Suicidal thoughts??!
Question: I'm having suicidal thoughts..like how, when etc. I dont want to go see a professional or anything becuse i cant (no time to explain why or anything). So please dont suggest that. I don't want to be thinking about this anymore and need to just stop what im thinking. Ive been unhappy for a few months now and have been self harming for years(..people who dont know/understand this please dont answer) but ive talked to a friend that i cant talk to about everything..just not this. Just what can i do to make things better...im do sick of feeling like this!! My life isnt all that bad i just feel down a lot and dont know what to do to make me better! It just all gets too much! Any help appretiated????
Answers: I'm having suicidal thoughts..like how, when etc. I dont want to go see a professional or anything becuse i cant (no time to explain why or anything). So please dont suggest that. I don't want to be thinking about this anymore and need to just stop what im thinking. Ive been unhappy for a few months now and have been self harming for years(..people who dont know/understand this please dont answer) but ive talked to a friend that i cant talk to about everything..just not this. Just what can i do to make things better...im do sick of feeling like this!! My life isnt all that bad i just feel down a lot and dont know what to do to make me better! It just all gets too much! Any help appretiated????
The thoughts and feelings you are having could be more than just because of how your life is...you can have a great life and still have these thoughts, because sometimes depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in you mind that you can't really fix without medicine.
However, if you can, you can see your school counselor. It is free and confidential and right at your school...and they might be able to help.
It that isn't an option either then you need to identify the things in your life that are causing you to feel this way.
Imagine your depression and suicidal thoughts as a shadow, and imagine good thoughts as sunlight.
The sun is always shining, so how you get a shadow? You put something in the way of the sunlight, the good thoughts. You need to identify the elements in your life that are CAUSING the saddness (I wish I could use italics on here...).
Once you identify all of the bad things write them down. Try to think of ways that you can get rid of them.
Also, think really really hard about everything you like and everything you love, and write them down...no matter how small or insignificant they seem. Even if it is just a food you love (for example, I love Burger King...so that would be on my list.) Write down everything.
Then think of ways to increase the good things in your life and decrease the bad things.
Maximize your happiness and decrease your sadness.
You just need to identify the good and bad things and figure out how to work them in and out of your life, and you should start feeling better.
Also, the thought of finally being happier and working the bad things out, will make you feel accomplished in and off itself...which will make you feel better too.
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i kinow about self harming cos my husband used to do it.PM me and i'll talk to you but dont kill yourself.i really want to talk to u
God put you here for a reason never ever give up there is always a better side think of all the people you would hurt if you went missing?? everyone has these feeling dont feel like your alone (your not) pray to god he always has the answer look to the brighter side of this when i feel crappy I just think of my friends and how much better my life will be when I get older and can change things for myself please just get those crappy thoughts outa your head keeping them will do nothing but bring you down more and more
Sometimes talking to somone who is not your friend or family helps, and not in person like you said but there are hotlines you can call. I called this on http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
and it helped me tremendously, just to have someone to listen to me. Everyone is there becaues they want to be they are volenteers, and they listen and don't judge you and give you advice. Just getting it out helps. I know how you feel. Hang in there , hope this helps.
Can you try joining an extra club or something?
Try also getting a dog and trying many new adventerous activities. Why can't you try to talk to someone for just one or two hours a week? It would help so much, trust me on this.
Also, you may want to on top of doing these things try an antidepressent for a while. But ONLY do this if you are doing the above things or it will probably not work.
God Bless
Try to do something to get out of yourself. Call someone and ask how they are doing. Volunteer to help out at an old age home, a local food pantry, or animal shelter. Listen to music that makes you happy. Pray. Meditate. Go for a walk. Draw. Paint. Write your feelings/thoughts in a journal. Be kind, loving, and patient with yourself. You're going to get through this. Don't ever give up.
Hey if you really want to get better then drugs are not the answer. To be honest, they will probably make things seem better at first but then they will make you even worse off than you are now, trust me. Depression is a REAL thing, which a lot of people don't understand.
You say that you don't want to see a professional, but if you have been like this for more than a few weeks then you really should. I'm sorry, but it really is the very best thing you could do for yourself. If you really want to stop feeling like this then you need to talk to a professional, because they are people whose job it is to help and understand. Depression is REAL, like I said before, and can only go away with REAL help. It's too big of a problem to handle on your own. So please don't!
Other things you could try to help you are to find outlets for your emotions. Writing helps a lot of people, or if you have a sport or other hobby then doing that will give you something constructive to take your mind off of your problems.
But I promise you it will never go away until you do something about it.
Wow, well 1st of all, don't kill yourself. There is a lot to live for, and I'm sure you will find a way out of depression soon. Talking to someone is always a great thing, but since that isn't helping, I really think that maybe you should really try to talk to someone you feel you can talk about this with. A lot of people go through this, you're not alone. Now, I don't know how much this will help, but I think you should listen to the song You're Not Alone by Saosin. I don't really know if it's your kind of music or not, but just listen to it and read the lyrics.
Best of luck to you, I hope you find a way to overcome these thoughts soon.
Don't even consider suicide! You said yourself that your life isn't all that bad, so try and focus on all of the positive things in your life.
Everyone has problems, (some greater than others) but we all have them, so you're not alone.
You don't know what will happen tomorrow, or further in the future, so don't cut your life short. You might be the one to make a difference in someone elses life tomorrow.
OK, I talked to a counselor, because I am the same way as you.
Look, I'm sure that you don't want to hurt yourself anymore. You just kinda do it on impulse.
And I also think that you should do what I did. Make a list of everything that makes you sad or hurt or mad and don't reread it. BURN IT! It really helps. Just watching your problems go up in smoke is so...uplifting. It won't make them go away, but boy, if it doesn't make you feel better.
Now, my counselor says that when some people get upset, they go to their happy place. (Whatever that is, lol)
And some people, like you and I and millions of other people out there, think things like, 'It would be so much better if I just left.'
We just want the pain to stop, nothing wrong with that. But if you are hurting yourself, I strongly suggest going to a trusted friend or adult.
If you get anything out of this, I hope that it's that you are loved. I would care if you did anything, please don't.
no please!!!!!!!! I loose a friend few months ego he kill his self, he stoped his pain and worries but I still here with a lot of pain because of him, In one of the anser they say it will be good if you involve in any activity and is a great idea try it, my friend make the decision because his wife ask him the divorce after a year of marriage and he was only 23 years old!!!! that was his reason, do you know your reason why you want to do this? you say that you dont want your parents find about this because you care about them, but how can you give them this pain if you take the determination? , looking for help , and if is because of your age you can request for help by yourself stay on this site, you see a lot of people care about you!!!!!!! take care.