I have a serious issue and need some serious help and don't know where to tu!
Question: I am now admitting that I am a pathalogicial liar. I don't lie about other people , but about myslef and mylife, maybe to make it more intresting. I hat myself and I don't want that to show so I lie about myself and life to make it seem better then it is. I lie about bad things that have happened to me so i can see that someone cares. Almost to the point of believeing myself and my own lies.I have no family near me and my friends don't really know me all they know is my lies. I need help cause I have serious thoughts of suiside and I don't know where to turn. I tell my family everything is fine, but its not. I am admitting that i need help , but I don't know where to get it ... What should I do?
Answers: I am now admitting that I am a pathalogicial liar. I don't lie about other people , but about myslef and mylife, maybe to make it more intresting. I hat myself and I don't want that to show so I lie about myself and life to make it seem better then it is. I lie about bad things that have happened to me so i can see that someone cares. Almost to the point of believeing myself and my own lies.I have no family near me and my friends don't really know me all they know is my lies. I need help cause I have serious thoughts of suiside and I don't know where to turn. I tell my family everything is fine, but its not. I am admitting that i need help , but I don't know where to get it ... What should I do?
Everyone lies sometimes, and there are lots of people out there who have the same problem as you, as in lying a lot. So don't think your alone, there are plenty of people who are experiencing what you are. I suggest going to someone who you really trust the most, and telling them about your problem. They will listen, and you will feel much better after talking about it. If you don't want to do that, go see a doctor or someone like that. They can help you, it's their job. And don't think of suicide!! There are things much worse than this, and you've got plenty of time to change your ways about lying. I hope you overcome this obstacle in your life!
well, coming here isn't the answer. i don't understand that. you need to speak to a doctor. now.
You're definitely not alone. I'm a compulsive liar, I lie when I feel the urge to. Sometimes it's small, sometimes it's a HUGE lie. I don't know how to help, since I have a similar problem myself, but just know that you're not alone. And NEVER think of suicide. If you need someone to talk to, don't be hesitant to IM me. :]
If you are suicidal you should considering calling a suicide help line or going to a hospital. You definitely need counseling and someone to help you see that you are worthy of being cared about for who you are. Good luck.
Yes, this is serious and you need to start working with a therapist to understand this apparent need to reinvent yourself to fit an image you think you need to create for other to accept you. No-one likes or trust a liar, no matter your motivations, and this bad habit will get you in trouble in any number of situations: social, at work, at school, etc, etc. By the way if you think your friends believe your lies, you may be wrong. Try just being who you are - some people will like you, others will not and you won't spend so much energy figuring out which lies you told to whom, etc, etc. Truly, honesty is the best policy.
Yahoo Answers is not the place to go if you are thinking about suicide. There are some mean people on here that just like to tear people down. You need to get help from a professional ASAP. Once you do, you will realize there is nothing wrong with asking for help. I would talk to your parents first. They love you and are willing to help. If you can't talk to your parents talk to a school counselor. Asking for help is the first step, now you need to go and ask the right people.
First thing, go to the hospital. I admitted myself into the hospital when I thought I wanted to die.
Tell them what's going on. You will be placed into the Mental Health Ward, where you will be assigned a Dr. and nursing staff that can help you.
My first stay was 2 weeks. My second stay was 1 week. Do all the classes that they give you. They are free. You will learn about your reasons for why you lie, and how to stop it.
When you are released from the hospital, find a Christian Counselor. If you don't go to church, start. It's the best thing.
I beat depression. If I can, you can. I'm pulling for you.
Don't tell your family, or anyone, that things are fine when they are not. You are valuable enough that Jesus died for you. You do not need to make anything up. Commit to being honest about what you are feeling and seek after professional help. If you are not insured, then look up the Dept of Health and Human services for the county you live in.
Also, I know that prayer can really help.
Take care.
Pathalogical lying is a way of seeking approval from others, as well as attention, or "unconditional" love. How's your home life? Do you find it easy to open up to them or difficult? Do you come from a large family, where attention might be focused on other things/people? That could be 1 reason, right there. When you do tell a lie, do you feel proud of yourself for getting away with it? Do you get a "rush" from getting away with it?That could your brain misinterpretating this as a good thing, therefore when you lie, it feels "good', I was an expert on lying as a teen..now I think I have lying under control. Which means that I'll never be dishonest if it affects me or anyone else in a negative way. If it's something like my friend looks like crap, & she asks me if she looks good, & I'll say "Yes, yes you do.." I know I lied, but it doesn't hurt her feelings, lol. I've read that people with psychotic personalities are patholgical liars, but really, aren't we ALL a bit "psychotic" sometimes, & ALL LIARS AS WELL? & if any1 says they never lied a day in their life-they're LYING. lol! When you tell a lie, write it down in a journal, diary, etc. Then write down what motivated you to tell the lie, & how you feel about it, etc. Figure out what motivates you to lie about things in the 1st place. P.S..
& stop lying..:) "The truth shall set you free..."
You should go to see a counselor, preferably (in my opinion) a Christian counselor. Ask for a referral from a local church or look up possibilities in the phone book and find out more about them.
I also suggest you read this book, and/or listen to the audio-book: "How to Overcome Fear and Live Your Life to the Fullest" by Marcos Witt.
One way you can begin to counteract your habit of lying is by forcing yourself to confess the truth to someone after you lie to them. Naturally, that is both embarrassing and unpleasant, which will help serve as a deterrent for you in the future. It will be difficult, but you can do it if you keep your focus on the value of telling the truth and living free of deception.
It really is better to live without lying. Lying is a life of fear and personal insecurity, and you obviously don't really want that. Lying is a method of hiding. Let people see the real you. You don't have to be perfect--nobody is!
You don't have to pretend to be different from who you really are in order to have friends. You don't have to have a better life or a worse life to make people interested in you and like you. You can just be you. That's good enough. God liked you enough to make you! Everyone has weaknesses, but God makes everybody different for a reason. You don't have to try to be somebody else.
I recommend you watch Joel Osteen, who is a very uplifting Christian speaker.
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