Im depressed. please help?!
Question: I'm not trying to have a pity party or anything but for the past few months ive just been SO DOWN!! i just feel like im not worth anything and ill never have a good life and ill never get married or anything. Ppl say im too hard on myself but i cant help it! wat can i do? thanks for your help
Answers: I'm not trying to have a pity party or anything but for the past few months ive just been SO DOWN!! i just feel like im not worth anything and ill never have a good life and ill never get married or anything. Ppl say im too hard on myself but i cant help it! wat can i do? thanks for your help
i am also in a depressed state of mind (not for same reasons), but a friend said something that instantly clicked in my mind and hopefully it will do the same to you.....she asked me (in regards to my depressive state of mind) " in your personal book of life , do want this to be a 5 or 10 page chapter or do you want the rest of your book to read like this"
Took me second and then i realized that i dont want to spend the rest of my life being a downer.
So i guess what i want to say is all these wonderful things will happen for you as soon as you become happy with yourself.
And next time you get those thoughts popping in your brain distract yourself immediatly, read a book, call a friend, go for a walk who knows you might meet that special person while your out on that walk. Well good luck and keep your head up.
I feel your pain. 26 and not even in a very serious relationship. Was engaged... but dumped his cheating @ss. Want to have kids, but feel like it won't happen.
I know EXACTLY what you're going throuh! Try going through that for 2 whole years! Just try to think of the good things in life. Go places, see people. And what ever you do, DO NOT EAT your problems away!!! That is the WORST thing you can do. DOn't worry, you'll feel better soon!
i have the same problem aswell i want children but i only want one i am soo depressed about life. The best thing i could do would be go and see your doctor and he will have the cure for u xx
i think all women go throught this stage in life...i know i have..
Perhaps you could just put all those wants on hold (on a back burner or whatever you want to call it).
Then just enjoy the moment you are living in, not be constantly looking at your possible future.
I do know (even though, by your standards I am probably a very old lady) how you feel. I had low self-esteem as a teenager. I honestly couldn't believe that anyone would want to go out with me - and my defense was to make damn sure they didn't by being unpleasant to boys. I found it hard not to be self-conscious all the time. As I got older, old ladies would say 'Are you courting yet?' which as I had never had a boyfriend I found hard to take.
Anyway you don't want my life story. I decide to go to college and immerse myself in the social life there and put the 'will I, won't I' things to the back of my mind.
I've been married now for 35 years, I have four children and five grandchildren. And I am certain you will find happiness, as I have.
Best Wishes, grannyjill
I was diagnosed with depression when I was 18. I am now 24 and it wasn't until I saw a psychiatrist a couple of years ago that things improved. I would say see a counsellor and psychiatrist to really find out where your troubles lie.
I'm in high school and my mom used to act like that. My mom left my dad last summer and they were just rele sad all the time. Now they are happy. They both are dating and made it through everything. I'm sure that you will fill bettter when something good happens. Spend some time with some friends and you family. You'll fell better sooner than you know it.
get drunk and have a shag you saddo
You need to break the pattern. go somewhere hang with somoone or do something that can help you feel good about yourself. I suffer from SAD and can relate. Special UV lights help but breaking out of the same old rut is essential. Good luck and feel better!!! {:>)
It sounds like maybe you need to talk with someone about your depression and the underlying causes of it so that you can properly deal with it and move on.
By working through the issues that have you down in the dirt and sad you will be able to effectively move past them and begin to live a happy and productive life. It may take the help of a certain medication. You make actually have a chemical imbalance in your brain thats causing this problem. Thats why the main advice i can offer is see a therapist talk with them and explain it to them. Good luck
-Make sure you have at least 1 good friend you can talk to about this who really cares about you, even if they don't understand how you feel they try to.
-Make a list of all the things you are good at, no matter how random, like balancing a book on your head (I'M AMAZING AT THAT!) and take it out whenever you feel down.
-Listen to HAPPY music, no suicidal hard pissed off kinda music. Beatles!!! and Rolling Stones! If you like them, that is. They may be old but it's impossible to listen to the song "Here Comes the Sun" without feeling a tiny bit happy.
-Smile, even when you aren't happy. Not a fake picture smile, just do it the way you do when you are happy. Research shows that smiling triggers memories and hormones and whatnot and makes you a little happier automatically.
-Look at Calvin and Hobbes cartoons. :-)
-Don't watch too much TV or go online too much. Read more, or go outside and play sports, be active!!! And of course hang out with friends.
^hope this helps. If you are a teenager, these times will pass. It is typical for a teen or someone going thru puberty to feel depressed.
You obviously feel like it because its true. You have the most pitiful life i have ever seen in a person. I would rather be a Jew living in Poland in 1942 than be you. And the truth is that your not too hard on yourself, your too easy on yourself. I don't see why you would even post this question when you obviously fail so hard. Get off the internet and go buy a knife.
yeah pity party's are damn useless. you need to find out why you feel this way if there isnt a reason well thats hard, you'll need to learn how do deal with it. you need to remember your a worthy human being(doesn't really help does it). you do need to talk to someone doesn't have to be a shrink, can just be a friend don't worry about what they will think youd be surprised by their reactions, and if you can see a counselor. if you cant do the previous email me ill talk