Is this person a coward...or admirable?!
Question: You know someone who would put her own hurt, frustrations and anger aside and bottle them up in order to avoid:
1.) Hurting someone's feelings
2.) Adding to someone's stress during a crucial time
3.) Ruining a big even in someone's else's life
Would you see this person (who suppresses their own feelings to avoid the above) as a coward...or someone who is admirable?
Answers: You know someone who would put her own hurt, frustrations and anger aside and bottle them up in order to avoid:
1.) Hurting someone's feelings
2.) Adding to someone's stress during a crucial time
3.) Ruining a big even in someone's else's life
Would you see this person (who suppresses their own feelings to avoid the above) as a coward...or someone who is admirable?
That is someone who is admirable. Putting your own anger and frustrations aside for those reasons is a very unselfish, caring thing to do. I would admire anyone who can do that. The person is not a coward, they are simply being considerate of another person. However, it would help to vent to someone unrelated to the circumstances, such as a counselor or friend you can trust. Otherwise you may find yourself saying the wrong things at the wrong time to the wrong person.
I think it's admirable. You don't always have to say something because you think it.
If you pick your battles they will mean more to you & the person your confronting.
Besides, it shows self restraint which a lot of people these days lack.
A ticking time bomb with noble intentions is still a ticking time bomb.
Neither. I see that person as coping with their problems in an unhealthy manner. It takes a very strong person to do that and not suffer ill effects on their mental health in the long run. It is admirable they wish to spare other people's feelings and circumstances, but at some point they're going to think "hey what about me?".
She has just as much right to offload their problems onto these stressed out people as they do to offload it on her! Some people dont have the insight or understanding to recognise suffering in others, it's important for people to express how they're grievances to let off steam and not end up feeling isolated, dealing with everything on their own.
Neither. I would call them silly though - there are other options than bottling up or blurting out. Perhaps she could talk to someone else about the situation rather than the person involved.
We are all so very different of course and there really can't be only one good way but I personally think of this person as a good and decent human being.
So often people put their own needs in front of others and mostly because we are basically a selfish society. How refreshing when someone can be like this for their friends and family.
it depends. is this something that person does ALL the time? or just occasionally? if only occasionally then i'd probably admire him/her, but if he/she is usually like that then i'd say that person is not only a coward buy also a hypocrite asking for people's pitty.
Depends entirely upon the details of the situation.