Why's it so hard to do whats right..?!
Question: I seem to fail at everything I do. I fail at relationships. I give all I can but when something goes wrong or bad happens I get scared and I get self-destructive. I find myself abusing dangerous drugs as an escape from everything. I can't seem to find the will to want to better myself. I find myself wanting to throw it all away. I'm scared b/c I'm almost at the point to where I can't feel anymore. I just wish I could figure out what my purpose is in life. I feel so lost.
Answers: I seem to fail at everything I do. I fail at relationships. I give all I can but when something goes wrong or bad happens I get scared and I get self-destructive. I find myself abusing dangerous drugs as an escape from everything. I can't seem to find the will to want to better myself. I find myself wanting to throw it all away. I'm scared b/c I'm almost at the point to where I can't feel anymore. I just wish I could figure out what my purpose is in life. I feel so lost.
Fear of success. Once you achieve success others and mostly yourself will expect more of you. You will have more to lose. The more you have to lose the more hurt you will be and the more you will hurt others.
The ironic thing is that even with your self destructive behavior you are still not putting yourself first. The easy bad thing is to take the drug, cheat on the girl. The right, hard and more fulfilling thing is to take a walk, walk away from the drug and be faithful to the girl you are with.
Regret weights tons, responsibility weighs ounces. You will find that if you always not matter how trivial the decision feels that doing the right thing no matter what will help you put yourself first.
Don't throw that wrapper out the window, give your seat to the pregnant woman even if she looks mean. It isn't about her it is about the baby, she isn't the focus. Not throwing the trash shows respect for the world you live in.
Respobsibility breeds respect and both breed results.
Tomorrow, from brushing your teeth until you go to bed just try to do the responsible, right thing in every motion you make and you will sleep better tomorrow night.
Get some counsiling if you are up to it. Hide in your bed for a day or so if you need to.
Put you first with the goal of being responsible and doing the right thing. Remember things you used to be interested in and try one again. Give yourself a break.
One moment, 10 minutes at a time at first and then pretty soon it will be a week at a time then a month then your life is better than you thought possible.
Ultimately you can only fail you!
Good luck!
Ok. Chillax. People are often self conscious, no one is perfect. The only reason you see yourself doing nothing right, is because you have pre-formed opinions already there, face it if you didn't be so hard on your self you would not think you were that bad at everything. I recommend a change in attitude, and if that isn't successful go to a councilor.
You're way past anything I can help with. You need to get professional help. Sorry, but is IS just that simple.
LIfe is hard it always will be
I once was there and it is a scary place to be, but you need to see that there is a place for all of us,
Seek help with your sadness please dont turn to drugs to escape it, it will only lead to more pain and you are worth more than that
I found believing in god helped me; find something to hold strong to something that means everything to you and work for it and seek professional help
You will see the light start to shine again
Truly i wish you the best if you need someone to chat to feel free to email me
You sound depressed. Maybe see someone for that? Also it can help take the focus off your problems if you can help other people. Check into volunteering somewhere or look for a job where you can help people less capable than yourself. If being around people isn't your thing, try the local humane society and help take care of the animals there who don't have owners. I hope you can hang in there... at least the scenery changes day to day...you can look forward to that.
Do yourself a Favor and call/go to a Narcotics Anonymous Meeting or an AA meeting. These people All Suffer from the Same things that you are Suffering from!! They Know how to Help you. You will be Surprised to find out just How Many people Feel the Exact Same Way that you feel. Oh, they can help you to understand " What your Purpose Is in Life" !!!!! You are Not Alone!!!!!
Man, i'm so sorry that you're feeling like this. It's the crapest feeling in the world and i'm sorry that you feel so alone right now.
You're not the only one, if that's any comfort at all. In fact, i'm one of the most apparently 'together' peole i know and i'm horrendously messed up...everyone is pretty messed up and none of us have our lives together. Sometimes we do better than others, but mostly, we all fall pretty far away from perfection tree.
For me, it was God who changed my life. Honestly. Having a relationship with him and understanding that no matter how messed up i get, he loves me at my worst...it changes everything. You've done the hardest part though man, you've recognised that you're messed up and that you can't do it on your own. You do the wrong thing and if left to your own devices you destroy yourself. The next part is understanding why and what to do about it.
This is what i believe:
1. God loves us. We're created to be in relationship with him - not just any old relationship but one where God is not a distant airy fairy concept that we ponder from time to time, but a person who is intimately involved in our lives, who can change us and unburden us. We're MADE for that relationship, so when it's lacking, we feel it, there's something missing.
2. We don't have this awesome relationship with God because we are sinful (not perfect) and because God IS perfect, our sin separates us from him. The cost of dealing with or paying off our sin is death, or paying for sin with our own lives.
3. BUT (here comes the life-changing bit) Because God loves us so much BUT God is also perfectly just (meaning he can't just wipe the slate clean, the price has to be paid), he paid the price so that we wouldn't have to by dying in our place (through the person of Jesus Christ). We don't deserve it and there's nothing we can do to earn it. He did it for us BEFORE we ever had a chance to follow, love or choose him, while we were still drowning in our own sin and mess. He didn't ask us to get it together before he offered us a way out, he offers it to us while we are at our worst.
4. We have to make a choice. God wont force himself on us. He has made himself known, provided a way out of our messed up lives and into a place where we can know him and be changed by him and asks us to make a decision - will we accept the gift he has given us and allow him to pay the price in our place, or will we choose to reject him and insist on paying the price ourselves. It's up to us.
The important thing to realise is though, you can't NOT choose. In choosing to not choose, you've already chosen to reject God, but while there is still breath in your body you have the opportunity to turn around and choose him.
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