I can get very jealous. How do I overcome my self esteem issue?!

See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. (The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: a thousand and one: this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!.
Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you !. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~
1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.

2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.

3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.

4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.

5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)

6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.

7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY!. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah!? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two!." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally!?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS!.]

8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice

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