Depression ?!
Question: I had life smack me in the face yesterday. A lifelong battle with my parapelegic father culminated. I hadn't spoken to him in about a year and a half, after him saying hurtful things.
Well yesterday, my oldest brother told me that dad is in the hospital, basically dying.
I went to se him today, I can't really explain the way I feel about it. He's 6'5 and weighs less than me (112) He looks so sick.
I mean I walked in the room and he was laying there with a blanket covering his whole body and face....talk about disturbing.
All the while in the past few days, my boyfriend has decided to fight with me at every opportunity possible. My best friend and I are fighting....Just everything, term papers, and.....yeah...life
I'm normally such a happy person, but I feel so depressed, I have never felt this way before, just sureal, and sad. Like my whole body is sad, I don't want to do anything, regular everyday things feel like the hugest tasks.
Is this what depression is?
Answers: I had life smack me in the face yesterday. A lifelong battle with my parapelegic father culminated. I hadn't spoken to him in about a year and a half, after him saying hurtful things.
Well yesterday, my oldest brother told me that dad is in the hospital, basically dying.
I went to se him today, I can't really explain the way I feel about it. He's 6'5 and weighs less than me (112) He looks so sick.
I mean I walked in the room and he was laying there with a blanket covering his whole body and face....talk about disturbing.
All the while in the past few days, my boyfriend has decided to fight with me at every opportunity possible. My best friend and I are fighting....Just everything, term papers, and.....yeah...life
I'm normally such a happy person, but I feel so depressed, I have never felt this way before, just sureal, and sad. Like my whole body is sad, I don't want to do anything, regular everyday things feel like the hugest tasks.
Is this what depression is?
Nope, this is just what a whole bunch of horrible things happening at once is.
Each problem you have is causing you stress but each one will resolve itself in time. Most in a short time.
You will need to grieve for your father.
You'll get past term papers.
Your best friend needs a kick in the butt for not being supportive right now. Tell them they can dump on you all they like next month but you can't handle it now and if they don't start acting like a best friend you need some space.
Your boyfriend may just hate that you are sad and in pain right now and be unable to cope. Guys like to fix problems and he can't fix any of yours. Or he's just an insensitive jerk. I'm a guy and most of us do not relate to our own feelings very well never mind helping a girlfriend with hers.
Some Advice: Tell your dad you love him and forgive him for everything he even thinks he's ever done wrong (even if you don't fake it - it won't kill you). You won't have as large a burden to carry in the future if you do that.
If you really can't push your problems aside and do a good job on your term papers then go to the school and see if they can take some pressure off by giving you a deferral. You'd be surprised how flexible they can be if you ask nicely and have legitimate reasons (Dying father versus the dog ate my homework).
As they say, chin up and soldier on. Life will return to normal and get better over time :~)
No, that's the blues.
sort of.. you'll get through it tho take everthing 1 step at a time
clinically i don't think so, anybody would be depressed in your situation. hold on honey, you'll make it thru this!
depression is more long term. But you are facing some seriously stressful events that can cause depression. I would suggest that you talk to a counselor at your school or college or maybe someone in a church...like a pastor. They can help you work through what you're feeling and thinking and help you come up with some good strategies to manage all of your stress.
This does not sound like clinical depression, but it does sound like that you could still benefit from talking about your feelings and problems with a counselor. Often times, talking through problems with someone who is trained in these situations, and who can give advice on many remedies, (both medicinal and otherwise). Best of luck!
I would say yes, on a very very low level. The thing to remmeber is life will always smack you in the face the important thing is to get back up && if you can't, get help! Btw if your feeling deprressed itll passs, no need to take antidepressants, fairly simple they aren't goood for you && shouold be used only if having real severe depression && you don't have that, what you have will pass with time. Good Luck, stay positive!
I think you are feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. Make peace with your Dad. You'll feel better and be able to deal better emotionally with your boyfriend and friend.
You are having a normal reaction to hugely stressful and painful events. If you still feel the same way 6 months down the road, that would be depression. Take it from someone who watched her mom die 3 months ago. Distance yourself from unhelpful people in the meantime and focus on your dad as much as you can as his time is limited here and you will always wish you had spent more with him while you had the chance.
The way you feel are the symptoms of depression.
However, it is completely normal for anybody who is going through what you have gone through recently to be feeling this way. This isn't clinical depression, its a natural response to what is going on in your life.
The only thing that will heal this is time. If you feel so bad that you can't cope, then see a doctor, they should be able to prescribe something just to get you through this rough period.
Best wishes, I hope the future holds more positive times for you!
No that is normal. Chronic Depression is when you are sad for no reason. You have a reason. Anytime someone you know is sick or dying, or when something traumatic happens in your life (which it will) a person will feel 'sad', that is a normal reaction to a normal condition. Your friends should be supportive, especially your boyfriend, well maybe vice versa on that one..you need your family at this time. I would distance myself from your friends and surround yourself with family that loves you and that you can talk to, maybe even a school teacher you feel especially close to, someone older than your peers, as they may never have experienced what you are going through, but someone older has. You sound like a very caring person, hang in there, you will soon be a happy person again, but it may get worse before it does get better, but I guarantee it will get better in time. Time is a great healer of all things. Try and make peace with him, forgiveness is very important. Best of luck honey. Please stay away from any antidepressants, at your age they do not work the same.