Life after being sexually abused?!
Question: I was sexually abused when i was 5 or 6 by my best friend, who is a girl, and ever since then i've been very depressed, suicidal, annorexic, and just generally messed up. I have become obsessed with the few friends i have. I have very low self esteem. I'm a wreck. What should i do? Has anyone else been sexually abused by a girl, if your a girl?
Answers: I was sexually abused when i was 5 or 6 by my best friend, who is a girl, and ever since then i've been very depressed, suicidal, annorexic, and just generally messed up. I have become obsessed with the few friends i have. I have very low self esteem. I'm a wreck. What should i do? Has anyone else been sexually abused by a girl, if your a girl?
I can tell you from personal experience that there is life after abuse...when I was a little girl an uncle wanted me to touch him inappropriately and it helped that I was old enough to confide in my mother (my father would have killed him!) and she protected me from further encounters....
in this world there are a lot of people who need help (are mentally ill...), you were just a victim of one of these misfits...do not allow this incident to ruin your life....the key is YOU and only YOU....be strong, focus on the positive side to this tragedy; be an advocate and help those that have experienced it and or are currently experiencing it (by being strong for others you will be strong for yourself)....
you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, only you have control of your emotions regardless what others may think...focus on being happy and concentrating on those things you have control over, the past is gone, there is nothing you can do to correct it nor did you have a notion that what you were doing was wrong (after all you were only five)....sometimes we are are our own worst enemies, don't be so hard on yourself, you are a creature of God and deserve to be happy...start off by setting short term goals for yourself, take life one day at a time and make time to smile, enjoy nature, plant a garden, do some volunteer work....there are so many wonderful moments that await you, choose to live them HAPPY...I wish you luck and a future full of all the wonderful moments you deserve...Bless you!
sorry to hear that just talk to a counselor.
sorry about that, yea just talk to a counselor that would be the best thing to do.
First of all, you did nothing wrong. When we're children, we tend to always turn things in our minds to think that we somehow had control over them and therefore there's something wrong with us because they happened. This is SO not true. Also, if the other girl was also around your age and not a teenager or adult, this is something that kids normally do and there's nothing wrong with it. Of course if you feel that you were violated then you were...there's no question about it. But if your issues stem around feeling like you did something "gay" because you somehow participated, you may find that talking to a therapist for a few sessions will help you reframe it and understand that experimenting and playing doctor is something pretty much all kids do and you are not a bad person for having been part of it.
I experienced abuse as a child, but not from another girl. I do know that there are abuse survivor groups all over North America so hopefully you would be able to find one close enough to where you live that you could attend. These groups range from being not very helpful (everyone just moans and groans about their problems all the time and it's a huge downer) to being life changing. If you can find a group that's more therapy based than support based, that is much better. The people in these groups will also be able to tell you about therapists and other resources that have helped them.
Good luck and please know you are not alone and you can be helped!
Being abused puts you at very high risk of a number of things, so getting into therapy is essential. There is help available, and it is unlikely you will be able to successfully navigate your way out alone..I'm sure others have been in your situation & survived.. Life doesn't have to be lived in reaction to something that happened t you in the distant past...
meds and consicling. i will help if you need