How to tell one of your best friends you cut yourself?!
Question: i just recently started to cut myself..i was really lonley and confused and hurt. i cut myself on the top and middle of my legs so nobodu will see them. i have NEVER cut my wrists. but im sure my best friend kara is gunna see them sooner or later. shes like a second mom to me, i know shes gunna freak on me. screams and yelling about how stupid i am for doin this to myself. i want to tell her, b/c i trust her. i tell her EVERYTHING. but this is just to hard. i just want sum advice , so if u want to awnser this ? by yelling at me, save ur breath. i dnt need some one saying 'ur so stupid for cuttin' or like 'go to a hospital freak'. just tell me how to tell her. i know its wrong and bad, it just helps. i feel crazy after i d it like, omg, im making my self bleed, but seriously. i just need help frm someone
Answers: i just recently started to cut myself..i was really lonley and confused and hurt. i cut myself on the top and middle of my legs so nobodu will see them. i have NEVER cut my wrists. but im sure my best friend kara is gunna see them sooner or later. shes like a second mom to me, i know shes gunna freak on me. screams and yelling about how stupid i am for doin this to myself. i want to tell her, b/c i trust her. i tell her EVERYTHING. but this is just to hard. i just want sum advice , so if u want to awnser this ? by yelling at me, save ur breath. i dnt need some one saying 'ur so stupid for cuttin' or like 'go to a hospital freak'. just tell me how to tell her. i know its wrong and bad, it just helps. i feel crazy after i d it like, omg, im making my self bleed, but seriously. i just need help frm someone
I am so sorry. I compleatly indersand what you are going through. I cut my self but not as much as I used to. I was saved by one of my best friends. He is like a brother to me and like you I new he would find out sooner or later. It is so important that you tell her. Sit her down and tell her that you have something very important to tell/ show her. Tell her not to say anything till your done explaining. Show her what you have done to yourself. I know first hand how hard it is. just don't let it get as far as I did. I told him how I atenpted suicide. You know what the first thing he said to me is " if you go I will follow" he saved my life. she probably wont think you are stupid because she knows your not. I wish you the best of luck. Be strong.
It's good you want to stop/tell her. Telling her will help, I promise.
Take her aside sometime. (NOT in front of lots of people, preferably when you are alone) Tell her, "Kara, I have something really important to tell you," once you have her attention say, "I really need you to be understanding and listen to what I'm about to say. Please don't freak out... Well, I don't know why I did this but I started to cut myself." see what she says, tell her how you feel and felt when you did it, ask for her advice.
good luck and i hope you feel better soon.
When you two are alone, just straight out tell her, I hope you're going to stop or are planning to. If you tell her and continue to cut yourself than you shouldn't be telling her for the sake of telling her. If she's like the friend you described than she's not going to stop screaming at you or give up on you until you promise to stop. If you ask for her help to get through this, her being like a second mom, she would want to do everything she could to help.
when I told my friend that "I wanted to die." he just said "I'll meet you on the other side." Me and my best friend were friends since we were 3 years old and have always been together. Your friend will overreact most likely, but remember she wants to see you alive and not dead... I would say just tell her in private and don't fight her b/c remember she just found out her friend cuts herself... but just tell her and she will try to help you eventually
I'd suggest bringing it up to her by bringing up the event or events that made you start doing it. If you start talking about the things that made you start cutting, you can subtly tell her during the conversation. She'll probably still freak out and tell you cutting is the stupidest thing to do, but at least you will have told her and she can maybe help you stop.
Tell her you have something serious to talk about. Say how lonely and painful your life has been, how you haven't handled it well, and that as a result you cut yourself. You could ask her to help you help yourself. If she cries or yells, don't freak out. Just wait quietly for her to calm down. If she is truly a friend, she will calm down and want to help you. You also don't have to tell her though. You can go to a doctor and talk to them about it. They can give you medication and send you to a therapist. My mom and cousin cuts them selves, but when they are on the right medication they don't. Cutting is very common, so don't beat yourself up about it. Think of it like any other medical problem to be solved. Get medication and see a therapist and you will be right as rain.
If you feel like you need to tell your friend, sit down with her when your alone. Try telling her about how you have been feeling first. Then tell her that you have been cutting, if she starts to get mad, just tell her this it not what you need.
P.S. you should go and see someone about these feelings
Well show her the marks and tell her you did it...on purpose.
When I was younger I used to cut myself. And like you mostly on my legs. I never wore skirts so this wasn't a problem at first.... I was involved in some charity work where I had to wear a costume. My mum was going through a lot at the time, but she still made some time to make me this costume. Of course this costume involved a skirt and it wasn't until she had nearly finished making the whole thing before I plucked up the courage to say that I can't parade around in a skirt with legs like a chopping board. Basically, I said "I have something I want to tell you, but I don't want to talk about it. But I've been cutting myself. Sorry." She didn't push me and we never actually spoke about it again. It wasn't long before I grew out of it. And I don't mean for that to sound condescending. But you will. It's not an age thing, but it doesn't tend to be one of those things that you spend your life doing.
Sorry I've gone off on a tangent. I hope that helped.
even husbands and wives do not tell everything all the time...even in marriage you have boundaries....the same as in friendship. Do you tell your mother everything??? It is up to you if you want to tell your friend...but you are not obligated just because they are a good friend.
You could go to a doctor and therapy; professionals are what will help you...your friend is someone to go out with and have fun...