Broken confused depressed (stupid)?!
Question: i fell stupidly in love with an older guy when i was 13 . i swear. i`m 17 now still very young. i talked to him a few months ago and it confirmed every thought i had of him. he`s exactly as i imagined. it`s crazy i know. but whenever i try to forget him i just can`t i keep thinking about him everyday and he doesn`t even know... it became like an obsession...i get depressed a lot because of it and have all this mood swings. something tells me i should just tell him and let it all out but i`m afraid and i think he`ll just think i`m young and stupid (when i think about the whole situation i think so too) and there`s this other option ..i think i should wait more...but it gets so depressing ...and i have this feeling that there might be something in the future between us. we`re not currently speaking i haven`t talked to him in a hile because i think i`m too young he`s 21 and his birthday is this month i should say happy birthday and see what`s next? i`m so confused i cried so much over him
Answers: i fell stupidly in love with an older guy when i was 13 . i swear. i`m 17 now still very young. i talked to him a few months ago and it confirmed every thought i had of him. he`s exactly as i imagined. it`s crazy i know. but whenever i try to forget him i just can`t i keep thinking about him everyday and he doesn`t even know... it became like an obsession...i get depressed a lot because of it and have all this mood swings. something tells me i should just tell him and let it all out but i`m afraid and i think he`ll just think i`m young and stupid (when i think about the whole situation i think so too) and there`s this other option ..i think i should wait more...but it gets so depressing ...and i have this feeling that there might be something in the future between us. we`re not currently speaking i haven`t talked to him in a hile because i think i`m too young he`s 21 and his birthday is this month i should say happy birthday and see what`s next? i`m so confused i cried so much over him
You are now a lot older than when you first started feeling attracted to this gentleman and after 4 years your feelings are still as strong as ever. Given that you are now of an appropriate age to have an adult relationship I would not let just a few years age difference stand in your way.
I don't think you are young and stupid and I don't think he will either. If there is a chance for a relationship I would go for it before he commits himself to someone else. Keeping things in limbo like this is obviously making you very unhappy. You need to know one way or the other.
Go to his birthday party and see what happens. Just be your self and talk to him honestly, though try not to sound too intense as this may frighten him off. If you find a way of seeing him day to day you will get to know him better and perhaps form a relationship, or decide he was not the one for you after all. This way you either get what you want or find out that it was never meant to be, and can move on.
When I was 21 I would have been charmed if I found I had a secret sweetheart and who knows, it could even have become something serious and life changing.
Mood swings are normal for a teenager and it takes time to gain self knowledge and perspective. The only way to do that is to get out there and try things out. Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
1. Does he like you back?
2. Do you know him well?
3. Four years isn't a large gap.
First of all, you are not stupid. Alot of people get confused when it comes to relationships. Seek out and talk to a therapist, you may have something going on inside that makes you like this( with me, I have a form of autism and Adhd,lol, it's tough for me to stay in a relationship).