Overbearing mother driving me NUTS, what is a grown woman to do?!


Question: Overbearing mother driving me NUTS, what is a grown woman to do!?
She tries to help me with my kids, but when they are left with her for any amount of time, she becomes verbally abusive!. She has in the past grabbed my kids arms so hard she has left bruise marks!. The children complain when they are left with her!. She has been invited to our friend's house and she bad mouthed me and my hubs the whole time (I was not there) It was so bad the woman of the house said to NEVER invite "that woman" back to her house!. I suspect that she may be bi-polar or have a chemical imbalance!. She accuses me of being bi-polar although most of my emotional issues clear up when I am not around her!. I suspect that once afer a fight she called DCF and made a false report!. I am a good parent, but once you are in the DCF system it mucks things up!. I am afraid if she doesn't get her way she may make another false report!. There is no reasoning with her, so I don't talk to her for months on end, What can I do to make her understand that I am an adult and I need my space!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Wonder thinks avoidance techniques!.!.!.!.!. If she is never around you, she will not hold any credibility with the DCF!.
Surround yourself with the other Mom's (the good ones) and make sure they can vouch for your good mothering!.
In the meantime, if she tries to come around you, just tell her you are too busy (running errands, or that you have an apppointment, etc!.)

Avoid this crazy lady at all costs, surround yourself with loving, warm friends/mothers, and don't worry!.
The truth will prevail!. :))
Good luck!.
(((hugs)))Www@Answer-Health@Com

You can't make her do or understand anything, unfortunately!. Ignoring her when she is being annoying and intrusive may be the best approach!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to take that giant step and take a long break with your mother, until she eventually realizes the pain and suffering she is causing!. If not for your sake then for the sake of your children, they come first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

okay it kinda sounds like my mom lol listen honey you may wanna sit down with her and have a talk tell her what shes doin wrong and how she is hurting you and the kids!. if that doesnt work forbide her from seeing her grandchildren untill she cleans up her act!. you also mentioned that she is bi-polar so you can give her some medication just for that hope it works out good luck:)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Stay far away from her!.!.!.and keep her from seeing your kids!.!.!.she sounds dangerous!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Cut her off, cold-turkey and just simply do your own thing!. I would try to stay away from using her for a day-care service, I know her rates are the best but we're talking about your kids here!. Just do your own thing and lay down the law, let her know if she wants to be a part of you and her grand-kids life's, SHE has to change!.

Oh, and HOLD her to it!. If she starts slipping back into her old ways, which she is liable to do, you got to cut her off again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'm sorry to say this, but there is NOTHING you can say to her that would change her behavior!.

Therefore: You must cut her out of your life and the lives of your children--your highest priority are your children, then you, then your husband!.

Cutting her out of your lives sounds terrible, but you have no choice!. You must do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

From your point of view she's harmful to your family!. If you don't cut her out of your life after what you've told me, I'll believe you are harmful also!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Even if she had not called DCF you should have called once you saw the bruise marks and suspected there was a problem!.

Should have, would have could have!. Don't sweat it!. She did you a favour!.

Document document document!. Get down statements, dated, signed, with what when where how and why you think it occurred!.

Time to wake up and fight!. Enemy is on you almost!. Don't let them catch you sleeping!.

Get a lawyer!. Legal Aide or something like Southern Poverty Law Council in Atlanta, the Rural Legal Aide project in Montpelier Vermont, or whatever you have in your area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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