Is this a sign of sexual aversion disorder? ..advice?!


Question: This will sound pathetic, but I don't care. The other day I was looking at my boyfriend's phone (and don't yell at me for that; I've punished myself enough) and I found some interesting text messages. He's been talking to this girl a lot. I have no idea who she is, but a lot of their messages involve me. He tells her how he lusts for me. He asked her what sex is like. He admitted to her things about me that turn him on, and that [at least] once, he had an erection while I was with him and I didn't notice. And his parents bought him condoms. I think there was more, but just reading those rendered my inability to think properly. Perhaps since I'm a virgin it's normal to feel strangely about reading that, but I believe my reaction was altogether too severe. I freaked out. I had a panic attack. I wouldn't look at him or touch him without flinching. I was shaking and scaring everyone around me. I was repulsed. Disgusted.Nauseous.I'm not a doctor obviously, but that seems pretty weird to me.

Answers: This will sound pathetic, but I don't care. The other day I was looking at my boyfriend's phone (and don't yell at me for that; I've punished myself enough) and I found some interesting text messages. He's been talking to this girl a lot. I have no idea who she is, but a lot of their messages involve me. He tells her how he lusts for me. He asked her what sex is like. He admitted to her things about me that turn him on, and that [at least] once, he had an erection while I was with him and I didn't notice. And his parents bought him condoms. I think there was more, but just reading those rendered my inability to think properly. Perhaps since I'm a virgin it's normal to feel strangely about reading that, but I believe my reaction was altogether too severe. I freaked out. I had a panic attack. I wouldn't look at him or touch him without flinching. I was shaking and scaring everyone around me. I was repulsed. Disgusted.Nauseous.I'm not a doctor obviously, but that seems pretty weird to me.
i woulda got sick too...for him to be discussing this with another woman, is really disrespectful, and also sexually enticing to her...i don't know what he is thinking,..but he shouldn't be discussing YOU with anyone else...least alone another girl...i don't blame you for being sick...it is betrayal, as far as i am concerned.
I thank you, and totally understand! *its an invasion of privacy!) Report It

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    • No - it is a normal reaction.
    your boyfriend sounds pathetic. you have every reason to be angry. discussing you sexually and being very explicit-ed. also i think your a very private person am may have contributed to your panic attacks.
    If this is your boyfriend, I doubt his feelings are all that strong toward you. But not a screwed up teenager, just a boy with "strong hormonal feelings".
    If anything i think he should have never told another person let alone another female besides you of his feelings. I'm guessing that is just what boys his age think i cant speak for guys so hey. but also i think you should tell him if he is as sweet as you say he is then he should understand, him thinking it is something else can really ruin the relationship more than it already is. So your reaction yeah kind of dramatic but im not you so whether you tell him or not it is your boyfriend and you are the one disgusted with the way he thinks of you or what he said.
    IGNORE ITand your friend also


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