How would this affect my recovery from sexual abuse?!
Question: I already have a son from a previous relationship and i would love him to have a brother or sister. i met a sperm donor who has been helping me by donating artificially but now the donor says we should try having sex because its more successful. i want another baby sooo much and even though im not very keen on the idea i would try anything if it was going to work.
should i have sex with him???
the donor is not being pervy as far as i can see, he also said he would continue helping me artificially if i didnt want to try the natural way, he is really saying it because he wants me to get pregnant.
The other thing im worried about is that i am not finished in my recovery from sexual assaults i suffered when i was younger. how would this affect me if i was to go ahead and sleep with him??
By the way i am 32 years old and completely self sufficient - i own my own home and i do not collect benefits.
Answers: i have not heard that before but its always possible and if you are that focused anything is worth a go
however i would put a few safeguards in place if you are to do this whilst remaining in control
make sure you draw up the rules when where how long you try for how often each month
it may be that you have to involve someone else at least at first to act as your safegard this would allow you to agree a safe word much as in s and m calling this out with another person in ear shot would give you control not only over your 'sperm donar' to end proceedings but also as a guarentee that that was abided by
you sound more over things than you believe - remember if you are to learn to trust again you are going to have to start by making sure that you are the one with control before you can start to learn to giv a little
good luck you know what makes you vaunrable and what you need to do to stay safe - you are the one in control
if you hav a good feeling about him and its what you want!