I broke some one's heart, now im extremly depressed?!
Question: I found the girl of my dreamsa and had an amazing relationship for a very long time. After about 2 years though we broke up because of many arguments, two months later i started talking to a girl whom i dated for about 3 months, and we eventually had sex. But i was still thinking about my ex, eventually i seeked her out and did everything to get back together, but when she asked me about other girls i was so afraid she wouldnt want me I lied.
After that things got worse, everytime she asked it became harder to come clean, since she would not only leave me but then id be a liar too, i didnt want to hurt her and i wanted us to be together. She found out (as she was bound too) and now she hates me, but worse than that she was so hurt, she kept crying and asking me how i could do something like that and that she didnt deserve it, I never cheated but now she has no reason to believe anything i say, i cant sleep, cant eat, and i feel sick all the time. how can i live with miself?
Answers: I found the girl of my dreamsa and had an amazing relationship for a very long time. After about 2 years though we broke up because of many arguments, two months later i started talking to a girl whom i dated for about 3 months, and we eventually had sex. But i was still thinking about my ex, eventually i seeked her out and did everything to get back together, but when she asked me about other girls i was so afraid she wouldnt want me I lied.
After that things got worse, everytime she asked it became harder to come clean, since she would not only leave me but then id be a liar too, i didnt want to hurt her and i wanted us to be together. She found out (as she was bound too) and now she hates me, but worse than that she was so hurt, she kept crying and asking me how i could do something like that and that she didnt deserve it, I never cheated but now she has no reason to believe anything i say, i cant sleep, cant eat, and i feel sick all the time. how can i live with miself?
I understand you r pain but she isn't the one for you anyway. She isn't upset about you lying...she is jealous about the other woman. PUH-LEASE! She is laying such a guilt trip on you. Don't buy into it. There is noooo room in this world for guilt. It was none of her business what you were doing or who you were doing. At any rate, don't focus on that. Get out there and get dating again! You will feel great. Have some fun. Meet some interesting women. Just go out and be free!!! Trust me love, you will be over the sick feeling within 2 weeks. It honestly passes, even though it feels like it wont. Good luck...chin up....get back out there!
ignore it and move on- find another girl simple.
What does it matter? You guys werent together when it happened. you should have just told her the truth from the beginning. You have to just explain to her that you didnt want to hurt or upset her with telling her about other girls you've been with. She has to understand that you love her and only her and that whats happened in the past happened and theres nothing that can be dont to change it. I understand the issue is that you lied, but is that REALLY why she is upset?
Tell her you are sorry again and how much you love her. Tell her you are hurting too .Give her some space to heal and wait for her. If she loves you she will come back. Be patient and wait on her.
give her space. if she comes back it was meant to be, if not hey, everything happens for a reason, I'm going thru a similar experience with my partner and .. i have a huge crush on someone else and im soo tempted to cheat on him, but i just keep thinking about the quote '' never leave the one u love for the one u like becuz the one u like will leave u for the one they love '' and i feel as tho thats so true, however, get some sleep !! and eat !! shes not gonna want a sick one on her hands! remain healthy u will feel alot better. u have 2 take care of ur self first, and then vent to her, maybe have a convo. let her know ur feeling the same way she is and etc, best of luck <3
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when you dish out things carelessly, be prepared to accept the consequences...I am sorry you are hurting now, but this is what happens, and I would say the same thing if it were a girl saying the same story...if you don't want o hurt others, think before jumping into things..you can't have your cake and eat it too, as they say..
First is first, so let me start with one day when she comes home surprise her, clean the house, cook a nice dinner, light the candles, have a bubble bath waiting for her with the ambiance things you know rose petals strewn across the floor, nice soft music palying in the background, relax her, apologize, tell her what you did and why you did it, It many not "fix" things but atleast it will begin a dialogue, start the conversation about who, what and why. Women are more recpetive than the truth even if it hurts a little than if you keep telling one lie to cover up another lie. When you lie to us, it makes us feel like you are calling us stpid without saying the words.