Its very very difficult for me to get aroused and is this weird??!
Question: I am 17 female. It is very weird for me to truly get aroused. the weirdest things get me turned on. Like when a guy is subtle and has self control sexually....for instance..that turns me on. for instance if he puts his hand on your knee instead of your thigh in a respectful way that would get be super turned on and like real crazy instead of directly sliding his hand up my thigh. Or if he says something like ''let me help you withe the dishes'' or open a door for you or is very sophisticated..or the way he talks or walks. I can look at a naked guy for hours and nothing but yet subtle things like these REALLY arouse me. Is this normal for female psycology?
Answers: I am 17 female. It is very weird for me to truly get aroused. the weirdest things get me turned on. Like when a guy is subtle and has self control sexually....for instance..that turns me on. for instance if he puts his hand on your knee instead of your thigh in a respectful way that would get be super turned on and like real crazy instead of directly sliding his hand up my thigh. Or if he says something like ''let me help you withe the dishes'' or open a door for you or is very sophisticated..or the way he talks or walks. I can look at a naked guy for hours and nothing but yet subtle things like these REALLY arouse me. Is this normal for female psycology?
This usually happens at an older age, but yes, from my experience many women think this way.
This is very basic female instinct.
You are looking for a provider. You get turned when guys do something as simple as opening a door because he is taking on some of your meaningless daily task. You unconsciously associate these things with him making your life easier or somehow that this person will take care of you and share responsibility. You think about all that crap because by helping you do things he in turn gives the child you have with that person a greater chance of survival.
Most people don't look at it like that, but the sad truth is we are all just animals.
no
Let me help you with the dishes. ;)
Oh I feel a certain Janet Jackson song coming on.
were you sexually abused as a youth?
If so, that may be why... If not, you could have intimacy issues.
Nothing weird about it at all. You have set good standards for yourself. I think it is called RESPECT that a man can and should have for a woman.
Yes, it's normal and guys totally don't understand it.
perfectly normal
I'm the exact same way! No, it's not wierd at all. It's a good thing. Besides, would you rather be a whore or wierd?
Sounds like you like 'romance' and 'courtesy'. Nothing wrong with that!! You are (to me -sorry) too young to be aroused. But I do remember... I am the same way. He (my husband of 20 years) gets a lot farther when he isn't so agressive. :)
I don't think anything is wrong with you, you just expect more from men it seems. However, maybe you should look into this because obviously something is bothering you if you can't really be aroused by men by imagery or contact. A lot of women are. Or perhaps, like I said you just have higher expectations. Not just a grab and go kind of thing. However, say a guy did put his hand on your knee and you got aroused. If he started to touch you intamitely would this turn you off? After he touched your knee or brushed the hair from your face? If it would..you should get some professional advice. If not, then no it's not a big deal.
At 17, you shouldn't be worried about getting aroused, you should be worried about passing tests and preparing for college or some kind of secondary education. Forget about boys right now and focus!
yeah it seems normal for someone your age. also if your turned on by things like a man holding door for you or washing the dishes or helping you it shows your a sophisticated girl who isnt shallow and turned on by just good looks, which is a good thing:)
For a female, it seems quite normal to me.
It's normal . Everyone is a little different in what turns them on.
Just to let you know that there is nothing wrong with you. For each and every one of us is different. We all react differently in different situations. Whether it be sexually or in normal every day living. That's what makes us all unique. I personally think its kind of neat that your that way. Dont sweat it ok?