HELP!! i WANT TO LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT i DONT KNOW HOW?!
Question: HELP!! i WANT TO LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT i DONT KNOW HOW!?
i cnt cope anymore living with my boyfriend n i want 2leave!.he is a lazy f#cker,he hardly helps me in the house(only if i beg him,nag him n argue with him)and even like this he does very little!.i am only 19 but i am stressing so much cus i also have 2 care for 2 kids(his)which he barely looks after!.i cant sleep right at night n i am already starting to get some grey hair n wrinkles!.my doctor said is due to stress!.i am 10 weeks pregnant n very scared 2 tell my mom so that is another reason of sadness at the moment cus she lives 1200 miles away from me n i wish i had her closer!.he doesnt understand my feelings n tells me i am stupid for crying when i miss her!. everythign is on my back in the house n i have no1 to talk to!.!. i CANT COPE ANYMORE, this is not the life i want for me or my baby!.maybe if i go he will realise his mistakes n change!.!.!.!.i just dont know how to leave my job n also the kids!.!.!.as they wont be able to come with me as i am not their biological mother!. please helpWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I would not count on this bf to change, he will probably simply try to find another woman to carry his load for him!. You would be much better off to leave him now, altho I knkow it will be hard for his kids!. You have to consider the life you are going to be able to provide for your own child!.!.Just quit your job & leave, don't make it a "if you don't do x, I'm leaving", because it will just drag the whole thing out even longer & hurt you more!. Your mother will not be thrilled, but she will probably rejoice that you are away from this jerk!. You would benefit from a counselor to deal with the feelings this whole situation generates, & it will hellp you understsand what happened & how you can prevent the same thing from happening to you again!. Put your life back together, & enjoy your future with your child!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The time has come for you to put yourself and your unborn child first!. You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel, if you think there is a chance he could change then give him an ultimatum!. if you think he will never change then leave him now!. I was with a guy like this for years, he abused me physically and mentally - it took me 6 years to be strong enough to leave once I had his baby!. Is this the life you want for your child!? Think carefully and do what is right for you!.
Good luck
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Good luck
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First let me say that some of the negative feelings you are having at the moment stem from your pregnancy, your hormones are all over the place and you will be up and down all the time!.
Secondly, your b/f must be made to realise just how unhappy you are, do you have a fiend you can stay with for a while!? Perhaps he will change his ways when he realises just how serious you are about leaving!. Moving out to a friend is a good stepping stone to leaving for good (if that's what you want) as its easier to make a break when you are not actually living together at the time!. You must ring your mum and tell her whats happening, I am sure she will want to be with you at this time!. I wish you lots of luck hunny!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Secondly, your b/f must be made to realise just how unhappy you are, do you have a fiend you can stay with for a while!? Perhaps he will change his ways when he realises just how serious you are about leaving!. Moving out to a friend is a good stepping stone to leaving for good (if that's what you want) as its easier to make a break when you are not actually living together at the time!. You must ring your mum and tell her whats happening, I am sure she will want to be with you at this time!. I wish you lots of luck hunny!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are pregnant and your hormones are all over the place!.
Yes you feel stressed, yes you feel scared!. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now!.
It's clear you need to take some time out!. Don't burn any bridges because right now you are overwrought with burdens and pregnancy!.
Can you go home for a visit!? Perhaps get some time off from your job!? Please take a smaller step if possible!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes you feel stressed, yes you feel scared!. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now!.
It's clear you need to take some time out!. Don't burn any bridges because right now you are overwrought with burdens and pregnancy!.
Can you go home for a visit!? Perhaps get some time off from your job!? Please take a smaller step if possible!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you don't do this now, you will be stuck in this situation for years!. He has obviously taken you for granted!. You need to just go!. But no offence - why on earth did you get pregnant while feeling like this!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!? Numpty!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're 19 and you need to stand up for yourself and act like an adult!. Tell him it's not working for and leave!. SIMPLE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get out now your children need to see a normal functioning relationship and yours is most def not! move back with your mom, be positive, care for the children, and if you can fit in an education
hopefully you have graduated from high schoolWww@Answer-Health@Com
hopefully you have graduated from high schoolWww@Answer-Health@Com
The children are his responsibility, if you want a better life for you and your baby your first step must be talking to your Mum and sorting things out so you can go home!. When you have made arrangements to return to your Mums or somewhere safe, try to arrange to remove your belongings when he is not there, preferably with some help from a relative or a friend!. Bear in mind you may not get a second chance to return and collect belongings!. If you really don't want any contact, change your mobile number and give yourself time to get over him before making any long-term decisions!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am older but faced a similar situation its all about planning if your going to leave your boyfriend!. look into apartments or relatives you can live with!. even living in a rom is better than living in the situation your in!. Also look into your finances if you going to leave a job do you have another one to take its place or if you are unable to work due to mental health reasons have you applied for some sort of aid such as dsiablity income or transitional assistance!. Be proactive not reactive and the change will not only be healthy mentally but you won't have to worry about any financial problems as a result of this change!. May i also suggest you moving closer to your mom!. She probably wants you closer anyway to help out!. Make it a win win situation from you so when you look back you'll say to yourself I should have done this sooner!. Don't forget about your mental health though you should get counseling someone you can talk to about everyday stress it can just be church or family or friends or psychiatrist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do wot is bst 4 u cozz u dnt want ur unboorn child to have an unhappy life like u r at the moment do you!. there is things in life that you have to do for yourself and not for other people go and c ur mum tell her everything then telll her about your baby she sud understand!. dnt listen to him he is a horiid person who some1 nds to stand up to u may not be those kids bio mum but they will have a much more of a happier life with you do wot is bst for you cozz this is wot u have to think about u and HIS kids and your unborn child i hope i have really helped you alot cozz your bf obv dnt care but himsel the nasty sh*t lol have a really good life with out him!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you have your mothers number, or any brothers or sisters you can get in touch with, you 10 weeks pregnant, working and still doing the housework while he sits on his backside- girl you need to get out of this relationship, if you can get in touch with your mum tell her whats happening see if she can help you, your 19 years old you need someone who respects you not someone like him, there are plenty more fish in the sea, okay it's not going to be easy for the other kids but what about the one on the way!? all this stress is not good for you and the baby, there are plenty of groups and organisations that help young single mothers, i'm a single mother (38 years old) of four teenagers and if i can do it so can you, your health vistior can help and advise you, your doctor can help you, i think boots do a group for mothers and babies as well!. good luck!. if u need any1 e-mail meWww@Answer-Health@Com
you need tro make yourself happy and get as much support as you can!. emotionaly and motivation!. i cant see why he would do this to someone like you!. make your move now that you have the motivation to do soWww@Answer-Health@Com
your boyfriend seems a very inconsiderate buffoon!. and needs awake up call!. i would do exactly what he does!. nothing!. i would just look after yourself and the child!. cant you go somewhere for a couple of days!. so you can get your head together!. but don't let your boy friend get the better of you!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com