I think im depressed but i dont know how to tell? Plz help.?!


Question: This might be weird but i feel depressed but i also feel like i should be depressed. let me explain. a lil over a year ago i was attacked at home. i was pregnant at the time, i went to the hospital, moved out of that apt and moved out of state with my fiancee to his parents. since then ive had my child and gone back to work. i work 10 hour shifts 5 days a week with an hour drive each way. i have NO energy, no ambition, no hope for the future, i make no plans. i dont feel like going out, i cant sleep at night, im IMPATIENT more so than usual, i wonder what people would do with out me, feel like they would be better off if i WASNT there at all. ALWAYS feel angry and ive been told im not the same ME. am i feeling depressed because i think i should or am i really depressed?


Answers: This might be weird but i feel depressed but i also feel like i should be depressed. let me explain. a lil over a year ago i was attacked at home. i was pregnant at the time, i went to the hospital, moved out of that apt and moved out of state with my fiancee to his parents. since then ive had my child and gone back to work. i work 10 hour shifts 5 days a week with an hour drive each way. i have NO energy, no ambition, no hope for the future, i make no plans. i dont feel like going out, i cant sleep at night, im IMPATIENT more so than usual, i wonder what people would do with out me, feel like they would be better off if i WASNT there at all. ALWAYS feel angry and ive been told im not the same ME. am i feeling depressed because i think i should or am i really depressed?

First off, I am so sorry you went through something as terrible as that. An experience like that is almost certain to have long lasting effects on your mental health. It sounds like you could use some help.

The good news is that if you get help you will begin to feel better quickly. There are all different kinds of therapy to help you as well as several pharmaceutical options. You should start with a visit to your general doctor. Explain your symptoms and they can offer you a referral. If you decide to go with therapy understand that it may take you several tries until you find a therapist that you feel comfortable. You should also understand that the work involved might be difficult and painful but if you commit to it and do the work required you will almost certainly find relief.

Depression is common and natural and there are many options available to you. With some perseverance you can be on your way to recovery in a short time so that you can be the best parent you can.

Best of luck.

It does sound like you're depressed. No motivation, no interest in activies, persistant sadness or emotional numbness, ect. All symptoms of depression.

You should call your regular doctor. They can help you find a counselor or therapist, which you need. Good luck! If you have any more questions, I'm willing to help. PM me.

It does sound like you are depressed. You have reason to be. First things first...You need see a doctor. Medicine will help...It may not seem like it now but I've been there. You also need to make time for yourself. Go out and do something....Anything. And everyone will not be better off without you...especially your child.

you are feeling depressed because you think you should be feeling that way *because you feel guilty and its making you depressed so on the other hand you are really depressed*; get out and need to have some fun seriously life is too short to live under depression

you long to do something meaningfull with your life;find out what you want to do on top of parenting;you may be excited;you may feel trapped now cause you are a mother and future wife;it sounds as though nyou want to do something differant with your life besides being a normal parent type person;maybe you are meant to help other people;maybe a hostess in charge of keeping people happy;there is something calling for you my dear;but I know you are not satisfied with your current situation...maybe you feel;Okay!!!I HAVE done the motherhood thing;now whats next???,you want to get out there and learn and be free;you wish to discover and make a mark in history;leave your imprint in a way;you want to do it all,you are restless because of this;time to make a decission;GOD may be calling for you to be one of MY angels...

I am sorry to hear that you were attacked over a little a year ago, that you moved out of state, work long hours, and are experiencing symptoms such as having no energy, no hope for the future, and feel that people would be better off if you weren't around at all. Even though some people may have said your not the same you, from what you have said about yourself- it sounds like you aren't happy with the way things are going in your life right now. Is it depression? Maybe. The most important thing is that you do not deserve to feel the way you are feeling right now. So, I would suggest seeing someone that can maybe help sort out what you are going through. Best of luck :)

There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.

Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each.

Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.

I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).

If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.

Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.

They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.

If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. See insomnia treatments, in section 3, at ezy build, below. Use one of the relaxation methods, in bed, after lights out, on pages 2, 11, 2.c, or 2.i, but they can take some time to learn, (progressive muscular relaxation excepted) so learn and become proficient in their use during the day; an alternative is to use the EFT, in section 53, and pages 2.q, and 2.o, saying to yourself: "Even though I currently have a sleep disorder, I deeply and completely accept myself." (or choose your own wording) while you use the acupressure tapping.

Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set "wind down" routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep, but the idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques.
If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris including multiple weblinks.

It is the modern syndrome...
called "Lack of sleep"!!!
Many parents go through this...
In particular single mothers!

There are so many parents that have very little time
for their self....let alone their child!
I hope you can find someone to watch your child for
a little while...(on your days off).

I feel for you with the long, daily commute.
I know on your days off, you have a lot to do.
You also need quality time to reconnect with your child.
If you have family / friends nearby
you need to reconnect with them, also.

You need to find something enjoyable to do.
There are churches and organizations in your area....
that may be able to help you with various programs offered...
Childcare,Counseling, Self-defense classes may help you to
feel more secure.
It may get those, endorphins "Happy Chemicals" going!!!
I'll be praying for you!!!





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