Should I tell these things to the therapist?!
Question: I will start seeing my friend's therapist who he talks highly of. He likes the therapist and has been seeing him for some time. My friend has done some terrible things nobody knows about but some of it has harmed me. Do I disclose these things to our mutual therapist or do I keep that out of the sessions so he doesn't end up looking bad?
Answers: I will start seeing my friend's therapist who he talks highly of. He likes the therapist and has been seeing him for some time. My friend has done some terrible things nobody knows about but some of it has harmed me. Do I disclose these things to our mutual therapist or do I keep that out of the sessions so he doesn't end up looking bad?
If you want to go see your friend's therapist... "I" would go as a 'spy'... but I would keep ME (as in YOU) to 'myself'!!! Let the 'therapist' talk about your 'friend'... as much as he will... which will probably be very LITTLE!
That alone, trying to keep 'all that' straight in MY mind, would make ME want to go see a 'THERAPIST'!!! And, being HONEST (as I HOPE you know that I TRY to be), I CERTAINLY would NOT go to ANY therapist who KNOWS ANY of MY friends! (Let me say that again - 'friends' - FRIENDS) You KNOW what I mean...
GOOD LUCK with THAT!!!
Better 'therapy' would be to take a 'cruise', or a vacation...! ;)
I would go to anoth therapist. Therapist are suppose to me non judgemental, but the therapist might look at your friend in a different light, I believe it is only natural to look at someone different when you have some more information about them. Therapist usually dont think in term as good or bad, or right or wrong, but to keep things simple i would go to a different one
If your friend has talked to the therapist, maybe you should tell the therapist, it will help you and him. If your friend is not telling his therapist something that he did, but he did to you, than you need to tell this therapist to help yourself, and help your friend.
First, the therapist cannot reveal what has been discussed in sessions with you or your friend! Also, I feel it is a good idea to start out, and always tell your therapist the truth. Even something so minuscule seeming to you, could be the key to helping solve your troubles. One more thing, if you can, do NOT tell your friend what YOU and the therapist talk about in your sessions. If asked..just say that it's supposed to be private, and you'd like to keep it that way, so nothing happens between the two of you.
Good Luck
Momma P
a therapist cannot help you if the whole truth of the problems are not revealed;dont worry,they have to keep it secret if you telll them to,or they would be breaking the law;its like telling a preist in confession;they will try to help you if they can...
Seriously do not go to the same therapist, it is a conflict of interest. Either that or do not disclose the name of your friend, or hint that your friend is a patient of his.
if i were you i wouldnt go to your friend's therapist. also the therapist should be professional enough to realize a conflict of interest and not take you as his/her patient. that beign said...if the therapist thinks it is ok to talk to him/her, then you should disclose any information. he/she should hear everyhting abotu wahts bothering you even if its your friend. the therapist can't tell your friend what you said about him/her...so you can say whatever you want. Id be concerned though...id rather have a therapist not attached to anyone i knew.
The short answer is yes. It's not marriage counseling. By law you're therapist will not talk about what you say to you're friend and vice versa. Ethically whatever you tell him/her about what you're friend has done won't influence how he/she treats your friend. Finally, if you think it's what you need to talk about, talk about it. Having said that some things to think about:
1. Just because the therapist has been good for your friend doesn't mean he/she will be good for you. If it's not working for you, find someone else.
2. You should NOT be concerned about making your friend look bad - that's not your job. You need to be honest and talk about the things that have harmed you. Don't mention his name if you're worried about it. If you're not going to be honest then you're wasting your time.
3. Are you seeing the therapist because your friend wants you to or because you want to? The answer makes a big diffence. Don't continue the victimization.
you can tell your therapist and leave the names anonymous.. they can help you, but they need to know point A to get to point B to get to Point C.. so it's best to let the therapist know all you can, but if you are ashamed too.. leave some names out or make up a name if that makes you comfortable.
You should not be worried about the image of your friend with his therapist. Seeing a therapist is about YOUR mental health, not your friend's reputation.
In fact, it may help your friend by seeing the same therapist. If you discuss these things, it will help the therapist better understand your friend and lead to better therapy for your friend. Best of luck to you.
Find another therapist. That way it will be a brand new start...a fresh approach (for the Therapist). And, by all means, tell all. You can't get the appropriate advice or help it you don't reveal whats bothering you.
I wish you well.
You need to be honest and forthright...I am sure the therapist may know some what of your friends rep...besides everything is confidential so no need to worry about that!
it is best to tell him and tell him also you don't want to make your friend look bad..... this will help in closer in yourself and with your friend.... you do sound like a true friend thank you !