How do I deal with my insecurities?!
Question: I know that I am ok looking; my weight is average for my height and my BMI is fine. My boyf adores me, and doesn't pay any particular interest to other women - his only other passions are our kid(s) and computer games.
My insecurities are not a problem on a daily basis; but he has recently said he wants to go on holiday to Brazil, America or somewhere like that. My response was no- because I'd feel so awful on the beach in comparison with some of the stick insects and bronzed blonde leggy women. - I KNOW this is ridiculous, but my heart starts racing and I feel like crying at the thought of it!
I don't want to live like this, so what can I do to get myself out of it? I'd appreciate practical responses, I don't know whether hypnotism would work - or something like that?
Answers: I know that I am ok looking; my weight is average for my height and my BMI is fine. My boyf adores me, and doesn't pay any particular interest to other women - his only other passions are our kid(s) and computer games.
My insecurities are not a problem on a daily basis; but he has recently said he wants to go on holiday to Brazil, America or somewhere like that. My response was no- because I'd feel so awful on the beach in comparison with some of the stick insects and bronzed blonde leggy women. - I KNOW this is ridiculous, but my heart starts racing and I feel like crying at the thought of it!
I don't want to live like this, so what can I do to get myself out of it? I'd appreciate practical responses, I don't know whether hypnotism would work - or something like that?
Count the assets that you already have, the main one being as you say kid(s). To be a parent is one of lifes greatest gifts, followed by health, and your five senses. Your partner as you say adores you and you appear to be financially able to travel to Brazil. Weight is not an issue for you and bronzing can be achieved from a bottle.Focus, please on the positive and beautiful things that you already own.
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(Slap) Pull yourself together Woman...........
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(slap, slAP , SLAP, SLAP)
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(SLAAAAP)
I must go see that Anger Management counsellor again..........
You and your bf sound like you love each other. That's all that matters! He's all yours. I'm sure he wouldn't give that up for a few leggy blondes.
come on do you re\lly think the beach is going to be full of women like that your having a laugh arent you ive been round the carribean and you see normal people girl with all the wobbles nobody cares your on holiday plus if he wanted a girl like that he would be with one not that im saying theres anything wrong with you im sure your lovely
Yeah! Big slaps - Stupid!!
Wherever you go, you'll see females with great figures. But if your Hubby thinks you've got that perfect shape, who cares - enjoy!!
Go somewhere popular with Americans or Brits - that way you'll be surrounded by white men in Hawaiian shirts together with their wobbly wives.
I don't think you need hypnotism; I'd say just convince yourself to go anyway and when you get there you'll be having far too much of a good time to remember to feel insecure.
If your BMI is average, you will look tiny in the USA.
Grow up?He wants to take you on holiday if he wanted to look at fit birds all day long he could just live on a busy road and stare out the window get a grip
You just have to over come your fears. You got to realize that you can't make everyone happy.
There will always be that someone who will think less of you. But who cares, you got kids, a man who loves you.
What do you care what anyone else thinks. Odds are you will never see them again anyways.
Hypnosis worked for me.
You can also make a list of your wonderful qualities...I'm sure your boyfriend will add many more. Good Luck!