I am depressed as hell?!


Question: Ive been destroyed in life ive been through a big downfall that started in 2005 and still keeps going like in 1994-2004 I was happy then but in 2005 through currents Ive been living hell I lost so many people that cared for me and they will never care about me again ive been abused by my stepmom or dad because of them drinking but i left to my moms i had a HOTTTTTT girlfreind 4 a day but then called me and broke up w/ me on the 1st day then i dated someone 4 3 weeks when she broke up w/ me she never talked to me I dont even think ill have a gf 4 a while and I will never have my dad break up with my bitchy stepmom who got him drunk all the time i think my mom and whole family hates me i think i should die because im worthless and depressed i have no idea wat 2 do
Oh and im not emo at all i went through that before


Answers: Ive been destroyed in life ive been through a big downfall that started in 2005 and still keeps going like in 1994-2004 I was happy then but in 2005 through currents Ive been living hell I lost so many people that cared for me and they will never care about me again ive been abused by my stepmom or dad because of them drinking but i left to my moms i had a HOTTTTTT girlfreind 4 a day but then called me and broke up w/ me on the 1st day then i dated someone 4 3 weeks when she broke up w/ me she never talked to me I dont even think ill have a gf 4 a while and I will never have my dad break up with my bitchy stepmom who got him drunk all the time i think my mom and whole family hates me i think i should die because im worthless and depressed i have no idea wat 2 do
Oh and im not emo at all i went through that before

life sucks...theres nothing you can do except wait for what comes to be...do good in school and do something with your life...then you can finally get out of there and be free...for your girl problem...wait till you get your mind organized...focus on friends more

Ok, I get that you're not emo and I get that you're depressed and suicidal. I do understand. That said, how long are you planning to swim in the pity pool? Because this is all about you, huh? There are things you can do to help yourself: are you going to do them? Or are you just going to bathe in how depressed you are and how awful your life is?

Because I don't want to waste my time giving you advice to turn your life around -- and you can do that -- but I won't say it if you're just enjoying your misery and don't want to change it.

you need to get over the past and think about the possibilities the future will bring for u. If u continue being depressed it will simply get you nowhere and u will fall further into depression. Dont let others bring u down, be strong, u will be fine, there are plenty of people in the world who have been through a lot more than you have and they have battled through it and are stronger and better people for it :) cheer up!!! If u continue being depressed u will never get a girlfriend, noone wants to be with a downer!

Welcome to life.

just do it. you obviously made up your mind. Dont be a wuss. I hate it when people bark but dont bite. I have gone thru the gnarliest stuff as a child. sucks. oh well. pick your nuts up move on. if i were a girl i wouldnt date you either. if she wanted a sally, she would be a lesbian. Straight girls want a man, someone solid. And how can you try to love someone else if you dont even like yourself. Just do it.

i hate my dads fiancee as well...thats why im trying to get my mom to get full custody of me

life can be a *****....I get it...but you have to pick yourself up again

No matter what a Mom never EVER stops loving her children. We may not be happy with their choices, we may not approve of their lifestyles but we CANNOT stop loving.

Im not sure of your age, nor is that my business, but as far as the girlfriend part goes, trust me, there will ALWAYS be more....and someday the perfect one will come across your path.

See when we are young we dont get why we hurt so bad. We feel like if "god" (or whatever higher power you believe in) loved us...they wouldnt HURT us so much - especailly in so many areas of our lives (such as GF, parents, drinking, et etc)...but what is REALLY happening is ..you are MEANT to experience those things. Mainly to educate you, to make you stronger and so you can act from them.

For instance. I had twins at 23 years old. One baby died in my tummy...and I had to carry her and her identical sister for months more. I prepared for the birth of my daughter every second, thinking how would i tell her about her sister.... I was so careful and so excited. My daughter only lived 2 days! I held her while she was dying and I couldnt understand why GOD (or whomever) would put me through all that. I had all the baby stuff, I had JUST lost her sister...and made it through that..etc.... How could LIFE be so cruel...

It took me YEARS to realize, I wasnt meant to have that life. My husband at the time was a lying cheating & abusive man.... if my daughter had lived, she wouldve been special needs - VERY much so.... maybe "life or god" knew that I would end up alone (because he was cheating, etc) and felt that raising such a sick little girl wouldve been too much for me...so she was takin before i went through even more pain???

Whatever the reason, my point is this....everything EVEN THE MOST PAINFUL things happen for a reason. You need to take it in and someday realize you will find out why.

In the meanwhile you do need to smile and enjoy life. Its not an overnight fix....and Im not implying its easy. Please talk to a professional, reach out to your Mom.... you may be surprised.....or other family & friends. Build a safety net of SUPPORTIVE loving people.

DOnt do anything stupid....remember you may need to help someone else someday (possibly soon) ...and you are here for a purpose...so dont be so quick to check out so soon.....stick it out... I bet you will be glad you got through all this.

You are NOT worthless, you are going through very hard times. You can get better, start NOW!

Hugs!!!

p.s. im now 29 with 3 healthy kids and a much nicer hubby....lol ....so its like that country song (thank god for unanswered prayers)...

Start or increase your exercise. Talk long walks. Spend significant time outside. Alter your diet. Fruit, fruit, fruit, dairy, and veggies. Place as little stress on your digestive system and it will positively affect your other areas. Water noise usually has a calming, soothing effect in a mind. What is something no one can take away from you? Where could you establish an oasisi for yourself where no one can hurt you or exercise negativity (rose/botanical garden, zoo, calm river) I wish you well!

There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.

Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only 10 minutes to each.

Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.

I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).

If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.

Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.

They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.

If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. ~~~ See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you . Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself". ~~~
1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.

2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.

3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.

4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career.

5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)

6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.

7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Mordecai? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Mordecai, Where are you from, originally?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS.]

8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice



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