Second thoughts about seeing a counselor?!
Question: I just turned 14, I am in the 8th grade and I have to start seeing a counselor soon because mt mom wants me to. So I am going to see a counselor at my school (female) for my sadness, and other problems I have to have help work trough. I had no problem with this until I asked a question about 15 minutes ago. And some one told me that at the end of the day they really don't care about you, or how you feel and don't want to help. I am really offended by this. Is that true or not? I have seen this counselor around the school a few times and she seems really friendly and also came in to talk to our class one time. Should I just tell my mom that I shouldn't see someone? Because if counselors don't care I really don't want the help
Answers: I just turned 14, I am in the 8th grade and I have to start seeing a counselor soon because mt mom wants me to. So I am going to see a counselor at my school (female) for my sadness, and other problems I have to have help work trough. I had no problem with this until I asked a question about 15 minutes ago. And some one told me that at the end of the day they really don't care about you, or how you feel and don't want to help. I am really offended by this. Is that true or not? I have seen this counselor around the school a few times and she seems really friendly and also came in to talk to our class one time. Should I just tell my mom that I shouldn't see someone? Because if counselors don't care I really don't want the help
what that person told isn't True.. Of course the Counselor cares, that is why he/she chose to become a Counseling...Counseling is a very low paying job, so trust me when I tell you that the counselor cares because that is the only reason one would have such a job,,,and they care about you just as much at the end of the day as they do in the beginning.. I don't know who told you the counselor didn't care, that person sounds messed up in the head and serious in need of a counselor himself/herself....Go see the Counselor and best of luck to you! things will work out!! you will see!
Just go see her and talk to her. You'll know if she's genuinely concerned about your well-being. My guess would be that she is a counselor because she cares and wants to help.
i thought the same thing.....I was 13 when i saw my first school counselor. No I'm 14 in 8th grade like you and truley they help but only if you let them.
If you are who you say you are I know you'll be strong and make the right choice.
good luck.
you should continue to see the counselor especially if you think she is a nice person. some people on YA don't know what they are talking about and give wrong advise.
Hmmm. If you sat down and talked important personal stuff with someone once a week for a while, would you erase her from your mind the entire time in between when you saw her again? Probably not. Why would you think a counselor would do that? I don't believe it happens. In fact, I'm pretty sure they give a fair amount of thought to the people they are seeing in between times. I would. You probably would. Most people who are compassionate would, and most people who go into counseling are compassionate people.
On the other hand, some people who are put into counseling resent the whole experience and think negatively of the counselor regardless of how the counselor actually is. Go. Find out for yourself. Most likely the experience will be very good.
Hi, Their is a way to look at the world in a way that nobody really cares about you, and in a way that's true. If you think about it everybody really cares for themselves simply because they can't see inside of you. This should not be deppresing, it should be freeing!
As far as seeing a counselor; if you think about it their is no way in the world that it can be worse then not seeing someone, unless of course you decide not to fallow through, and then you could et stuck in between trying to fix yourself and you will be stuck with all of the hurt that you uncovered!
In my opinion everybody in the world should see a therapist! Even if they don't care about you, because verbelizing what is bothring you not only makes you more aware of the problems, but it also makes you aware of things you didn't know was inside you and possibely causing you pain!
It is extreemly healthy to speak to someone, anyone, especially someone who is trained to listen to you!
I strongly suggest that you go through with it, it will only make you stronger!!!
I am currently seeing someone, and I have been for most of my life, and I truly don't know where I would be without it. And just this week, just from talking for a little bit with my social worker, I uncovered something that is so so so immportent for me. And I think you will find it helpful, even if your freinds think it's weird, you will come out stronger then them!!!
Go ahead and see the counselor, I don't believe that they don't care. They do care, thats why they do what they do.
I can't imagine what someone would tell you that, have they ever been to see this counselor? If not, how would they know?
And people go to see counselors looking for quick easy answers...and it doesn't work that way. First they have to find out how you feel about different things going on in your life, and make suggestions about what you think you shoud do , they don't shove answers down your throat, give it a chance, andf see for yourself if it works for you
There are always going to be counselors who care and some who do not. You must follow your own feelings with each one. I recommend that you do go and talk with your school counselor. From what you have described she sounds as if she does care. I am a counselor myself and see many clients. I care and I want to help each and every person that comes into my clinic and as many other people as I can in this world. I was abused in childhood my own self in several ways and this reason is why that I chose counseling as my profession. I have met many other counselors who are only in it for the money, others only to have a job and then some who honestly do care and desire to help. So, please, go on and talk with her. Once you go, you can "feel" if a person is sincere or not. Also, you may want to do something that I myself have Always done (years ago when I went to different counselors). You have a right to ask a counselor anything that you wish. When you first go in, ask her why she chose counseling as her profession. This will help to ease your mind and to know more if she is sincere or not.
Why are they counselors? Because it's their job. What is the point of a job? To get paid. No they do not care at the end of the day. They have their own lives to worry about. But dont stress that. Their job is not to care, but to listen and try to help. Go to a counselor. You just need someone to listen to you. It'll work out.
dont have second thoughts. i saw one today for the first time and you have no idea how good it feels to let your issues out. It is untrue, they really do want to help, thats why they studied to become councillor/psychologists.
in the past i have also seen how counselling helps some of my patients and their families. If you are commited it will work
i really recommend it!!
wow thats very untrue school counsalors are very nice they really do care about their students (generaly speaking) but they don't have a phd (DR.) so they might not be able to help you with the maybe mental part... (not saying your retarded i'm saying maybe your
clinicly depressed. many people have it.) so you shouldn't think twice about seeing her and if you don't want your friends to know you can go after school or early... good luck