I was abused and im having a hard time telling a friend?!


Question: I was abused and im having a hard time telling a friend!?
so i need to tell one of my friend's about my past i dont know how!. i was raped and abused two years ago!. we were friends at this point, but i couldnt tell her!. i need to tell her, but i cant and i dont know how!. after i was victimized another male friend of mine sexually abused me also!. i need to tell my friend but i dont know how!!! i was thinking about telling her over aim, but that might be a bad idea!. also i dont want her to tell anyone, help!!!
i dont see her very often
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Answers:
I am not sure why you really need to tell HER!. Maybe you just need to tell SOMEONE, and now you have!. You need someone to listen to you, but telling her about it now might make her feel hurt that you did not tell her previously!. Also, if you don't want her to tell anyone, the only way to ensure your secret is safe is by not telling her!. The important thing is for you to get some help from a professional counselor!. None of this was your fault!. However, the truth is that predators kind of have a sick attraction to some people as easy victims!. That is why so many rape victims have abused by more than one perpetrator!. You need someone to help you be a survivor and not a victim!. The last thing you want is to develop a learned helplessness the next time someone does not want to stop!. You are strong and your feelings matter!. Get help to find your voice!. Good luck!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

i am so very sorry that happened to you!. there are tons of CREEPS in this world!. 1st of all you need to go to your parents and family!. 2nd i think you and your friend should go to the movies or go to her house or have her come over and just talk to her about it!. i am sure you will feel lots better about sharing your feelings, it is unhealthy to keep all your thoughts and secrets inside of ya!. i hope you figure it all out and i will pray for you and all the other women who are sexually and physically abused!. good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

i had the same problem with telling a friend about how i used to have an eating disorder!. i don't know why but it was so difficult for me to tell her!. things like this make people feel ashamed and they shouldn't!. tell her in person it's the best way to do it!. just tell her that you feel comfortable enough with her that you want to tell her about things you've gone through and that you trust her enough to believe she won't tell anyone!.

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first let me say im sorry that you were hurt this way!. i was abused as child by my half brother!. it was hard to put it behind me!. it sounds to me that you are still effected by this and i think until you get some help from a professonal ( even a counseler at school) and are able to deal with this you shouldn't tell your friend just yet!. you seem to be very confussed ( you need to tell her, you don't want to tell her!?) and if you don't see her very often then how close of a friend is she!? you don't need to tell every friend you have about everything thats ever happened to you!. save these extremly personal things for extremly close friends!. good luck to you and god bless you!. i hope your able to find the help you need and please be careful so no one can hurt you this way again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Forget telling your friend!. How about telling authorities first!. Keep your abuser in check!

Good luck, this stuff is very tough!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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