Weed addiction is ruining my family....any advice?!
Question: Weed addiction is ruining my family!.!.!.!.any advice!?
my partner has a very strong mental addiction to weed, he says he hates it but yet has not made any effort to give up!. He reckons the effects without it are to hard for him to deal with!. we have 2 children now 2 and 10mths and hate the fact that he wont give it up!. he lies about it, keeps getting it for his mates so he can SCORE a hit!! i have told him i will stick by him and help him quit but now its 3 yrs later and its the same!. he smokes it every day sometimes in the day, but to him its nothing just like having a cup of tea!. well tea dont do that to me what weed does to him!. i never knew he was addicted until recentley as he had been smoking it behind my back for years!. hes only 26 and has been on it for ten years!. His mother let him smoke it as a teen in her own home! i am on the verge of leaving now, hes just rubbing the support i give him back in my face and carrys on!. has anyone had any help from a doctor!? ive tried help lines but the talk to me like im 12!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Like everyone here is saying, to give up the habit of smoking weed, first your partner has to show that he means what he says in wanting to give up, I know this is not easy as it sounds, and the first two weeks with out smoking weed will be the hardiest, but once that has passed then it gets better,
I bet that most of his friends smoke weed as well, so this is the time to say good bye to the friends that smoke weed and start making new friends with people that don't smoke, even if this means moving to another area where the distance is far enough not to see the people that smoke the weed, this way he is not tempted to carry on smoking with them, also you will find that the money spent on weed will be saved to buy things that you always wanted, think positive about it and look forward to the future with a clear mind, smoking weed is not as some people here think addictive but habit forming and to change a habit of ten years will be a new challenge for him!. also I can only assume that he is unemployed to be able to smoke during the day, this must be a big drain on the benefits that you receive and theses days if he does get offered work and it is safety sensitive then he might have to have a drug test to secure that job, and of course if he fails the drug test then that would mean no job again!.
so its all down to your partner to prove to you that he really means what he says!. I wish you well with this and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I bet that most of his friends smoke weed as well, so this is the time to say good bye to the friends that smoke weed and start making new friends with people that don't smoke, even if this means moving to another area where the distance is far enough not to see the people that smoke the weed, this way he is not tempted to carry on smoking with them, also you will find that the money spent on weed will be saved to buy things that you always wanted, think positive about it and look forward to the future with a clear mind, smoking weed is not as some people here think addictive but habit forming and to change a habit of ten years will be a new challenge for him!. also I can only assume that he is unemployed to be able to smoke during the day, this must be a big drain on the benefits that you receive and theses days if he does get offered work and it is safety sensitive then he might have to have a drug test to secure that job, and of course if he fails the drug test then that would mean no job again!.
so its all down to your partner to prove to you that he really means what he says!. I wish you well with this and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have battled with addictions for years and it has not been an easy ride, it is totally up to your partner to stop, tell him how you feel and that you are very uoset at his smoking and that you are on the verge of leaving unless he gets help!. I wish you luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry to say there's nothing you can do unless he's ready to quit!. Psychological addiction is every bit as powerful as physical addiction!. You could try giving him an ultimatum, i!.e!. you'll leave and take the kids if he doesn't at least try to quit!. Do you really want your children growing up around that stuff!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I smoked for 15 years!. I've been clean for almost a year, but I still crave it!. I had to leave everything I knew to get away from it!. If it popped up in my face today, I would smoke it!. It's really nice being sober, but as I said, I would smoke it!. It makes me feel content with everything, no matter what!. I used my physical, mental, financial, and social health as motivators to quit!. It's really nice being healthier, but as I said, I would smoke it again if I saw it!. I noticed myself looking for other things to replace the high with, like chocolate and sex!. Different people have different degrees of effect & addiction to it!. It makes some people psychotic and paranoid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A doctor wouldn't really help, but a counselor might!.
The only person who can make a difference is your partner!.
Addiction is all about ways of thinking, and to kick this habit needs to reprogramme 10 years of behaviour and stop the cycle of wanting and needing to smoke weed!.
it sounds a massive job, and it won't be easy, but it is not impossible!. I have worked with people who have overcome addictions like this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The only person who can make a difference is your partner!.
Addiction is all about ways of thinking, and to kick this habit needs to reprogramme 10 years of behaviour and stop the cycle of wanting and needing to smoke weed!.
it sounds a massive job, and it won't be easy, but it is not impossible!. I have worked with people who have overcome addictions like this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like he doesnt want to quit!. If you force it, it wont work - he has to want to give up!. Try counselling together!. Perhaps you leaving him would be the kick up the bum he needs!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is a such thing as weed rehab ( yes it exists) im not sure of a number you can call but please look it up on the internet or something!. I know a girl who went there and it helped her!. It sounds like you really dont want to leave him and i totally understand that but if you do leave I understand that also!. I think you still should pass this information to him because of your children!. If u leave it has nothing to do with the children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tough love!. He can either be happy with you!. Or stoned without you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well if he cared about u then he would give up!. its quite simple really get him some help!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to go so he knows your serious, even if you have every intention of going back!.
If you don't it will make your life miserable and he will
know that you don't mean what you say!.
You have to think of the children, if he had to choose between a new coat for the children or a fix that he was desperate for, which would he choose!? This is a question you have to ask yourself!.
Why should you and the children , because they will know if your not happy as they get older, be unhappy for years to come just so he can be happy smoking his weed!.!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you don't it will make your life miserable and he will
know that you don't mean what you say!.
You have to think of the children, if he had to choose between a new coat for the children or a fix that he was desperate for, which would he choose!? This is a question you have to ask yourself!.
Why should you and the children , because they will know if your not happy as they get older, be unhappy for years to come just so he can be happy smoking his weed!.!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is there a reason that he smokes like some type of anxiety or something that he is trying to get away from!? If that is the case, he should go and see a therapist to get rid of the underlying problem!. Then he might not feel the need to smoke it anymore!.
He is the one that has to quit!. You really can't force anyone into it!. Just make sure he is not doing it around the kids!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is the one that has to quit!. You really can't force anyone into it!. Just make sure he is not doing it around the kids!.Www@Answer-Health@Com