start...I feel agony..

ending a long term relationship is very much like a divorce,and you need to heal ,some of us can't just jump into the game,we need a little help to get there .start by trying to spend just one day a week focusing only on yourself and your future goals -go on a hike or to the park (or like me the beach) connect with yourself. you have to take time to learn who you are now as a single person and not 1/2 of a couple-you'll probably find out some amazing things about yourself!try and smile today-c'mon right now-didn't that make you feel better!hang in there sweetie it will get better.

breaking up is hard... first is shock, then denial, then self pity, then anger, then revenge,then acceptence,then you move on.. not all people go through all these steps,,,, it's better if after your self pity, acceptance then you move on...healing time varies with each individual... i know,,, I've been there...

hey c.starling, i'll start by saying i am very sorry for your heartbreak,
The healing of the heart after a break up depends entirely on your ability to look the loss in the face and say 'I lost something beautiful and it sucks, but i can find something even more beautifull'. Your heartbreak wont stop until you make it. and i know this sounds stupid and your probably saying 'i knew u were gonna say that', but it is true. at first you will spend your nights crying, wondering what it is you did wrong and hoping they will reconsider and want you back. This will turn to anger when you realise that they are truly gone and don't wont you. this anger then prompts you into thinking that it was all their fault, not yours. Then comes the confusion as your feelings begin to wear out and you don't know what you feel. then you will slowly begin to heal and you will look for someone else. someone who deseves your love, and you will be more cautious about who you give it to next time. Just remember time heals everything, it just depends on you how much time it takes. goodluck hun. xxxxxx

The first step is acceptance of the situation. Accept that the relationship is over.
The next step is to forgive yourself for any role you may have played in the break down of the relationship.
The next step should be to eliminate all reminders of that person from your environment.
The next step should be to change your room or furniture around. Make your immediate surrounds different than they were when you were together...to add to the new changes that await you. Love will come again.
The next step is to pamper yourself and stay social. Do not lock yourself up in the house all weekend and waste beautiful days slumming.
The next step is to dream/ write down all of your future hopes and aspirations for love and life.
Next step plan a course of action towards meeting your new goals.
Good luck ...heartache is the worst but love is out there and you will find someone that is right for you. Stay single for a while to ensure that you are together and ready for a new relationship without bringing "baggage" from your past into it.

Counseling probably would help a lot right now to get you out of your stupor. Sometimes it takes months or years, but one day you will wake up and realize you are not thinking about that person anymore. Trust me you will get over your broken heart. Everybody has had their heart broken over someone. Your not the first person to suffer from it. Someday your heart will heal and you will go on and find your true soul mate. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. The healing process will start when you realize that you are worthy and deserve more than the relationship you had with your ex.





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