My family has absolutely no faith in me?!
Question: They have no faith in me. It makes me very depressed. I dropped out of school just recently and they think that im going to be just another loser out in the street. I already have my plan and im trying so hard to make it happen. I keep telling myself that nobody is going to mess it up for me, but them having no faith in me makes it hard for me. This is my plan. I'm working right now in getting my GED. Next Thursday im going to take the real test and hopefully pass. Anyways, I was thinking of getting at least two jobs, one in the morning and maybe one around the afternoon or at night. And then from there, save up all the money that im going to make until im 18 and go to a community college. I want to study to be either a nurse or a teacher. I know how hard it is to make money and i know that i will be very dedicated to it. I dropped out because i have Anxiety and Depression. Anyways, i would like to know what your opinions are. I would love to prove them all wrong. Because i know i can.
Answers: They have no faith in me. It makes me very depressed. I dropped out of school just recently and they think that im going to be just another loser out in the street. I already have my plan and im trying so hard to make it happen. I keep telling myself that nobody is going to mess it up for me, but them having no faith in me makes it hard for me. This is my plan. I'm working right now in getting my GED. Next Thursday im going to take the real test and hopefully pass. Anyways, I was thinking of getting at least two jobs, one in the morning and maybe one around the afternoon or at night. And then from there, save up all the money that im going to make until im 18 and go to a community college. I want to study to be either a nurse or a teacher. I know how hard it is to make money and i know that i will be very dedicated to it. I dropped out because i have Anxiety and Depression. Anyways, i would like to know what your opinions are. I would love to prove them all wrong. Because i know i can.
Before giving you any advice I would really like to give you all the credit in the world for you being in charge of your own life. I know I'm not family but the credit is all yours. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise and interfere in any way. This is YOUR life and only YOU know how to live it. The right way or the wrong way, it's absolutely YOUR choice. Then another credit for having a plan on what to do with it. That's really important cause you're setting your priorities right. I mean you're thinking straight, pass your test, get a job, maybe two, earn your own income, have savings and become independent. If that's not something to praise someone for what is?! OK you dropped out of school and that must have brought certain negative vibes to your family towards where to you're leading your life. Ignore them. What's done is done. Don't take me wrong, I wouldn't advice anyone to drop out of school for no reason but it seems that you had one, a very important one for you that made you do it. That should be respected either they like it or not. My advice? You have a plan? Stick to it. Prove them all wrong. Don't wait for others to have faith in you. Have a faith in yourself and you'll make it. That's all it takes. Deal with that anxiety and depression the best you can, do whatever it takes to eliminate it from your life. I'm an anxiety sufferer myself with a history of panic attacks but I swore that I will never let it get me down. So fight for your life and your future, that's my advice. You're 17 and you already have a plan. It doesn't get better than that. If your family doesn't have faith in you - I do, if it counts for something. Go girl and show them what you're worth. They can thank you later.
Well, if you dropped out of school because of your illness, then they probably think you will drop out of GED classes, quit your job, never sign up/or quit community college. The best thing for you to do is get treated for your illness. If you are being treated already, talk to your counselor about how you are feeling. I would suggest writing down goals for yourself and sticking with them. The only thing you can do now is prove that your illness won't get the best of you in accomplishing your goals. I don't think you should concentrate on proving it to your family. You should prove to yourself that you can do it! Good luck!
How old are you? Dropping out of school was NOT a smart idea...and could be the reason your family has little faith in your ability to follow through with something. Apparently, you haven't shown them yet that you can. Respect is something you have to EARN...it is NOT handed to you. Think working two jobs is fun? Think again. How can you work two jobs and go to school? Why even think of going on to "higher learning" when you can't even finish high school??? Do you honestly think you'll get a job that pays enough for you to pay for community college? When potential employers see a high school drop-out, they usually will pass you over for someone who has shown, through finishing school, that they can handle the job. I'm not trying to come down on you here..but you do not have a realistic idea of life....will your parents allow you to live at home? Were you my child, you would need to move out (if you dropped out) or begin paying rent, utilities, etc at home. How will you get to "work"? By car? Who will pay for that? The insurance? Your clothes..etc...??? If YOU will, how much money do you think that will leave you to "save up" for school? How much do you think a child is going to earn out "there" in the business world?
Can you prove them wrong...you just might. But, odds are, you won't. PLEASE listen to someone (me!) who when I was 18, declared myself an "adult" and proceded to screw-up royally...although I wasn't trying to! I was trying to "show them"! Well..I didn't. It's not as easy as you think, hon.
Stay in school...stay a child for as long as you can...there will be plenty of time to be an "adult" later....
well i have faith in u..school isnt for everyone and they need to understand that..im still in school but my brother dropped out and working hard and my mother loves him the same. Parents are a big source of support but if u can't find it in them find it in urself. working 2 jobs might get exausting but keeping going and dont give up..i hope u pass ged too.
if things dont work u still have a chance with job corps and other places
good lukk
the last sentences of your concern is where the real story should be. If you truly believe in yourself, then you have won the battle. your family may be a factor but you really do not need their approval. What you need is an approval from yourself. As one movie goes, " there is a big difference between knowing the path and walking the path".- ( Matrix)..you know where to go but will you go there? you have a plan but will you execute it? It seems you have it mapped out already so why do you still despair.
have faith in yourself. Have faith in God. "Cause even if you do not believe in him, he does believe in you" - (count of monte cristo). Now that is the only thing you need. Hope this helps...
Obviously you have thought about all this, & I applaud that. I would urge you though to seek counseling for your anxiety & depression. I know that for me, it waas difficult to remain in school because the depression altered my concentration so drastically..It would be helpful to you to have someone in your corner as you try to keep on track with your life plans. I wish you great good luck!!!
you just need motivation. i didnt finish school "on time" but i didnt want to give up. i idid it, i also have anxierty and depression and i dont want to give up. im hoping to go to culinary school soon and im almost 30. i learned that you have to have a heart and a will to drive yourself.i will give you my full suppoert and motivation you need. maybe you can help me as well. prove them wrong and show your a strong hearted person wit he tha tdrive
As a former Psych major, I am one who believes these classifications are what cause the "dis-order" (lack of order). Basically, I think they're bologna!
We can create and destroy our conditions.....don't let any Dr. tell you differently. Humans can create and destroy as we are supposedly made in the likeness of the Creator.........use this power!
As for your situation with "going on your own".....you only live once, and you're going to "do you" regardless. But I caution thee, to be sure to keep your ears open to information passed down by those who have "been there"..........You can learn without actually having to "experience" hardship.
Overall........Look at yourself in the mirror, and remind yourself that you are "God" (like) and can do anything, STAY positive in ALL situations, and begin surrounding yourself with good PEOPLE.
Peace