Should i end my life?!
Question: i am 13 year old boy and have been through hell. I feel so depressed. sometime when i get so mad i go into my room lock the door,cry + cut at the same time. When i fell better i am surrounded by blood. I am at the stage of ending my life. People want me to be everything but i just cant. So someone give me ways to kill my self? If you r talking about psychologist i wont work. trust me.
Answers: i am 13 year old boy and have been through hell. I feel so depressed. sometime when i get so mad i go into my room lock the door,cry + cut at the same time. When i fell better i am surrounded by blood. I am at the stage of ending my life. People want me to be everything but i just cant. So someone give me ways to kill my self? If you r talking about psychologist i wont work. trust me.
It sounds like someone or some people around you are being very controlling or doing something that makes you feel like you want to disappear into your room or disappear altogether. This is a survival instinct that kicks in when you feel frightened or in danger and may serve as a way of coping with whatever is happening to you or around you. The cutting is a way of feeling in control and feeling relief.
If you can bring yourself to talk to someone even just to tell them that things aren't ok for you and that it's quite serious then that would be a very brave. - I don't mean to be patronising in saying that. It's hard for adults too when things are that bad.
It's a good thing that you mentioned how you feel on here. At least you will get some acknowledgement of these problems and can maybe find some answers and it is a good start.
At 13 you must be still at school and approaching or going through puberty and studying which is stressful for anybody. This with the added pressure of dealing with whatever else is happening in your life is a big thing to cope with and you are coping by yourself by finding ways that make you feel better.
It seems that although you have these ways of coping that you're not happy with things in your life or the ways you've found to cope with stuff.
It is your life. You own your life and nobody else does. You can choose to ask people to help you. If things are so bad that you choose to hide in your room surely asking for help can't be worse. Asking for help from a teacher, a social worker, counsellor maybe the way forward. Maybe you could contact a social worker through your local council website, or find a counselling organisation. If you feel uncomfortable phoning or don't want your parents to know you could email them.
Please tell someone how you are feeling and what is going on in your life for you to feel so bad. All it takes is "Sir/Miss could I talk to you for a while" or "Can I make an appointment to speak to you in private". A teacher or school nurse should be able to put you in contact with the right person to help you.
If you are being abused in any way, physically, verbally etc please contact the police. You could email them.
You're entitled to be happy!
Best wishes.
Have you thought about how selfish ending your life is. Have you thoguht about the hell you are creating for those left behind? At this moment whereever you are phone a suicide hotline!!!!!!!!!!
NO YOU SHOULD NOT END YOUR LIFE!!!! It is one of the most selfish things you can do. I know you are depressed but you have to confront those reasons as to why you are depressed. There is hope and there is help..I promise you...
I dont know why Im getting a few thumbs down here...Im offering words of encouragement and hope here...
DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!! im sure that no one wants you to end ur life... i dont even know u and i dont want u to! if you go suicide you put your loved ones and other people at risk of you're same situation. this is a really really really bad idea. and also stop cutting yourself, it gets addicting. if this doesnt help PLEASE PLEASE call a hotline..... youre 13, you have so much more life left to live!! dont give up on yourself
PLZE DON'T DO THIS TO YOURSELF. i am a 15 yrs old (self injurer) and I rlly dnt want you 2 do it. plze add me and we could talk if you want. please make it thru hun . (^_^)
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" People want me to be everything but i just cant."
That's a revealling statement.
Look, you're entering the most difficult part of your life and you're doing it without a roadmap. (That's what the teenage years are for - you have to write a roadmap)
First of all, cut yourself some slack. Just because everybody wants you to be everything does NOT mean that you have to be everything. Pick a few people and let them know that you're just not going to live up to their expectations and they'll have to deal with it. They might be friends, girlfriends, sisters or brothers - tell them to take a number and you'll get to them when you can.
Then enforce that.
Next, see your school counselor if you can't go to a psychologist - he's probably seen hundreds of cases just like yours so far this year (you aren't the only one going through this). He'll have an idea what to do to help you. And it's free.
Forget the suicide part - you need solutions, and suicide isn't a solution.
Hey Young man,
I know you're hurting, and I know you're seeking advice. I'm not sure if you're a christian believer or not but do you realize that Jesus was crucified for things like this that we have to deal with? He knew people were thinking of sinful things such as this and he knew mankind wasn't perfect. Don't give your precious life away like that. You, young man are worth living and experienceing so much more. The only way to have true peace in you r life is to give your life to Jesus. ask khim to forgive you of your sins, and to give you a clean heart aclean mind and a clean conscience. He's the coolest person that you will ever encounter. Some say he isn't real, but I know for a 100% literal fact that he is. I was on my death bed at one point dying from some sort of artery disease and I nothing else would work. I got on my knees in the shower out of fear of death and prayed for Jesus to heal me.....the following night, that disease left my body. I've never had a problem with it since. He's real! and he's waiting on you to trust in him as the best friend that you'll always have. So to answer your question, you should not end your life. A psychologist won't work anyway,only Jesus will :)
First of all, please get professional help. You need to talk to someone.
This suggestion may seem stupid or trivial, but I suggest you immerse yourself in a hobby, sports, music, or school. Keep busy. Get addicted to something that is good for you and makes you feel good. Try volunteering helping people who are worse off than you.
You're still young and you could have a rich and fulfilling life if you make it so.
I sincerely wish you long life and happiness.
Yez
Start by praying....I want so badly to help you.But I'm glad you posted this question. Do you have a friend, someone you can trust?..Talk to them....I have suffered from depression since I was 8 and I know it is hard to live up to someone else's expectations at 13....Stop for a minute and think...the people in your life don't realize they have this affect on you and if they do it is there problem.... Have you tried telling the people in your life what you need from them? You have to learn to make you happy. You are your own best friend...Make yourself happy....Im sorry you are going through this. Please dont do this!
I hear you, I know psychologists & psychiatrists are not always the answer, at least not the only answer.
There are good ones & bad ones & the thing with psychologists & psychiatrists is you have to find the right one for you. If you don't click with the one you've seen in the past, please BEG your parents to let to find one that you can relate to & that YOU feel can help you.
Also, have you been on any meds for your depression? If so, they may not have worked.
The thing with meds is each one reacts differently for each person & it can take many tries to get the right one. I know this is annoying but you are worth it. Talk to your parents & tell them you have researched this & want to get the RIGHT help, not someone or some med that is not right for you.
Think about your parents/friends don't kill yourself die when it's your time.
Try listening to Hawthorne Heights, have side bangs, wear really tight pants, you'll be better in no time.