Could this be the depression??? please help..?!
Question: i can't explain how i feel. lately i feel like i can't feel at all. i've thought i felt this way a while but lately i just..its like things that make me cry arn't. and then later on i will feel it. i just feel ..again i wish i can describe it but i can't. im so worked up and axious. i can't calm down. i've been cutting 4 a year. im really depressed and nothing seems to go right. but i seem to be handling things differently. does anyone know what im trying to say...can you explain to me what i should do...how can i calm down. how can i stop remembering all the bad and just move on...im not even in school and its in the back of my mind and i get nervous! why the heck does that happen? its like im thinking about things that are in the past like they are happening right now! im so tired...so burnt out...please give me a nice comment to help me feel better. i really need it. also do u know that feeling when u have a cold and u know it and u want it to go away thats how i feel a lot.
Answers: i can't explain how i feel. lately i feel like i can't feel at all. i've thought i felt this way a while but lately i just..its like things that make me cry arn't. and then later on i will feel it. i just feel ..again i wish i can describe it but i can't. im so worked up and axious. i can't calm down. i've been cutting 4 a year. im really depressed and nothing seems to go right. but i seem to be handling things differently. does anyone know what im trying to say...can you explain to me what i should do...how can i calm down. how can i stop remembering all the bad and just move on...im not even in school and its in the back of my mind and i get nervous! why the heck does that happen? its like im thinking about things that are in the past like they are happening right now! im so tired...so burnt out...please give me a nice comment to help me feel better. i really need it. also do u know that feeling when u have a cold and u know it and u want it to go away thats how i feel a lot.
First of all I want to let you know that you are not alone. You are still a great person that has a lot of potential, however you are in need of some help right now.
Yes, it sounds exactly like depression and maybe a bit of anxiety. In order to get past all the memories of the bad and get on with your life, you need professional help.
I believe a psychiatrist and a therapist would do wonders for you. A psychiatrist can help you by evaluating and diagnosing the depression and/or anxiety if that is what you have, or maybe something else. They can also prescribe medications that can help treat your illness and it can really change your life in a positive way. I also suggest therapy, because in therapy you can work on the issues and bad memories that haunt you so that you can get past them. You can also receive help in learning ways to handle your stress too.
To relax, try deep breathing, listening to music, a hot bath or other things that you find relaxing. Keep in mind that this too shall pass.
I strongly suggest that you make an appointment with your doctor as soon as you can. They can make sure there is nothing physical causing this and refer you to a psychiatrist.
You don't deserve to suffer like this, no one does. There is hope in your future. Please take that first step and make an appointment with your doctor. You are worth it!
Take care and many blessings to you!
Michelle
how about therapy?
that may help you tremendously.
it did for my friend and she's doing really well now:)
This is depression, but it's not that deep. THERAPY AND COUNSLING WILL MAKE IT WORSE-they will make youifeel like your 'special' in a bad way, and make you feel even worse. the best way to solve it is to start dating, make new friends, get involved in sports, workout, and the list goes on, which your 'depression' will be stuck in a cornor, unnoticed
Yes, that could be depression, or lots of other things. The important thing is that you need someone to help you. Asking questions here is a good start -- that shows that you want help, even if it's hard to reach out for it. You're not alone, as much as you might feel like it. But no one here can really help you. Find a good therapist -- someone to talk to, who can help you figure out why you feel this way and maybe how you might start to get through it. You don't have to do it alone.
Good luck -- better days will come. The light at the end of the tunnel doesn't HAVE to be a train.
OK HONESTLY I HAVE ASKED THIS ? TOO I AM 14 & GOING THREW THE SAME THING U GOTTA LET YOUR NERVES CALM BUT AS THOSE NERVES ARE CALMING IT IS SENDING A SIGNAL TO YOUR BRAIN WITCH MAKES U THINK ABOUT THIS STUFF MORE WOULD I TRY TOO DO IS STAY BUSY,GO FOR WALKS,TALK TO FRIENDS & FAMILY & IF U DONT HAVE MUCH TRY IN FIND A HOBBY THAT U LIKE DOING THE MOST EAT HEALTHY IF NONE OF THESE WORK U MAY BE CRAZY & NEED TOO GO TO THE HOSPITAL HONESTLY IM NOT IN SCHOOL EITHER & THAT HAS TAKEN A BIG PART OF MY BRAIN I CANT WAIT TOO GO BACK TO SCHOOL WELL GOOD LUCK CAUSE IT SEEMS WERE GOING THREW THE SAME PROBLEM !
-EXCUSE THE WAY I WRITE ITS A HABBIT
There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only 10 minutes to each.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.
I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. ~~~ how can i stop remembering all the bad and just move on... A TECHNIQUE FOR REPROGRAMMING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: (ALSO SEE PAGE L, IN THIS SECTION): It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get the hang of this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large, flashing "STOP!" SIGN, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic". In the case of an image, visualise a large, red "STOP" sign. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. ~~~ how can i calm down. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself".
You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the gazing. Yoga, or Tai Chi may suit others, better. For some people, visualisation of a quiet, relaxing scene, like a tropical beach, (feel the sun warming you, as a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, sandy beach, as the seagulls swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky; you feel just like one of them; free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide, in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever.....) works well for them.
Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, replacing 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements, or a teaspoonful of the oil (I spread mine on toast, and mask its strong taste with fishpaste, and pepper), in the winter months only. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve. Eat healthily, in accordance with your "nutritional type" as determined at http://www.mercola.com/ SEARCHBAR.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea (from supermarket tea aisles) from Celestial Seasonings, or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes", which later deplete you of energy. Minimise/eliminate consumption of highly processed foods, particularly grain products, such as white bread, donuts, cake, cookies/biscuits, or anything with sugar. Opt for more wholefoods, non-starchy vegetables, and fruit. ~~~ See self harm, in secti