When a counselor does the following?!


Question: In February I saw this (female) counselor once at my school because she wanted to talk to me about my depression, and thoughts of suicide. Then she asked my if I wanted a hug. I think its because she sensed the conversation was making me sad. (yea I said sure) When a counselor does that does that mean they are just trying to be comforting? I know this may sound like a stupid question, I just kind of want to know why she did that.


Answers: In February I saw this (female) counselor once at my school because she wanted to talk to me about my depression, and thoughts of suicide. Then she asked my if I wanted a hug. I think its because she sensed the conversation was making me sad. (yea I said sure) When a counselor does that does that mean they are just trying to be comforting? I know this may sound like a stupid question, I just kind of want to know why she did that.

I would say yes..sympathy..a typical mother type response. She probably has children of her own, and kind of went into that comforting mode that moms are used to being in. she could have also been trying to see how you took to the hug (to evaluate your metal state a bit)..or possibly a combo of the two things.

evaluation. if you were rejective or respondent to a good nature.

i think its mostly bc she wants u to know that ur not alone and she is always there if u need someone to talk to. so yes she's trying to comfort u and to help calm u down if ur getting really upset.

I think she did it as a "motherly" gesture- since your mom wasn't there to hug you and you probably looked like you needed a hug. Is it common? I don't think so....is it against school's policy? most likely. But MORE IMPORTANTLY are you still feeling suicidal because I KNOW this feeling comes and goes and you have no control over it.....please see a REAL counselor....call the mental health number or 911 now and ask for mental health counselor....they will assign a counselor to you....all privately- your parents will not know no matter what your age, and you will get to see a counselor- and most likely a psychiatrist and possibly get medication. THIS IS SERIOUS--my daughter attempted suicide with pills in 10th grade--my husband found her in time thank God, and since this was almost 10 years ago, we had to sign her into a mental health ward that had locked doors.......it was horrific for us and her but she left there a happy and mentally healthy person....we home schooled her for the rest of the year and summer and transfered her to a private school for the next year......the kids in that school was the problem....and thanks to the mental institution and help we got, we were able to get to the bottom of the problem and get her the help she needed.......please get the help you need before it's too late.

Don't be drawn in my any emotional gesture from a counsellor. At the end of the day she is a professional, as bad as it sounds, and does not really care how you feel and has no interest in comforting you, only protecting you and others and in the process hoping to help you through it somehow. The first answer had it spot on. Sorry, I suffer depression too and that's all counsellors do, they want to size you up, how you are with others and whether you pose a danger to anyone or yourself, its their only concern. It comes into counsellor training to form a 'bridge' or 'connection' and elevate a relationship to the next level by doing something 'physical' but acceptable, like 'a hug' or a 'hand shake' or a 'hand on the shoulder'. It's all quite plastic.

She was respecting your boundaries by ASKING if you wanted a hug.
I think it was purely to be comforting.





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