Bad Masterbation habits? Can they be broken?!
Question: I'm a girl and I know thats weird enough. Usually guys only discuss this topic. I've really been upset because I have a bad habit of masterbating too much and I don't know what to do anymore. This has been going on ever sense I was in my pre teen years and now its been about eight years and I still haven't gotten rid of the habit. I'd admit that it has gotten better than before, but it still won't go away. I try to stay busy and keep my mind off of it. It's affecting me a lot because I've never even had a relationship. I cannot understand why I can't connect with people. I've never had sex with anyone yet I still have this problem. I get emotional a lot and I often cry because I just want out. I can't tell anyone because they wouldn't understand. No one knows anything about it at all. I think its gonna ruin my life it I dont stop. Every little thing makes me wanna do it and I can't even sleep at night if i don't do it. Its driving me crazy!!!!! I just wanna know what I should do?
Answers: I'm a girl and I know thats weird enough. Usually guys only discuss this topic. I've really been upset because I have a bad habit of masterbating too much and I don't know what to do anymore. This has been going on ever sense I was in my pre teen years and now its been about eight years and I still haven't gotten rid of the habit. I'd admit that it has gotten better than before, but it still won't go away. I try to stay busy and keep my mind off of it. It's affecting me a lot because I've never even had a relationship. I cannot understand why I can't connect with people. I've never had sex with anyone yet I still have this problem. I get emotional a lot and I often cry because I just want out. I can't tell anyone because they wouldn't understand. No one knows anything about it at all. I think its gonna ruin my life it I dont stop. Every little thing makes me wanna do it and I can't even sleep at night if i don't do it. Its driving me crazy!!!!! I just wanna know what I should do?
there is nothing wrong with masterbating, and there should be no one to convince you differetly, it is not a dirty, horrible, foreign thing to do. It kind of sounds to me like it has become a habit, like smoking or nail biting for you- try to cut back to train your mind that boredum, a pause in the day or other things do not equal masterbation time, but don't take the whole act away from yourself- it is a healthy, normal thing to do especially when you are young- equally it is safer than becoming sexually active and getting a disease or pregnant
It's not going to ruin your life...unless you let it. You need to seek professional help. This sounds like an obsession, and you can overcome it with proper guidance. Don't be afraid, just get the help you need. You are strong enough to tell us on YA! So, that's a step.
Good Luck and God Bless.
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OMG girl......calm down. it's okay, lots of females do it, i do it. no one needs to know. It's not a bad thing at all, it's to relax you, and people say it's actually good for you. don't worry.....relax.
Sure, why not? It's really just a matter of will power though. But first off, I just want to say that there's nothing inherently wrong with the act itself. But I can understand how distracting and addicting it can be, so I guess I can help you out.
I've gone through phases of doing it and not doing it, but the important part is to just try to keep your mind off it. Or you could also, just try slowly limiting how much you do it. If you really want to get over it, you can do this. If you do it more than once daily, then just limit to maybe once daily. When you feel comfortable, you can limit it to maybe every other day.
Before you know it, it'll be every other week, month, etc. By that time, you'll be pretty much in control of it, and you should be able to consciously make the decision on whether or not you want to, as opposed to becoming a creature of habit.
Don't let it be an issue, seriously. Coming from another girl who went through something almost exactly similar, eventually the habit will go away. Wait until you get involved with a relationship, it could dramatically change.
There is nothing wrong with being an almost compulsive masturbator, as long as you become comfortable with yourself!
You are giving to much attention to something normal in people of your age. Masturbation its the first door to sexuality and its the first step to understand your own sexuality, nothing wrong with that. Religion and few culture concepts make looks this practice like something evil but nothing more wrong than that.
Masturbation are something can help you to flow your inside energy float without problem and its better you practice this than be a easy lover with a bunch of guys who you never know they have AIDS or something dangerous for your health.
Please don't pay attention in those guys who still in the media era, just relax and try to be you, one day or another you have to meet the correct guy and then you can exploit all those dreams from you.
Sex like love for many years for people on charge are the key to manipulate humans, don't give a **** to those ideas and start to be you. The way to respect you body its knowing your body and you are doing this practice just remove that guilty feeling you have and live plenty because this live are only one.
You know every time you have and orgasm you are touching God? You are a woman, you have the most perfect body and God give you the privilege to have a special part of your body only to feel sex and are your clitoris. Men doesn't have this privilege, they a penis to have pleasure and do pee at the same time, you see? you was created for God to feel pleasure and that's ok.
Take it easy dear friend, be happy and enjoy you day like the last day in your life. Life are only one.
no no dont worry about it, we all still young and go through stages like these,i think iv wanked more times than all the days of my life put together so really dont worry about it, unless ur doin it so much that it makes ur skin raw or somtin, then dont worry about it. i'd seriously like to meet a girl like u =) u should cry about it n stuff, its not so bad, i rly like it wen i go through those horny stages, just relax
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First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. I enjoy a healthy sex life and still masturbate although it isn't surprising considering the fact that I'm a guy but I know plenty of my girl friends who masturbate consistently and often even more than an average male does.
It will not ruin your life unless you consider it a problem and allow it to disrupt your social and personal aptitude. Having vivid fantasies about anyone in a sexual perspective and satisfying it later with masturbation develops self-worth and in all seriousness, helps you be confident of your sexuality.
The fact that you have not had sexual intercourse with anyone is irrelevant to the fact that you masturbate on a frequent basis. It is perfectly natural for us as human beings to harbour sexual desires and needs or to quench our thirst for sexual gratification with self-pleasure.
Do not be alarmed nor overly concerned. I am very sure everyone experiences and shares your sentiments. We all go through traumatic and challenging times in our lives but must soldier on no matter the consequences or how difficult it may be.
If you are emotionally or mentally deteriorating, I suggest you seek professional help as it may be a sign of a more serious condition like manic-depressive disorder (which by the way, I suffer from) or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Either way, you know yourself and your body the best so the decision is up to you although I highly recommend you consider my advice carefully.
I hope it helps and cheer up! =)