Parental neglect help????!
Question: I know a girl that has a dad that cheated on her mom and (which he got the other girl pregnant). He never pays any attention to her or her sister but paid attention to her brothers. My questions are there theses:
1) What could the be possible side affect of this parental neglect?
2) Can a person have a viable relationship with a girl like this?
3) What is her mindset ??
4) Is fear of love (or emotional attachment) common in these cases??
5) Is sexual promiscuity common??
Answers: I know a girl that has a dad that cheated on her mom and (which he got the other girl pregnant). He never pays any attention to her or her sister but paid attention to her brothers. My questions are there theses:
1) What could the be possible side affect of this parental neglect?
2) Can a person have a viable relationship with a girl like this?
3) What is her mindset ??
4) Is fear of love (or emotional attachment) common in these cases??
5) Is sexual promiscuity common??
1. Everything from the obvious - abandonment issues - to depression to OCD to higher risk of suicide. OR No issues at all!
2. Yes, but remember that she may have trust/abandonment issues. Be patient with her.
3. Her mind will tell her that you will cheat on her and/or abandon her. OR she may have no problems at all.
4. Absolutely!
5. Sometimes. She could be looking for that love that she didn't receive in unhealthy ways, or quite the opposite could be true - she may never want to open up for fear of abandonment.
4. as someone who has 'cases' ~ if she was already seeing a doctor she'll kn that it's easy to get 'attached', it's the FEAR of 'leaving' her (from her child hood).
2. maybe getting to know her as a friend first and show her that you are there to support her ~ read information for your self of mental illness , depression, self esteem , take time with her and you might just be the happest.
1.maybe?not sure
Going down the list of your questions as follows . . .
1) What could the be possible side affect of this parental neglect? She will have a dual mindset about men. She will be drawn to men to seek the love she didn't get from Dad, but she will also have a hatred and mistrust of men due to the neglect and the cheating. She will fear emotional intimacy because she put her heart out there for the guy who mattered most and he stomped on it. She will want to make sure she never feels that way again, and the best way (in her mind) is to simply not connect emotionally with guys.
2) Can a person have a viable relationship with a girl like this? Not without psychotherapy. If she admits she needs help that is a good sign. If she feels like it hasn't affected her and/or that she doesn't need help that's a bad sign.
3) What is her mindset ?? I'd have to know more specifics, but probably confused, probably downplaying what this has done to her mentally.
4) Is fear of love (or emotional attachment) common in these cases?? Most definitely. They often have many short-term relationships that she will sabatoge once it starts to get emotionally intimate.
5) Is sexual promiscuity common?? Yes, because it's less likely to become emotionally initimate, which probably terrifies her.