Why does self harm make me feel better?!


Question: im a 12year old male and i cut myself

i was talking to my friends and thay were looking at my are and whrist (were i cut) but i makes me feel alot better

plz dont call me crazy or tell me to see a doctor i just want some advice
and i know i have terrable grammer and spelling


Answers: im a 12year old male and i cut myself

i was talking to my friends and thay were looking at my are and whrist (were i cut) but i makes me feel alot better

plz dont call me crazy or tell me to see a doctor i just want some advice
and i know i have terrable grammer and spelling

You feel that you have some control when you do it.

In most cases, cutters are extremely depressed people. In many cases, their parents don't pay enough attention to them and sometimes even abuse them verbally or physically.

In those cases, you feel that you have no control over your life, so you look for things to control. (This all happens on an unconscious level.) You can exert control by cutting yourself and you feel "alive" when you do it, but later regret it.

The fallacy here is that cutters are totally out of control. You know that cutting yourself is not a good thing, but you can't stop. You can't control the impulse.

The only true control is control over self. A school counselor or doctor can help you to have healthier outlets for your depression/pain.

That's the scoop in many cases. Hope it helps.

it makes you feel better because its a stress release. normal. but a sign of depression

EDIT : then your an emo poser

i dont know.....it feels good though...but sooo addictive!!!!

Haha you're emo

Right your 12 well that explains you advising other vulnerable people on here looking for some constructive advice to cut there writs, not very good advice is it, and very selfish, you say you need help, I don't think so, as you won't go and see a doc, so do us all a favour and cut a bit deeper next time, as vulnerable guys don't need a snotty nose brat telling them how wonderful you feel about self abuse.

cutting is usually done out of anger. sometimes people don't realize that they are keeping in so much anger. it has to come out somehow. i know you don't want to see a dr. but i think that you already know the answer to that. please, before it gets worse.

because unlike anything else, even your bodys ability to not get sick, you have control over this. for now

I think you think you deserve it, your depressed and you don't like the way you are feeling so you "punish" yourself by cutting your arms and wrists. Then all your friends see it and they go "Oh, _____ why are you hurting yourself, you shouldn't do that we love you and care about you" and WALLA you got the attention you are so desperatly craving.

I won't call you crazy, but I will tell you that you need to find some form of help whether that be a Doctor, an Older sibling, someone at your church even another friend. tell someone who will help you through this. There are lots of ways to get attention that don't involve hurting yourself. You don't deserve to be hurt by anyone escpecially by yourself. I don't even know you but I care about you, I care whether you are hurting yourself or not, and if I can ever be of assistance to you now or in the future feel free to e-mail me day or night. But for now why don't you make a "Do no harm" contract. This is something you can do by yourself, it's a contract that you go into with yourself. You literally draw up a contract (type it or write it up) that says I , _______ (fill in your name) promise not to __________(negative behavior) for 7 days. Then at the end of those 7 days, make up a new one that lasts just a little longer. Keep those promises, because you are worth it aren't you? I think you are. Don't hurt yourself, there are way to many people out there who want to do your harm. You shouldn't have to fall victim to your own devices. Keep me posted on your progress.

Be EMO and be PROUD but don't be destructive.

it makes me feel better too and i uses the blade from disposable razors very sharp and clean cuts. i make sure to steralize after i use them tho and i'm not sure btu ithink it realises endorphine in the brain

pluse it make me feel completely alive! idk y

p.s. i'm 17
oh yeah i ahve the e-mial option if u want to e-mail me ,we can chat





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