I really need some proper advice please help?!
Question: ok so i'm seventeen, im a girl and i really need some help here. So here is a list of what the main things are that are really distressing me right..
1. im confused about my sexuality
2. Ive been cutting for two years which is getting harder and harder because im realising how stupid it is but i still do it
3. A year or so ago my family had really big problems with my brother, alcoholic ,mental health problems right that lasted a year.
4. my sis split up with her bf and theyre fighting over their kid, my nephew.
5. i cant talk to anyone ive never been able to because i never open up to people for some reason, except anonoymously over the net which doesnt help. so i also cant tell my counsellor anything,she only knows about number 2.
6. I have to stop seeing her in two weeks because i finish school then and she works from my school n i cant afford to pay her privately but i really want to go and get help from her.
7. i have my major exams in 3 weeks and im soo failing.
Answers: Ever hear the phrase "sink or swim?"
Swimming is hard work, it's exhausting...but the alternative is pretty bad, right?
You never open up to anyone, which means they don't know what's going on with you because they can't read minds. If they don't know what's going on with you, they can't offer their advice/opinion on it. With no advice/opinions on it, you'll never know how common your problems are.
So, it's sink or swim time. You already see where not opening up to anyone has gotten you. Do you want to keep going this route, or do you want to swim?
You've got two weeks of professional help left. These aren't the end-all, but they generally offer the best and safest type of advice, the advice most commonly backed by experience and study.
Suck in a breath, square you shoulders, march into the counselor's office and spill your guts, completely and truthfully. It might surprise you that in the end, it'll hurt a lot less than cutting yourself.
Go to www.webmd.com and search 'self mutilation.' It might give you some insight into why you're cutting yourself, but don't stop there. Use that counselor while she's there to use.