How can i get my mum to love me?!
Question: I am 36 and my mum has never showed me love only abuse, I am ill and in a wheelchair and she couldn't even be bothered to come and see me when i nearly died due to a severe reaction i had ffrom some tablets
Answers: I am 36 and my mum has never showed me love only abuse, I am ill and in a wheelchair and she couldn't even be bothered to come and see me when i nearly died due to a severe reaction i had ffrom some tablets
I hate to tell you this, but you cannot.
I tried for 50 years to earn my mothers love. Even up to her dying moment I was with her hoping she would say she loved me. But she never did.
Believe me, I know there is nothing that compares to a mothers love. All I can say is to learn to see the love that is given to you by those around you everyday. Cherish the little things people say and do and let them know you appreciate them. Love grows. Nurture what you do have and you might be surprised by what you find.
E-mail me if you'd like. I do know how you feel as I was un-loved by my mother.
u cannot change someones feeling stop trying to change it unless she loves u after time
You can't "get" someone to love you. They either love you, or they don't. And they should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be, or who you're pretending to be. Love isn't about what someone can give you, it's about what you can give someone else.
I wish you well.
Sadly, you may never be able to get your mum to show you love - it may be something she just cannot do. But please accept that this is her problem, not yours. It doesn't make you unlovable or any less worthwhile as a person. It must be very hard for you though and I do sympathise. Best wishes
Unfortunately you cannot force someone to love you, they have to love you willingly. I'm currently going through similar events, don't even bother with her. She will receive her punishment on Judgement Day.. (considering that there is some sort of afterlife).
it sounds like she might never love you. Try to forget about it (no, i know its not that easy) and concentrate on those who do love you. Like me :-) x
hey, am 18 and my mum has never loved me. Sometimes it upsets me, i don't live with her, i live with my big sisters. Sometimes i miss the things that mums do, like telling you your gonna be ok, everythings gonna be fine. But i have some of the most amazing friends who love me for who i am that i would never try and make her love me.
its her lose, there must be lots of people who love you out there, just one not is nothing. She's the minority. You don't need her love.
xx
Just love your mum, because by hating her she has her excuse to hate you. One day she will realise what she has done by not showing you love.
try and talk to her about this, maybe she will come around, im not close to my family neither but it still hurts
I'm so sorry, but you can't. This is your mother's problem, not a fault on your part. None of us ask to be born, and our mothers should love us unconditionally. Something in your mother is broken. Much as it hurts, you may be better off seperating yourself from her. There are other people in the world who will love you. This is her loss.
mom is not the one that give birth to you. Is the one that will love unconditionally, hug you when your are in your greatest needs, and comfort you when no one does. Regardless of anything she is still your mom, thats when loves tranforms to respect. There is ovbiously a big discontent in her, but i hope you could still work things out with her.