HELP!!!! I did something really stupid and I need some serious advice!!!!!!!!!!?!


Question: I have this girl in my class and she has been saying some really wierd things lately. In english she wrote a poem about killing Spencer Prat from the hills.Then, in religion class everyone was making fun of her, she asked "where was a weapon when she needed it?" The next day, she said that when she was sad she contemplated suicide. I herd what hppened in religion class from a friend. Although I don't particularly like her i was concerned and told the guidence councilor. She made me sign a paper giving her premission to ask the religion teacher. I signed. When I told my parents they flipped out! They Said that I could have gotten her expelled and ruined her life!! They also said that my name can be brotten up in a trial now!! I'm sooo worried!! What should I do?? My fears have been added to ever since she left school early today.


Answers: I have this girl in my class and she has been saying some really wierd things lately. In english she wrote a poem about killing Spencer Prat from the hills.Then, in religion class everyone was making fun of her, she asked "where was a weapon when she needed it?" The next day, she said that when she was sad she contemplated suicide. I herd what hppened in religion class from a friend. Although I don't particularly like her i was concerned and told the guidence councilor. She made me sign a paper giving her premission to ask the religion teacher. I signed. When I told my parents they flipped out! They Said that I could have gotten her expelled and ruined her life!! They also said that my name can be brotten up in a trial now!! I'm sooo worried!! What should I do?? My fears have been added to ever since she left school early today.

I have a son that died from suicide. I wish there were more people like you in this world who will go out of their way to care for others. Your parents have a different way of looking at it but I hope you will never feel guilty about what you did. You did the right thing & it is off not fault of yours what happens because she is responsibile for what she said. This is not your fault at all. You did the right thing you know that in your heart. Love, respect your parents & forgive but don't change being the compassionate person that you are we all need more people like you & sometimes it takes alot of strength to live with compassion but do it anyway. You are strong! Thank you it makes me feel better knowing their are people like you in this world.

Shes probably just an overdramatic teenager... I was like that.
Very much doubt it will go to trial, bit harsh telling on her though...

no, you cannot get in trouble for doing something that will keep someone from hurting themselves or others.

you did the right thing by telling an adult....and there is no way you could get in trouble for that. what you did was in confidentiality to the councelor and was the right thing. she wont get expelled. she will get talked to about it.

and after that...if she does something to get expelled then it is on her. you have done nothing wrong

If the girl herself never told you personally that she was going to commit suicide, and if she never told you that she was bringing a weapon to school, you can't prove that she's suicidal or homocidal. Unfortunately while you did something that seemed right at the time, might have consequences now. Because you accused her of bringing a weapon to school, she can get expelled and her parents can bring you to court. However, you just need to wait and see what happens and don't panic. I think that they won't penalize you. You were concerned about the well-being of the girl and other students. And since there are students these days who aren't telling authorities about other students who bring weapons to school even when they know they are, you did a good thing in my opinion.

you did the right thing. in school they teach you " that if someone says anything about suicide than you need to tell someone", in my eyes you did nothing wrong so dont worry. you did a good thing, nothing about ruining her life.
hope you feel better and dont worry

no wayy will this go as far as a trial, its just some silly little school girl, who may have some mental issues.
dont stress about it shes prob just seeing a councillor or having a chat with the principal, to sort out her issues.
you have nothing to worry about.
u done the right thing, this girl clearly needs help in some way and because of u they have now identified the prob n will deal with it.
you were v mature bou the whole thing!
well done

You are asking for a serious answer so here goes.

There is NOTHING you can do. Hind sight is 20/20 and while you may regret (what I feel was an appropriate action) turning her in or signing the paper or even telling your parents, it is DONE. Just relax and ride it out. It really is all you can do.

Keep in mind, you may have saved a life. People who speak of suicide should be taken seriously. Very few who make comments have not also contemplated the act.

I wish I could wave a wand and make all your apprehension go away but only you can accept the situation and move on.

Do you think her getting expelled from school is going to RUIN HER LIFE?? And also, if she is depressed (which she sure sounds like it) then how would you feel if you DIDN'T tell somebody and she ended up taking her life??? Your parents are overreacting. Although I suggest next time confirming with your parents if its okay to sign random documents before you actually do.

damn that sucks lol. idk

You did the right thing.

ok parents are not always right ok?? you need to know this they are human beings too and not everything they say is always right
i am not telling you to rebel against them or anything but they may have just overexaggerated the situation
ok if you are worried go to your guidance counsellor tomorrow and tell them not to mention your name and they can't mention your name anyway because why would they get you in trouble
and also this won't go to trial unless the girl actually does something huge which is not going to happen because teenagers are all-talk

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING !!!!!!!!!!!

From the way you describe it, you did something brave and compassionate. Someone needed to be told what this girl was saying, and you rightly went to the guidance counselor. Your parents have the attitude, "Don't get involved," and too many people have that kind of attitude. You may have saved that girl from doing something bad. You should be proud of what you did, but now the responsibility for how it plays out is not yours -- it's the schools and the girl's parents. Hopefully, she is getting the help she needs. Again, congratulations for showing courage and compassion.

well if she had weird thoughts (disturbingly weird) like that, she ought to be expelled. they will not put you on trial although you should mention to the religion counselor that you would not like your name to be mentioned. don't worry. you did the right thing. a teenager like that needs help and its a good thing she did not lead others at your school with the same path. don't let this problem eat you up. you have a better life than worrying about such a silly problem. i assure you that you wont go to trial because you did a good deed. she may not love you for this but atleast bad influences like her can be kept out of the school . and who knows? maybe she had a doctor appointment? or therapy? they may not have expelled her. all you did was follow a gut feeling. it's ok. as soon as you get to school tomorrow, ask your religion counselor about what will happen. i am sure its nothing. Good luck but you won't need it. im sure you can overcome this!

dont worry i have gone through this before if you are under the age of 18 you can not be put in a trial. CHILL OUT

I think you did the right thing. If this person thinks of suicide when they are sad or depressed, they really need to be helped,and your school can now do that. If you did not tell anyone, how would you feel if she did kill herself or someone else, and you did nothing at all. Think of it this way, you may have just saved a life. And that is what is important, in my eyes you just scored alot of brownie points with the big Man upstairs. If you did nothing alot of other things could go very wrong, for example, more school shootings. Good Luck, and stay strong. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! YOU DID EVERYTHING RIGHT!

You did the right thing!!! It's not up to you whether or nor she really is suicidal, mentally ill, etc. That is up to a professional to diagnose. You are still in school and obviously don't have a degree. I think you are awesome for coming foreward and letting someone know. This girl may or may not need help, (I think she does since she is making some pretty serious statements.) The only way she would get help is if her parents help her to get the help. If they don't, or they don't know what's going on, then it's up to the schools to report what is going on, what they have heard or noticed. The schoolguidance counselor will probably speak to her and assess the situation. All the info you gave should be totally confidential. You don't have to say anything. There is no reason to worry about going to court or trial. She cannot get expelled for having depression or being suicidal. What will happen after the guidance counselor speaks to the girl is contact her family and let them know her concerns, Your name still will not be mentioned!! The family can get her into therapy and on meds if she needs it. Sometimes Social Services steps in--all they will do is make sure the girl gets help. They will not put her in a foster home, lock her up, etc.
Please stop worring about what you did. You did the right thing! You may have saved her life. By her comments, she was obviously looking for help or for someone to listen to her. I would have done the exact same thing you did. You don't need to worry or pursue the subject about her any more. Please tell your parents to calm down. Would they want to know if it were you? You would be surprised how many children have problems that the parents don't know about and the only way they get help is when someone speaks up and reports what they know. GOOD JOB!

You did the right thing by bringing this girls' issues to someones attention. You didn't do anything wrong. This girl needs help & you did what you could, so rest in that knowledge.

it is not your fault at all for getting her in trouble so don't worry about it. What if she was going to, you have just saved her life and got her the help she needed. Don't feel bad, and don't worry about what your parents said, you did the right thing. The girl in your class sounds like she is a drama queen anyway and is only looking for attention. she deserves what she gets if that is what she is. she wanted Drama, shes got it now.
you did the right thing....don't stress!!

You definitely did the right thing. Imagine how horrible it would be if you wouldn't have told anyone and she would have killed herself.





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