Should I be fantasizing this?!
Question: Should I be fantasizing this!?
I ask because, I was raped when I was 16!. My mom was very supportive and seeked help for me!. I am 23 now and happily married!.!.!.!.Yet lately I have been having vivid dreams about my rape!. My biggest problem is, I wake up sweaty and aroused!. That is a huge problem!.!.!.!.and not normal!.!.!.!. Any advice!? Should I see a doctor ASAP!?
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I actually think this is completely normal!. I was raped also and received years of counseling afterwards!. I learned that some women even orgasm when being raped not because they wanted it or enjoyed it but because it was a natural body response!. So something like that is probably going on when you are sleeping and dreaming!. If it would make you feel better and help you then I would see a therapist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you feel it's a problem then yes, you should seek counseling!.
However, it can be normal for a woman to fantasize about being forcibly "taken" by a man, not that it means she wants to be raped or wanted to be raped!. I know one of my fantasies is to have my husband take me by force!. I don't think it's a problem in my own relationship but you have different circumstances than I do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
However, it can be normal for a woman to fantasize about being forcibly "taken" by a man, not that it means she wants to be raped or wanted to be raped!. I know one of my fantasies is to have my husband take me by force!. I don't think it's a problem in my own relationship but you have different circumstances than I do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all do not panic!. Go talk to a rape counsellor, or a sociologist!. Explain everything the third time you see them, just give a brief description the first time let them know what the problem is!. get to know them first!. Make sure they are the same gender as you, and know what they are talking about!.
Being raped was your first sexual experience!. I do not know the details, but was wrong!. The person did that to you!. Must recount what happened and realise it was not enjoyable!. There is a big difference to that and being made love to by your husband!. There is no comparisons!. It is not unusual for victims latter on to compare the two!. Just make sure you do it while awake and concess, not through subchess and asleep!. That way you have control, and you make decisions on what to do!. Also try to at the same time participate in your relationship with husband, do not blindly go along with his decisions, participate in decision making and planing as well as carrying out decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being raped was your first sexual experience!. I do not know the details, but was wrong!. The person did that to you!. Must recount what happened and realise it was not enjoyable!. There is a big difference to that and being made love to by your husband!. There is no comparisons!. It is not unusual for victims latter on to compare the two!. Just make sure you do it while awake and concess, not through subchess and asleep!. That way you have control, and you make decisions on what to do!. Also try to at the same time participate in your relationship with husband, do not blindly go along with his decisions, participate in decision making and planing as well as carrying out decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com