My dad is dying ! cant cope:( please help me!x?!


Question: my dad is in a care home and has alzehimers if you duno what that is its a mental health illness
today my mum had a call saying he is VERY ill and 2 prepare for the worst:(
i cant cope as i was sooo close 2 him!
what can i do 2 help me?
:(


Answers: my dad is in a care home and has alzehimers if you duno what that is its a mental health illness
today my mum had a call saying he is VERY ill and 2 prepare for the worst:(
i cant cope as i was sooo close 2 him!
what can i do 2 help me?
:(

I feel for you. I just went through this with my mother. Waiting can be the worst part. Keep it in your mind that he will no longer be suffering when he goes. Let yourself mourn freely if that's what you need to do. Hold tight to the memories you have of him in health. Pull out your pictures and remember the best. If you're too far away to visit him, just talk to him now like he's in the room.

While you're waiting for that call, spoil yourself a bit. Take a bubble bath. Read. Watch your favorite movie. Try to get your mind off it. You'll have time to fully grieve with your family. If you do need to grieve now, let it out and don't fight it, but pamper yourself right now. Do what feels good since you know you have some hard times coming.

When you're with your family, draw on their strength and share yours. It's painful for everyone, but families join together at times like this because the group provides a strength that the individual usually can't summon. Maybe if you can get to your mother's now, you'll both feel better.

I'm hoping u have some beliefs and faith (preferably in God) ask him for the strength you will need to cope. Also, remind urself that ur dad will be much more comfortable and happy where he is going. The ones that are left suffering are us.

I am so sorry for your pain. I too am very close to my dad and cant imagine losing him, but I am also a nurse and have stood at the bedside with many families while their loved ones are dying. Try to focus on the good times, dont focus on how your dad is now. With the alzheimers he is not the man you love and remember. The pain of losing him will take a very long time to weaken, it will never completely go away but day by day it will hurt less and less. Please take care of yourself and your mother.

Visit him, if you can. Tell him anything you need to tell him, and try to make it easier for him as well. Try to remember his LIFE, and mourn his death without losing yourself in it.

I'm sorry for your pain. If you need to talk, feel free to contact me.

I am with you in your anguish, pray to God to be with all of you at this hour. Give you strengtht and him the happiness of being your father.

go to therapy asap and just mourn but go visit him and enjoy the last moments you have together

I am so sorry. It is terrible to lose the most deare people. But it is life beyond us makes us lonly. Pray and wait a piece

Your pain sends a chill up my spine. I've been there with the same disease. My dad died a year ago (April 12) in a nursing home. I had seen him a few months beforehand. So, when I found out he was in a home, I tried to bring him here with me; he refused because he wanted to be near his (third) wife. On the phone, and since then, I remember the good (sometimes bad) times we had together. I imagine him being with me when I go out to the park or shopping as if he were with me. I fabricate dreams of him and me having a good time somewhere. Slowly, my strong feelings for him, my dreams, my imaginings, have faded away. Now and then, he enters my mind before he slips off to wherever he is now. Try doing the same with your dad.

My father, too, died from this disease. Although we were enemies most of our lives because he abused me in every way, I was there for him in the end. I was the only child out of 9 who came to his bed upon his death. It was so extremely difficult for me. He didn't know me in the end and he was still abusive even then. But I did what I could to help him. Yes, they are ill, very ill. We are their children. Regardless of what they have done to us, we still love them. My very best to you, as I can't give you much move advice on this topic. Be well, my dear friend.

You are grieving which is very normal for losing someone who is important to you. There is no way to take away that feeling. It takes time. Find people to talk to about your dad. It is okay to cry. Think about him and the things that made him important to you. Remember the times with him. In time the hurt lessens. It is very slow. If you don't have people to talk to, find a grief support group in your community.





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