Self harm!!?!
Question: Self harm!!!?
My mum has found out that i have been self harming for the past 5 years I'am (16 nearly 17 now) when she first confrontedme about it she was really understanding and nice which i was very happy about as i thought she might be angry!. I somehow managed to convice her not the send me to a counsilor as i know it would work from previous experince but she told my dad who said 'I was attention seeking' and 'she will stop now people know' which is aloada rubbish tbh!.Anyway i cut again 2 days after and tried to hide it from my mum but she found out and she did gomental at me I'm scared she is going to send me to a counsilor i dont want to go how can i get out of it!? Is there any other waysof stopping self harm!? I' am in no way proud of my self harm it makes me feel sick when i think about it, but it has almost become an addiction!. Please I dont need a lecture I need your help!. Any advice would be appreciated!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
hi,
i used to self harm when i was younger and i found that self harming was a way in which to stop my emotional pain by creating physical pain, i have stopped now and havent done it for years!. The only way to stop is to look deep inside yourself and find the underlying cause of why you started it in the first place, you need to deal with your emotions in another way!. Instead of self harming or when you feel the urge to do grab a pen and loads of paper and just sit and write down all of what your thinking even if its gibberish, just keep writing until you feel better!. People who judge people for self harming dont understand the reason behind it and if people judge you for it and call you attention seeking they are wrong!. Self harming is not a form of attention seeking as many self harmers hide what they are doing from those they love and who love them, so the comment that its attention seeking is a load of rubbish in my opinion, i realise other people may disagree with me but i have been there!.
The key to stopping is wanting to stop and finding out what causes you to cut in the first place, instead of cutting maybe have a good cry but i dont recommend that one as i used to feel more like cutting when i was crying!. I think the writing aspect is a good idea though and then later when you are feeling better you can rad what you wrote and then think about ways to overcome these issues!. Are you having trouble at school!? ie being bullied or something!? how is your home life!? Try and take up a hobby or talk to other people that have been in your situation, counsellors can help to some degree but not always and i think its harder talking to a stranger as you tend to tell them what you think they want to hear whereas someone you know and trust may be of better use!.
Focus on ways of trying to calm yourself when your upset or emotional instead of resorting to cutting!. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to email me privately if you just want a chat about things i promise not to judge you as ive been there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i used to self harm when i was younger and i found that self harming was a way in which to stop my emotional pain by creating physical pain, i have stopped now and havent done it for years!. The only way to stop is to look deep inside yourself and find the underlying cause of why you started it in the first place, you need to deal with your emotions in another way!. Instead of self harming or when you feel the urge to do grab a pen and loads of paper and just sit and write down all of what your thinking even if its gibberish, just keep writing until you feel better!. People who judge people for self harming dont understand the reason behind it and if people judge you for it and call you attention seeking they are wrong!. Self harming is not a form of attention seeking as many self harmers hide what they are doing from those they love and who love them, so the comment that its attention seeking is a load of rubbish in my opinion, i realise other people may disagree with me but i have been there!.
The key to stopping is wanting to stop and finding out what causes you to cut in the first place, instead of cutting maybe have a good cry but i dont recommend that one as i used to feel more like cutting when i was crying!. I think the writing aspect is a good idea though and then later when you are feeling better you can rad what you wrote and then think about ways to overcome these issues!. Are you having trouble at school!? ie being bullied or something!? how is your home life!? Try and take up a hobby or talk to other people that have been in your situation, counsellors can help to some degree but not always and i think its harder talking to a stranger as you tend to tell them what you think they want to hear whereas someone you know and trust may be of better use!.
Focus on ways of trying to calm yourself when your upset or emotional instead of resorting to cutting!. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to email me privately if you just want a chat about things i promise not to judge you as ive been there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
take up a hobby, it will take your mind off things, and socialise a bit more is all you need to do!.
If you follow these things, you'll be alright, if you don't itll just show that your not as scared as you say you are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you follow these things, you'll be alright, if you don't itll just show that your not as scared as you say you are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i self harmED to you just need to get a hobby , i played on my guitar when i felt like self harming , just get a hobby thats my adviceWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you should try to turn to a religion that looks down on your self harm and believe in the religion so much that you stop!.!.!.i dont know what to say really and i would like to help!.!.!.this is the only thing i can think of:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
take up something like an instrument to distract u it works but if they send u to a counsilor unless they go with u, u could just not turn upWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi kid!.
People self-harm because they feel hurt on the inside, and it becomes a way of relieving some of the pain you feel inside!.
Some of my friends in uni did self-harm and it's an illness that takes over your entire life, just like suicidal thought can take over your whole life too!. But there is a way out, and first of all you need to recognise that you have a problem and it needs to be resolved, then you can go to your guidance counsellor at school and talk to him/her about how you feel, and maybe then you will discover that life has it's happy times too!.
Just this morning, I nearly overdosed kid, cos I felt alot of pain inside, but I had the ability to snap myself out of this vicious circle and now I am still here talking to you, thanks be to God :)
Life is tough at times, but remember "Never lose hope" and a little hope will carry you through the day, each day, each week, each month and each year :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
People self-harm because they feel hurt on the inside, and it becomes a way of relieving some of the pain you feel inside!.
Some of my friends in uni did self-harm and it's an illness that takes over your entire life, just like suicidal thought can take over your whole life too!. But there is a way out, and first of all you need to recognise that you have a problem and it needs to be resolved, then you can go to your guidance counsellor at school and talk to him/her about how you feel, and maybe then you will discover that life has it's happy times too!.
Just this morning, I nearly overdosed kid, cos I felt alot of pain inside, but I had the ability to snap myself out of this vicious circle and now I am still here talking to you, thanks be to God :)
Life is tough at times, but remember "Never lose hope" and a little hope will carry you through the day, each day, each week, each month and each year :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
People overcome self-harm themself - you don't neccessarily need to see a counsellor at all, from the sounds of it your parents just want to be seen to be doing something as they don't feel they can do anything themself!. Perhaps they feel guilty!.
I suggest you try to find healthy alternatives to self-harming that give you what you get from it!.
First you need to work out why you do it - is it because you need somewhere to focus your feelings!? Why is it!?
Once you've established that, then there are always ways that you can find to replace this with!.
I self-harmed quite severely over a period of 7 years, it's not easy to stop, but it's worth it, and the earlier you stop the better it is for you!. It's good to know that you really want to stop & I hope you do :)!.xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest you try to find healthy alternatives to self-harming that give you what you get from it!.
First you need to work out why you do it - is it because you need somewhere to focus your feelings!? Why is it!?
Once you've established that, then there are always ways that you can find to replace this with!.
I self-harmed quite severely over a period of 7 years, it's not easy to stop, but it's worth it, and the earlier you stop the better it is for you!. It's good to know that you really want to stop & I hope you do :)!.xWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you've been doing this for 5 yrs!. now then its time for counseling!. That's the only way your going to get better!. Don't try and get out of it!. You need to get healthy and what your doing is NOT healthy!. People shouldn't give you ways to get out of it instead they should help you understand why it's wrong!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Once you realise you have a problem then that is the first step to recovery,your Parents will be worried about you and it sounds as if they are really caring people; your second step, take your parents advice and see a Councillor,you will be amazed at how they can help,also , it is very confidential and no-one will know!.you can help yourself if that's what you really want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
find someone you can talk to!. a teacher aunt uncle friend or something!. if you feel like cutting call someone!. go outside!. do something!. just try to keep your mind off of everything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i dont know much about self harm but i have heard of two things people do that works for them
1: they use frozen ice cubes in stead of cutting, it is still painful but dosent cause scars and dosent risk life
and some people use a elastic band round the wrist and just flick themselves with it,
sorry cant offer any more advice
xxx viciWww@Answer-Health@Com
1: they use frozen ice cubes in stead of cutting, it is still painful but dosent cause scars and dosent risk life
and some people use a elastic band round the wrist and just flick themselves with it,
sorry cant offer any more advice
xxx viciWww@Answer-Health@Com
Initially,council-ling is advisable!.
After that try change your routine life!.
Then start a new life !.!.!.listening music n meditation etc!.,
Don't b alone !.!.!.move with friends,family members play with them besides studies!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
After that try change your routine life!.
Then start a new life !.!.!.listening music n meditation etc!.,
Don't b alone !.!.!.move with friends,family members play with them besides studies!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I personally don't believe people do this for attention!.
I feel that you do realise what you are doing and wish to stop!.
This is a good thing!. Your acknowledgement will help you through!.
Parents have trouble understanding this behaviour because they may feel guilty, meaning they feel they are at fault and blame themselves!.
Others don't want to see it that way, therefore they find justification for your doings, meaning they will assume you want attention or you are trying to prove a point in a strange way!.
When they find excuses, you may distant yourself because you see they can't relate to you!.
Please note, I am not lecturing you, I am empathising with you!.
At the end of the day, no one cares more than your parents, this is the truth!.
Even though they don't know how to handle it, they wish you to be healthy no matter what!.
Accept their help, they are the only ones that will go the mile to help you in any circumstance!.
That was the best advice I could think of because I know what my parents would do!. They would freak out and scream etc!.!.!.
But l know they would do what ever it takes to help me!.
I wish you well!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I feel that you do realise what you are doing and wish to stop!.
This is a good thing!. Your acknowledgement will help you through!.
Parents have trouble understanding this behaviour because they may feel guilty, meaning they feel they are at fault and blame themselves!.
Others don't want to see it that way, therefore they find justification for your doings, meaning they will assume you want attention or you are trying to prove a point in a strange way!.
When they find excuses, you may distant yourself because you see they can't relate to you!.
Please note, I am not lecturing you, I am empathising with you!.
At the end of the day, no one cares more than your parents, this is the truth!.
Even though they don't know how to handle it, they wish you to be healthy no matter what!.
Accept their help, they are the only ones that will go the mile to help you in any circumstance!.
That was the best advice I could think of because I know what my parents would do!. They would freak out and scream etc!.!.!.
But l know they would do what ever it takes to help me!.
I wish you well!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I do not know what kind of relationship you have with your parents and I am no expert but I googled this information!. Don't reject it out of hand, try something to help yourself and if you are lacking someone to talk to because you trust no-one then contact me, who you don't know and that may help!.
I promise contact won't hurt your cause and you'll lose nothing!. Good luck
If you decide to get help, remember you're not alone!. Lots of other young people who self-harm have made the same decision - and many have been helped to stop hurting themselves!.
One of the best ways to get help is finding someone you can talk to and trust!. This could be a parent, grandparent, brother, sister, friend, school nurse, teacher, social worker, school counsellor or youth worker!.
If there is no-one you feel you can trust at the moment, there are lots of sources of confidential help and support available!. Check out the Organisations and Websites section in the Information Sources part of the site!. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone you don't know - especially if they've been trained to help!.
The following services are available to help you with complete anonimity:
ChildLine
NHS Direct
SamaritansWww@Answer-Health@Com
I promise contact won't hurt your cause and you'll lose nothing!. Good luck
If you decide to get help, remember you're not alone!. Lots of other young people who self-harm have made the same decision - and many have been helped to stop hurting themselves!.
One of the best ways to get help is finding someone you can talk to and trust!. This could be a parent, grandparent, brother, sister, friend, school nurse, teacher, social worker, school counsellor or youth worker!.
If there is no-one you feel you can trust at the moment, there are lots of sources of confidential help and support available!. Check out the Organisations and Websites section in the Information Sources part of the site!. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone you don't know - especially if they've been trained to help!.
The following services are available to help you with complete anonimity:
ChildLine
NHS Direct
SamaritansWww@Answer-Health@Com
Self harm is a form of release!. You could have a "hidden" memory that you are angry about!.
Sometimes with girls this can be related to anger with their dads and this leads to sexual intercourse with lots of men due to the rejection suffered by the father!.
A councillor will be between you and that person!. If your mum is willing and you would like to stop, please, please seek some kind of advise from a professional!. I myself did cut for a while but stopped at an early stage!. If you have been doing it for sometime, you need to re-wire your brain into associating cutting with something else to reward your brain!.
At the moment, you are using rituals to cut yourself and these are powerfull thngs!. You can associate this with a heroin addict and the rituals they use when "cooking-up"!. Please do not assume that I am saying you are a heroin addict!. What I am saying is the rituals you peform and what a heroin addict performs are similar in terms of power!.
Please see a psychologist/behaveual psychologist to assist you and this will not be done in one session!.
please be honest with the professionalist and if you cry, let you cry, if you get angry at him/her then so be it!. if you are bottling these emotions up then a shink can help!.
Remember if you take this route, things often get worse before getting better but it will be worth it!.
Please see Steph's answer too, I believe this to be the right approach for you!.
I am sure you are a very attractive person who does not need to do this sort of thing and im sure you are a beautiful person inside - Please seek assistance and be honest with your mum!. Sometimes it can be too late to repair the damage!.
Best wishes and warmest affection to you
El
xxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sometimes with girls this can be related to anger with their dads and this leads to sexual intercourse with lots of men due to the rejection suffered by the father!.
A councillor will be between you and that person!. If your mum is willing and you would like to stop, please, please seek some kind of advise from a professional!. I myself did cut for a while but stopped at an early stage!. If you have been doing it for sometime, you need to re-wire your brain into associating cutting with something else to reward your brain!.
At the moment, you are using rituals to cut yourself and these are powerfull thngs!. You can associate this with a heroin addict and the rituals they use when "cooking-up"!. Please do not assume that I am saying you are a heroin addict!. What I am saying is the rituals you peform and what a heroin addict performs are similar in terms of power!.
Please see a psychologist/behaveual psychologist to assist you and this will not be done in one session!.
please be honest with the professionalist and if you cry, let you cry, if you get angry at him/her then so be it!. if you are bottling these emotions up then a shink can help!.
Remember if you take this route, things often get worse before getting better but it will be worth it!.
Please see Steph's answer too, I believe this to be the right approach for you!.
I am sure you are a very attractive person who does not need to do this sort of thing and im sure you are a beautiful person inside - Please seek assistance and be honest with your mum!. Sometimes it can be too late to repair the damage!.
Best wishes and warmest affection to you
El
xxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I've cut myself for a while now!. It's good that you WANT to stop because that's definately the first step!. Doesn't mean it's easy or you're going to quit overnight!. I fight it every day!. The best thing that's worked for me is I have to get out of the house or wherever I am!. Because if I stick around, I'm gonna end up doing it!. I go walk, or drive, anywhere, or nowhere in particular, until the urge passes!. Sometimes takes hours!. Depending on how understanding your mom is maybe talk to her about ways she can help you with this!. If she's home when this happens, she can hop in the car with you or walk with you!. If not, call her and she can kind of talk ya through it while you go for a walk or drive yourself!. If you keep her up to date on how you feel and that you're TRYING to get better she'll probably be more likely to give you some say so when it comes to seeing a counselor or not!.Www@Answer-Health@Com