Is there something with not being able to get close to anyone?!
Question: Is there something with not being able to get close to anyone!?
Is there something with not being able to get close to anyone!?
I don't know what's wrong with me!. Every time I start getting close with someone!. I start to lose interest in that person!. It could be fear of rejection as I have had a fair of that in my life!. I am 20 years old!. I'm not very close with my family either!. I don't know why I am like that!. I wasn't like that in high school even though I was rejected by my friends!. I've been let down by men in my life!. I have been let down by family members as well!. Well anyway, it was when I started college that this started!. When I was there, I would try to befriend people and I'd think we were cool But then I'd see them on the path and they'll look at me like I am crazy!. So that caused to withdraw tremendously!. I was also dating this guy and well things didn't go right and I was afraid that people would talk about me so that caused me to withdraw even more!. I've always felt misunderstood by everyone all my life!. I am currently a loner with an INTJ personality!. I am happy with being who I am!.
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But I still ponder on the reasons why I can't seem to get close with anyone!. I don't even know if I can spend the rest of my life with someone!. I don't know!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know what's wrong with me!. Every time I start getting close with someone!. I start to lose interest in that person!. It could be fear of rejection as I have had a fair of that in my life!. I am 20 years old!. I'm not very close with my family either!. I don't know why I am like that!. I wasn't like that in high school even though I was rejected by my friends!. I've been let down by men in my life!. I have been let down by family members as well!. Well anyway, it was when I started college that this started!. When I was there, I would try to befriend people and I'd think we were cool But then I'd see them on the path and they'll look at me like I am crazy!. So that caused to withdraw tremendously!. I was also dating this guy and well things didn't go right and I was afraid that people would talk about me so that caused me to withdraw even more!. I've always felt misunderstood by everyone all my life!. I am currently a loner with an INTJ personality!. I am happy with being who I am!.
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But I still ponder on the reasons why I can't seem to get close with anyone!. I don't even know if I can spend the rest of my life with someone!. I don't know!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I feel your pain exactly!.
I have friends, but I'm not really close to them, at least not how I feel friends should be, you know!? I mean, these are people I've known for years, and I'm still uncomfortable and unsure around them, to the point where I've alienatied them completely!.
I've been diagnosed as social phobic, and am on medication for anxiety, have been since i was 17 (now 21), but it doesn't seem to ever get better!.
Most of the time I'm happy with who I am, though it's hard!. I haven't even had a 'serious' relationship with a guy, because it's hard to get to that level of emotonal intimacy!.
The hardest part is getting to the point of just being happy with who you are (which you are), and that's wonderful!.
I could only suggest trying to put yourself out there (i know, easier said than done!. I can't even take my own advice), and letting people know what's up!. You'd be surprised how loving people can be despite our flaws!.
p!.s!. I also had a similar experience when I moved away to college!. My roomates outright refused to talk to me!. I would go days not speaking to anyone!. It's just about living the life that's right and confortable for you, not what others say you 'should be' doing :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have friends, but I'm not really close to them, at least not how I feel friends should be, you know!? I mean, these are people I've known for years, and I'm still uncomfortable and unsure around them, to the point where I've alienatied them completely!.
I've been diagnosed as social phobic, and am on medication for anxiety, have been since i was 17 (now 21), but it doesn't seem to ever get better!.
Most of the time I'm happy with who I am, though it's hard!. I haven't even had a 'serious' relationship with a guy, because it's hard to get to that level of emotonal intimacy!.
The hardest part is getting to the point of just being happy with who you are (which you are), and that's wonderful!.
I could only suggest trying to put yourself out there (i know, easier said than done!. I can't even take my own advice), and letting people know what's up!. You'd be surprised how loving people can be despite our flaws!.
p!.s!. I also had a similar experience when I moved away to college!. My roomates outright refused to talk to me!. I would go days not speaking to anyone!. It's just about living the life that's right and confortable for you, not what others say you 'should be' doing :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
yeah, there is somthing that you still have to discover about yourself why you dont get close to anyone, that is if you want to do "self introspection"Www@Answer-Health@Com
I will be a bit overboard with this one!.!.but if you can get a pet or something!.!. sometimes!. unconditional love and adoration taht tese pets etc can give us!.!. help us to understand that people are not really judging us as much we think they are doing!.!. and everybody is unique!.just the challenges vary!.
A good friend of mine, a guy, whom I would regard as one of the best brains in the world!.!. is constantly afraid that he might develop man breasts!.!.so his whole life is about looking at other 'men's' chests and then comapring how are they faring as compared to him!.
And he is otherwise completely normal in every aspect!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A good friend of mine, a guy, whom I would regard as one of the best brains in the world!.!. is constantly afraid that he might develop man breasts!.!.so his whole life is about looking at other 'men's' chests and then comapring how are they faring as compared to him!.
And he is otherwise completely normal in every aspect!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Can it be the fact that you have been let down or rejected and dont want to let these people close, for fear it will happen it will happen again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like you may have low self esteem!. I doubt that people really looked at you like you were crazy!. More likely, your low self-esteem made you thing that they were looking at you that way!.
Your past rejections will alsdo be a factor, as they damage your self esteem!. You may be unconsciously sabotaging your relationships to prevent being hurt again!. You'll need to talk to a professional counselor to fix that and I suggest that you do that now before these patterns get set in concrete!.
Another point - you're 20 years old!. That's a little young to be thinking "lifetime arrangement"!. Could be that you have to get a little older, could be that you just haven't met the right person yet!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your past rejections will alsdo be a factor, as they damage your self esteem!. You may be unconsciously sabotaging your relationships to prevent being hurt again!. You'll need to talk to a professional counselor to fix that and I suggest that you do that now before these patterns get set in concrete!.
Another point - you're 20 years old!. That's a little young to be thinking "lifetime arrangement"!. Could be that you have to get a little older, could be that you just haven't met the right person yet!.Www@Answer-Health@Com