Unhappy for no reason?!
Question: Ok. When I am alone; and usually at night this gets worse. I am really sad. I don't cry. I'm past that. I just feel empty. Like I'm all gone. Like I went to the movies with my best friend and best guy friend (who i actually like a lot) we had a greattime. Welaughed alot. And as soon as they dropped my off at home, I was really sad. And I felt so alone. Even though my best guy friend was texting me and i know that i will have plans tomorrow, I am still sad. All my problems seem to enlarge themselves toa a point where they are overwhelming. And it really hurts. It isn't too bad. But I am really sad. Help please
Answers: No matter what way you look at it, happiness is the ultimate reason to live. The ultimate goal for life - unless you are guided by a personal purpose (or a religious purpose, if that's your thing), which sometimes overshoots that - is to be happy.
If you're alive, there is no reason to be unhappy. None. At. All. You may say, "but this and that are keeping me down, putting me in a bad mood, making me unhappy!" So what? Nobody says you have to be unhappy about it. Logically, there is absolutely no reason to be unhappy about most of your problems. Nearly all of our problems are completely, absolutely petty in the big picture, and quite silly - and we hold on to them tightly. If you're living, and you are unhappy, there is no point. If you believe there is no afterlife, then the best thing you can do is enjoy your experience while you are here. If you believe there is no afterlife and that when you die there will be no memories to relate to (it makes sense but is much colder), so your experiences here are completely irrelevant - take the time and be happy anyway. Enjoy it while you can. If you believe in an afterlife, then wouldn't living your life the best way you can (which, should at least be satisfying in your purpose if not joyous, if you consider yourself the type of religious person who must sacrifice everything to show yourself as worthy of your God), happily, the best thing you could possibly do?
As a quote goes, "There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path." That's what most people don't understand - happiness is not something to be achieved. Happiness is a state to be. You don't get happiness when you get a few things - happiness has very little, if not nothing, to do with material possessions.
True happiness is contentment, joy, self-assured satisfaction in life as it is. This is the kind of happiness that can ride you through life and all its difficulties, if you know how to work it. And there are several ways to do it.
The simplest and easiest way to do it is just through appreciation. Appreciate what you have. Look around at your life - look at everything you have that other people don't have. In fact, look at everything you have that other people do have - because it's possible that you might not have it. If you feel you don't have anything - you do. By the fact that you are reading this, this means you have life. Even if you're near suicidal, to the point that you want everything to stop - just think about it. Think about the fact that you can be happy if you really want to.
The rest is up to you. You always have a choice.