Am I Just Plain Stupid?!


Question: Quite often i find myself crying over absolutely nothing & think that everyone would be better off without me. Personally, i think i have depression and i've told my mum but she doesn't believe me 'cause i'm only 16. If i ever discuss it with her she just calls me pathetic or stupid. She's always putting me down and it seems that no one really cares about me. Am i just being stupid?


Answers: Quite often i find myself crying over absolutely nothing & think that everyone would be better off without me. Personally, i think i have depression and i've told my mum but she doesn't believe me 'cause i'm only 16. If i ever discuss it with her she just calls me pathetic or stupid. She's always putting me down and it seems that no one really cares about me. Am i just being stupid?

You are certainly not being stupid. Teenagers are at least as likely to suffer depression as anybody else, and depression is very common (so you're not "weird" or "broken" in any way because of it. Don't be too hard on your mum, though, because most people who haven't suffered depression don't really know much about it -- and none of us gets much preparation for being a parent, and it's not easy working it out as you go along.

It is *really* *important* that you get help for this. It's almost certainly not true that nobody cares about you, and even if it were true it would only be because they don't know you yet. It's hard to deal with this on your own, though, because it's your own mind that's playing tricks on you. Be careful of chemical solutions, but do find somebody who understands depression that you can trust and talk to -- through your family doctor if necessary. You're old enough to override your mum on this if you need to, and it sounds as if you do.

Teens/kids can have depression, and I'm sure it's very common. If she doesn't take you seriously, which she should, try talking to a school counselor. Here's info on the subject you may want to show her:
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Common-Sig...
http://www.provctr.org/qs-childdepressio...
http://parentingteens.about.com/od/depre...
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/te...
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind...
Hope this helps, and Good luck to you!!!

No. Go and see your doctor.

No you are not stupid or foolish. If you feel this way you may be suffering from depression or low self esteem. Confidence is built in tissue thin layers which can be torn down quite easily. Your mother should be trying to boost that in you so you can be a self reliant adult. I suggest you see a school counselor or if older a doctor who may recommend a therapist. The stupid person seeks no help and leads a miserable life.

Not really. You are at a difficult and emotional age - it`s teenage angst.

NEVER. honey, people who either make fun or don't understand when someone has it tough, is sad, etc are Just Plain Losers and have a very pathetic life so they put others down. God bless and please talk to a professional who can help you. hugs xxxx

no,no, no. what you do is make a journal, every time oyu have depression thoughts write it down and date it, but it sounds like most of your problem is comming from your family. try to hold out untill your 18 alright? even if you have depression they cant give you meds or help you with it untill your 18 anyways. just when oyu have these moments calm down, take a breath and sit someplace calming to you. or in the quiet, but dont ever thing it would be better off without. someone will be upset if not alot of pepole. remember that.

no!!! you're not!! , just find someone willing to listen, there will be someone who will, trust me

Thats how my dad was and i was 13 when my depression started! So i went to the school counselor and told her. She and i sat down with my dad and discussed my problems with him. He was really pissed off about it at first. But i didnt care.. i rather have him mad at me than have my depression get worse.

it's a shame that your mom further undermines you self confidence like that. depression is very real and can be helped with counseling or medication. I think you need some self confidence and that would help you a lot.

You are a wonderful human being.
Mother just isn't noticing what stress you are going through at the moment because she doesn't want to.
Mothers don't want their girls to grow up really, but you are and it is not easy. You need support try the links below.

No, if you feel depressed go to the doctor as it can appear at any age and someone putting you down about it will only make it worse. Also remember if you feel somethings wrong it probably is and there's no such thing as stupid some people are just better at saying what they're thinking. I'd advise you ignore your mum, from the sound of it she doesn't know what she's talking about and the way she speaks to you isn't good, don't waste your time talking to her if she's calling you pathetic for asking for help the she's the one that is, not you. Go to the doctor and try talking to your friends they can be understanding and that in itself can make you feel better.

plain << as in plain stupid. now thats funny. you cracked me up not pladed . not stripped. not checked not zig zag. but plain your a jokester... some people have it and you got it . some dont but your funny.. iam sure you dont even know it.. but think about it. you do make people laugh.. but what you need to do is join some group in school and then your going to notice some new friends.. we all have problems . your mom might be your biggest one at the time. youll soon be away from her. have a good day .

I'm sorry if this offends you, but that is an AWFUL thing for a mother to say! It sounds to me like you are depressed, and I think that you should go to see your doctor, or perhaps a counsellor at school if you have one.

It is important that you confide in somebody who will be sympathetic. Just getting things off your chest can make a huge difference. If you do talk to a doctor or counsellor, they are obliged to keep it confidential, so don't worry about your mum finding out.

I hope you feel better soon. Take care x

No you're not being stupid. And your mom doesn't understand depression. She shouldn't just ignore how you feel and claim that you're being stupid for feeling depressed. I think your mom loves you, but she really doesn't understand whats going on with you. And I bet you have tons of people in your life who really love you, so don't think that you're not loved... You should try talking to a school counselor or a doctor or a teacher. There's always someone available to help you with your problems.

It's not so hard to figure out where the depression is coming from with your own mother treating you like that. I had a dad that treated me the same way and I would get extremely emotional.

Your not stupid. I think you should see a psychiatrist for a diagnoses. If the psychiatrist says you have depression and need further assistance shop around for a psychiatry office that will have the atmosphere you like. You should tell the psychiatrist what your mother calls you too.

No you are not stupid depressed may be but not stupid you know what when I read your story I almost cry I feel so sorry for you and I can feel your pain My mom wasn't the nicest mom ever but I talked to her and I told her what does this make me feel it worked with me and I think you should try this too!
My heart goes with you!

No you are not being stupid. A lot of teens feel this way, there is a lot of pressure on teens these days and sometimes it is overwhelming. Talk to someone about how you feel. A friend, Aunt, school counselor, minister, it doesn't matter who just someone you trust. If they help you to feel better, see if they mind your talking to them when you feel bad. If talking to them doesn't help then you may have to find a therapist. Sometimes it's just the stress of being a teen but sometimes it is an illness. My Mom treated me the same way. Mothers don't seem to want to listen and I think it is because they really don't know what to do. Try to find things that make you happy, if you can't find anything that makes you happy you need to get some professional help before this goes too far. But whatever you do, don't think you are being stupid. You are smart for wanting to get help for the way you feel.

You are not stupid...
Your mother is an extremely ignorant unfeeling person...
Seek Professional help today !!!!

I don't want to be reading about you in the papers...
Depression is a Life and Death illness...

No, you ARE suffering from depression. Seek medical advice about it from your family doctor. S/He may refer you to a councillor.

I've felt like that for as long as i can remember. like you i thought i was to young for it to be depression. after having a baby it got worse because of post natal depression. i have since discovered that my long term depression has been caused by a ceretonin imbalance.

you are not pathetic or stupid. i would make an appointment with your doctor, tell him how you've been feeling and also about your mum. if her reaction is to call you stupid all the time it could be her that is causing self esteem issues.

good luck hon, it'll be fine x

No, not at all. Teenagers get depressed; just like adults. It's harder for them alot of times too, because other teenagers can be so cruel. But tell you mom that her calling you stupid and pathetic is not going to help your feeling depressed and like no one cares. You probably should talk to a school counselor if your mom is not going to take you to a doctor. And your your not alone, I find myself crying over nothing too. I think alot of people do, especially women. Life's hard and it gets you down, but don't let people you tell you are too young to be depressed or you're just being over emotional. I write songs and it really helps me vent. Try something like that to help you express what your feeling. Writing, painting, ect really can bring you back up really.

no, i used to cry all the time for no reason and my mom would tell me to get over myself. I hated that. I dont think ur stupid or at least don't sound dumb cause plenty of ppl r like tht.

Hey there,

no disrespect really but your mum is the one being stupid by ignoring you. you can have depression at any age really and it's actually becoming more common in teens and young adults. I think you sould go see your gp, no matter what your mum thinks because you deserve to be heard and treated. Its great that you have had the courage to speak out about it, so many people don't and leave it to get worse...so that's really something so positive! If your still at school, why not ask to see your school counsellor or talk to a trusted teacher or the school nurse and ask for some advice.

best of luck

Hi Lol, Please don't ever think your stupid. I dont know why your mum does that to you.How long has she called you stupid? You don't really think you are do you??I hate to talk about your mum but she's not very bright caling you that.
Now about the depression. So many teenagers are depressed and their parents either don't believe them or they know and don't do a damn thing about it. The next thing you know their son or daughter commit suicide. It's a terrible thing to say but it happens. And I sure don't want it to happen to you.Do you have a school counsler?? Please talk to her and I am sure she can get you somebody you can talk to.
So again hon, you are not stupid and surely you are not pathetic. I will be praying for you hon. Take Care....

Wow, I think I would cry if my mum called me pathetic or stupid!

Teens are just as likely to be depressed as anyone else.
Do some reseach about depression (try http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/art... and if you think that you have it go and see your doctor

Good luck : )

my mum never believed me either she used to say its all in your head and your being stupid and she doesnt want to know also she was always putting me down making me feel worthless and it wasnt just a hormonal teen thing either it happened and it scared me for life im 39 year old now and believe me its done damage to my self esteem, what you need to do is go and see your doctor it will be all confidential and could prescribe you with anti depresents to help you they will take a while to work and could also refer you to see a psychologist, do somthing for yourself now because your mums not helping the situation and you need support, its hard too because you find its hard to talk to friends about feeling depressed .





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