I don't know what to do anymore. (My boyfriend has Aspergers)?!
Question: I have been in my current relationship for 3 years. He and I have been through a lot throughout the years, and I love him dearly. But, quite frankly I just don't know what to do anymore. He has Aspergers Syndrome, which I have done an immense amount of research on in order to understand it further.
I try very hard to be the very best girlfriend that I can for him. I don't ask him to get a job, or take any responsibility. I shower him with gifts, and pour my heart out to him. And I just don't feel like I have it in me anymore to take care of him when I get very little in return. I let him do his own thing for weeks, and tolerate his snide comments towards me. In return I ask for just a single night of him being nice to me, or just talking to me for a few minutes before I go into work, and all he ever can think about is what he wants. He never considers how he hurts me.
It is beginning to drive me insane.
I can't control myself anymore. I am beginning to loose my patients.
Answers: My husband has Aspergers....and he earns $150,000.00 a year... Just because he has Aspergers doesn't mean I don't expect him to work...
Just because I love a man with a disability (or syndrome) doesn't mean he can call me nasty names--sit around and do nothing or think this is all we need....
Yes, my husband is distracted a lot--busy with what I think are some of the strangest projects--he has no social skills but that doesn't mean he is an A$$ about it....
Sounds like you boyfriend wants a free ride the rest of his life and isn't willing to use the tools he learns to manage HIS Syndrome.... Sounds like he wants a mommy and no reason to put out effort....
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