I feel really depressed and angry very frequently because of college...?!
Question: I used to be a 4.0 student until second semester of college. Suddenly, my professors started pissing me off and everything went downhill. I began procrastinating and yet I still have the urge to do well but then because of the procrastination I'm sitting here trying to finish a homework assignment in a short time span and it's getting so frustrating and every single homework assignment I've done these past few weeks I've made a bad grade on. I've made horrible failing grades on exams and I feel HORRIBLE. I wanna just say **** you to all the teachers and **** college and just give up. Everything is so retarded right now and I don't know what to do. **** this bullshit... everything is being such a ***** to me... what the **** should I do!!?
Answers: I used to be a 4.0 student until second semester of college. Suddenly, my professors started pissing me off and everything went downhill. I began procrastinating and yet I still have the urge to do well but then because of the procrastination I'm sitting here trying to finish a homework assignment in a short time span and it's getting so frustrating and every single homework assignment I've done these past few weeks I've made a bad grade on. I've made horrible failing grades on exams and I feel HORRIBLE. I wanna just say **** you to all the teachers and **** college and just give up. Everything is so retarded right now and I don't know what to do. **** this bullshit... everything is being such a ***** to me... what the **** should I do!!?
Hey man, college does suck. After all, I've made it to grad school. It was a tough road to get to here, and i'm just an average joe, honestly. don't use your 4.0 past to compare to now. maybe in the past, your teachers or previous school was VERY easy. Or maybe, you are progressing in your studies, which of course gets hard. They design these study programs to filter out the strong, the ones that will make it to the finish line. I personally use this as motivation to keep on going. The more people hate/disprove/put down/talk down to me, the more motivation I get. you've got to trick your brain into motivating yourself.
You should give up. Seriously, people have way more fun discovering life on their own, away from oppressive school standards or annoying teacher practices. Get out there, it's not as bad as you think!
Go to your student health center and tell them about it, they are the people most likely to help you.
Take a vacation. your stressed out! you need a break. call in sick for 3 days or so. relax. watch a good porno...
I'm actually in the same situation you are. I was a 3.9 GPA kid in high school, and now that I'm in college I only have a 2.5. I've never felt like such a failure.
its all about pulling through the 4 feet of mud, uphill, in the rain. It sucks a lot but you have to pull through, or settle for less than half the income you would have if you finish college for the rest of your life. just keep going and try not to stop because its hard to go back.
Try to get things back into perspective. You're throwing yourself into an endless cycle of "bad grade-I suck-don't try-bad grade again....etc."
Sometimes professors are just total a**holes. Sometimes you just plain get a bad grade. Everyone does.
Just be easier on yourself. You can get mad at your professor, or get a low score sometimes. It's O.K. It doesn't make you a bad person, or a bad student.
You are obviously a very good student. Maybe it is just a little harder, or there are other things stressing you out. Don't be so hard on yourself for being a human! **hug**
i was the same way as you...awesome student then college hit and its like it all went away and i become a straight C student
but try going to your schools counseling center they help you by talking about your stresses and issues
go to academic services they find out what the best way for you to study is and they help you start forming good study habits
also go to career services because they can help set goals as to what you want to do after college
sometimes it helps to have a goal in mind to get you motivatted again
and try not to get so angry
if u start feeling anxious do some exercise or something you enjoy and then try to sit back down and concentrate
form friends that study hard and form study groups so that you kno if your around ppl you might study with them
i hope things get better for you --- i believe a college degree is important and opens many oppurtunities and doors, u dont want to give up that priveledge
just relax and take it one step at a time
Just keep going - I've been through all the bullshit too, it never gets easier but you learn to adapt to it... and it feels great when you've been challenged later on in life, because everything else becomes so much easier - things which other people call hard - become child level. Keep going, it won't last forever - so don't worry.
Most college professors are arrogant jerks. They're also not very good teachers and most, in my experience, just read straight out of the book and think they are geniuses. The trick is to learn to cool yourself down. You don't have to agree with them and you sound intelligent enough that you probably won't agree with a thing they say. That's ok. The trick to college is to convince the professors that you do agree with them. If they say something in class, spew it back at them on your tests, homework, and written papers even though you may cringe through it all. That will probably improve your grade and at the end of the semester, give the professor a really crappy evaluation as your payback.
ANGER MANAGEMENT: If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris including multiple weblinks; procrastination, study/exam tips & motivation in sections 26, 13. & 28. "Do you want fries with that?": repeat. Even professors, who sould know better, can be immature, irrational, and moody, at times. You don't need to respect them, but you will need to tolerate them, for a fair while: this is good grounding for having to deal with superiors, at work, later. Patience helps. My standard post follows: There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.
I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. ~~~ Visit your college counselor.
Isn't spring break coming? Why don't you use that time to refocus and relax. your just stressed out. Maybe do a little meditation.
Nobody ever got anywhere worth going by given up. Get refresh and go back with a can do attitude. Talk to the Lord, He's listening and wants to help. You can do it.
Doc