Just someone please care about me?!


Question: Just someone please care about me!?
My friend was molested by her uncle and I know this is so selfish for me to say but I am getting so tired of her dissing herself the whole time!. And when I try to help her, she doesnt let me!. I know I'm being so selfish, I know!. But for once I would just like to have something about me!. It is never about me and I dont think anyone cares about me as I do about her!. Even if she does she is not showing it!. I would like for once to be just the victim, rebel, messed up one and not the one who has to fix everything all the time, why cant someone just for once worry about me and take care of me and fight for me!. Why, I know Im selfish !. I dont even care!. I just for once want to be taken care of, just once!. How come no one is noticing my problems and trying to save me or am I supposed to be the shadow my whole life!. Cuz right now life is really worthless I am powerless I dont know what to do anymore!. I know im selfish, but my problems are insifnificant and not importantWww@Answer-Health@Com


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My goodness! You sound very frustrated!. This has really gotten you down, hasn't it!? My heart goes out to you!. You want to help and you have probably done a lot to be helpful and nothing works!. She just won't listen to you!.
She seems to be venting a lot!. She seems to be talking and reacting, and it's all so new she seems to be saying the same thing over and over again!. It only seems to make her feel worse and re-live the trauma all over again!. She's talking a kind of survivor guilt!. She's playing very much a kind of victim's role!. She seems to be wearing you out with that!.
Stop talking to her about the experience!. Don't bring it up and don't discuss it!. It's too much for you!. When she brings it up, refer her to a hotline!. Get the number and be ready to turn it over to someone who knows what to say!. Be polite and find a way to let someone else help her!.
She needs to go to the police!. You need to stop gossiping and talking about it like it's a secret and you need to report it to the authorities!. Call Planned Parenthood!. They have a lot of literature and they could probably make a referral!. She should have not washed or done anything, and saved the evidence to prove this happened!. Report it as soon as possible while it's still fresh in her memory and save anything that can help make a record of the incident!. Don't waste another day!. Call an adult, call her parents and get their help!.
This has overwhelmed you!. This has been too much for you and you just can't handle it!. Don't try to continue to handle it yourself!. Call the authorities and file a complaint!. Get the burden off your shoulders!. You should not have taken it upon yourself!. She's obviously traumatized and she needs professional help!. Tell your own parents!. Talk to anyone that will listen!. Remember to talk calmly and rationally!. If you become dramatic they won't listen!. They'll say you just need to calm down!.
You're not selfish and you are not a bad person!. You're reacting!. That's perfectly natural!. Now something must be done about this!. Start making calls and get help!. Ask your mom to help and maybe she can make a suggestion!. Stop taking it upon yourself!. Tell your mom to call her parents and talk to them!. Make sure you note the ways that show she's traumatized and she needs their support!. She may need a psychiatrist and medication to help her get over this!. She needs a pregnancy test!. This is serious business!.
She needs a doctor!. You just guide her to the help she needs!. Stop trying to do it on your own!. Lots of people need to know what's going on, and they need to know NOW!. Otherwise this is ruining your relationship!. You can't take it anymore!. Please get help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

long details!.!.!.!.!.!.!.dont make yourself help her!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.if she doesnt want you 2 then so b it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You are NOT being selfish!. We all, everyone on the planet needs to feel that we are loved and wanted!. No one is noticing your problems because you are not talking about them!. You are too busy trying to help others!. The next time you have an opportunity, tell your friend you need "her" help and talk to her about what is bothering you!. Sometimes before we help others, we have to help ourselves!. Good Luck, sweetie! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

i don't think your selfish your obviously a great friend to offer your pal support!.
have you tried talking to someone it sounds like you could be a little depressed not that its anything in your life that has got you depressed but your taking a lot on supporting your friend and i think you need to be selfish a bit here and get some support for your self!.
good luck and all the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hun you are not being shelfish in anyway!. I have a friend like that!. You know it really hard!. I mean I will try to tell her what is going on and she changes the subject to her!. I keep telling her the same thing on the subject and feel like a broken recored!. A friendship has to work both ways hun, if she not helping you and you are doing all the work that is not fair and honestly it is not wroth your time!. You need a friend that supports you too hun, not just one sided!. but please remember that you are NOT shelfish hun!. NOT AT ALL!. We all need support too!. hang in there hun, i'm here to help anyway I can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Princess!.!.don't over-extend yourself!. Make sure you are getting the attention you need and deserve!. As they say "the squeaky wheel gets the grease!." So let those around you who you trust in on some of your pain, so they can love you up a little!. It takes time to find dear friends in life, but you will!. Thanks for helping others, but do care for yourself first! BIG HUG !!! oxoxoxWww@Answer-Health@Com

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