Im so ugly..why dont i just kill myself right now and end this misery?!?!
Question: Im so ugly!.!.why dont i just kill myself right now and end this misery!?!!?
I've always felt i was ugly but as soon as i moved to HS it got worse!.!.I've always hated taking photos bc i knew id look hideous like i always do!.But thats not new!.!.In the past 2 yrs I started Spending long periods of time staring at myself in the mirror to try and C wht some other people C in me esp my ex who was an athlete and very popular!.!.He always used to tell me I was so sexy and beautiful & stuff but my brain was finding it to so hard to absorb this!.!.!.Nowadays Ive been completely avoiding mirrors &everytime i C a pretty girl i feel like crying!.!.Ive cried myself 2 sleep so many times nw its become a habit!.!.I also think abt suicide alot to end my misery!.!.I mean Im soo butt ugly and worthless Does it really make a diff if i live or die!?!?!.!.My mom thinks it's so silly&shes fed up of me always talking abt my looks and always tells me off for being hard on myself!.Its different at scl tho boys make fun of my looks & tell me Im ugly & skinny!.!.when i ask da girls they say Im not that cuteWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Ok first of all remember, you are a beautiful person!. Don't worry what the mirror says to you!. You need to remind yourself that you are beautiful!.
Your teenage years are the worst!. Your hormones are going all crazy, and are throwing things out of wack!. It will get better!. Remember the story of the Ugly Duckling!. Let yourself be that beautiful swan!. Everyone else sees you as this swan!.
I'm sorry that your mom is getting fed up with your problem!. Is there someone else you can talk to about this!? Someone who is compassionate to you!? A grandmother, aunt, uncle, older cousin!? How about a counselor at school!? or are they still lame!?
Don't listen to the people who put you down!. They are idiots anyway!. I've been through all that you are going through!.
Go and put on something that makes YOU feel Good!. Your favorite outfit, do your hair up in away that you LIKE and if you wear make up put it on!. Then go look at yourself all dolled up and say "I'M BEAUTIFUL"
It will get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your teenage years are the worst!. Your hormones are going all crazy, and are throwing things out of wack!. It will get better!. Remember the story of the Ugly Duckling!. Let yourself be that beautiful swan!. Everyone else sees you as this swan!.
I'm sorry that your mom is getting fed up with your problem!. Is there someone else you can talk to about this!? Someone who is compassionate to you!? A grandmother, aunt, uncle, older cousin!? How about a counselor at school!? or are they still lame!?
Don't listen to the people who put you down!. They are idiots anyway!. I've been through all that you are going through!.
Go and put on something that makes YOU feel Good!. Your favorite outfit, do your hair up in away that you LIKE and if you wear make up put it on!. Then go look at yourself all dolled up and say "I'M BEAUTIFUL"
It will get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People are different!. But i bet if you put a bunch of girls without makeup in your school by you, you wouldnt look that bad!. Dont worry so much!. Im in high school at the moment but people are only REALLY liked when they have good personalities!. its not about looks!. Dont be so bothered!. concentrate on exams etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Stop looking in the mirror!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
omg thats sorta disapointion =/ exleast you will find some that likes you sooner or later!? DONT KILL YOURSELF THO! gl irlWww@Answer-Health@Com
DONT COMMIT SUICIDE!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to see a therapist, honey!.!.!. your worries about your appearance arent healthy, or normal!. My sister has a similar problem!. If you see a therapist it will really help you to feel better about yourself!.
If your parents won't listen or believe you have a problem, speak to a school couselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If your parents won't listen or believe you have a problem, speak to a school couselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dude everyone is different from the outside and the inside it sounds cheesy but its tru !.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.not all girls like pretty boys sometimes most girls like guys that understand them because im a guy not the best lookin but i get girls because im confident(which is wat u need) and because a persons personilaty so lighten up and see more clearlyWww@Answer-Health@Com
PUT DOWN THE FORK!. FACE!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have all the symptoms of BDD!. Research it over the internet and show it to your mom, she will see that it is an actual illness and will be able to get you help!. Try to get help because the way you are living now is torture and you can change that by seeking help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you considered you might have body dimorphic disorder or some form of OCD!?
You are obviously really distressed about this and need to seek help to find the reasons behind your distress!. I am sure you are not really ugly and can get over this problem if you just try and get some help!.
Please tell your mum how bad you are feeling so she can get you some counselling, before you know it you will be feeling beautiful and confident!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are obviously really distressed about this and need to seek help to find the reasons behind your distress!. I am sure you are not really ugly and can get over this problem if you just try and get some help!.
Please tell your mum how bad you are feeling so she can get you some counselling, before you know it you will be feeling beautiful and confident!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, don't judge yourself by others opinions about you!. All your life people will have negative opinions!. Stay away from those ones in H!.S!. Concentrate on your school work and be the best you can be!. I blossomed in my twenties then was happy to refuse those guys who now wanted to date me!.!.!.they made fun of me and I didn't forget it! Easy on yourself God doesn't make ugly people!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
THINK OF HOW YOUR MOTHER WOULD FEEL IF YOU KILLED YOURSELF!. Just dont do it!. If you are having thooughts of suicide you need to talk to someone!. Your mom or a doctor!. Kids in high school can be cruel and immature!. try to focus on your school work and if you need to talk to someone you can email me!. trust me when i say suicide is not the answerWww@Answer-Health@Com
People suck just ignore them and tell your mom you need to see a therapist or got o your school counselor if you think your mom wont beleive you!. You obviously have some major self esteem issues you need to just chill out and take comfort that there is always some one uglier than you and then get help to feel better about your self!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't kill yourself its not worth it!.!. You said you were dating Mr!. Popular at school at one point, so how ugly can you really be!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Find out the upper and lower healthy weights for your height, and stay between them!. At that age, boys are immature: take no notice of them! If small children don't point at you, in public, you aren't that badly off!. Only use a small hand mirror to check appearance, so just a small part of the body may be seen at a time, yet anything wrong will still be immediately apparent; cover (taping over/painting) full length mirrors!. Check out http://www!.bddcentral/mainpage2!.aspx and http://www!.mental-health-abc!.com/ and http://www!.psychforums!.com/viewforum!.php Other things worth trying: See self esteem/confidence, on page 38, and practise daily, and when needed, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Also read pages 2L, and 47!. Give the EFT, in section 53, a good tryout: "Even though I have a distorted body image, I accept myself deeply and completely"!. (The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: a thousand and one: this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. All of these things are designed to bolster the central sense of identity, enable emotional centering, and changing the focus from that of a person's appearance, to helping others!. A TECHNIQUE FOR REPROGRAMMING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: (ALSO SEE PAGE L, IN SECTION 2): It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get the hang of this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large, flashing "STOP!" SIGN, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large, red "STOP" sign!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!. It may well be worthwhile going to the Groups, at Myspace, Google, and Yahoo, to find others with the disorder, and see what has worked for them!. Use the WebFerret search engine, your own, the Wikipedia, and Google websites, and Yahoo websearch on BDD!. ~~~~~
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: a thousand and one: this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, in section 5, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when the need arises!. Upload a photo into Photobucket, and ask people's opinions, here!. If you still consider you're ugly, later, have cosmetic surgery!. Looks fade, with time, so learn to focus on substantial things, like accomplishments, and helping others, or you will be in big trouble, down the track a ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. All of these things are designed to bolster the central sense of identity, enable emotional centering, and changing the focus from that of a person's appearance, to helping others!. A TECHNIQUE FOR REPROGRAMMING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: (ALSO SEE PAGE L, IN SECTION 2): It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get the hang of this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large, flashing "STOP!" SIGN, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large, red "STOP" sign!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!. It may well be worthwhile going to the Groups, at Myspace, Google, and Yahoo, to find others with the disorder, and see what has worked for them!. Use the WebFerret search engine, your own, the Wikipedia, and Google websites, and Yahoo websearch on BDD!. ~~~~~
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: a thousand and one: this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, in section 5, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when the need arises!. Upload a photo into Photobucket, and ask people's opinions, here!. If you still consider you're ugly, later, have cosmetic surgery!. Looks fade, with time, so learn to focus on substantial things, like accomplishments, and helping others, or you will be in big trouble, down the track a ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT THE "UGLY" THINGS LOOK AT WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!. I'M SURE YOUR NOT UGLY AT ALL!. EVERYONE LOOKS DIFFERENT!. IT'S ABOUT YOUR SELF ESTEEM I MEAN WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THE GIRLS IN SCHOOL THAT SWEAR THEIR SO ATTRACTIVE BUT HAVE THE MOST UGLIEST ATTUDES AROUND!. THEIR THE UGLY ONES!. YOU HAVE TO WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE!. I'M SKINNY AS HELL I USE TO THINK THAT GUYS DIDN'T LIKE IT BUT I FOUND WHAT WORKED FOR ME AND MY BEING "BONEY" OR "ANERIOUX" TURNED INTO SEXINESS AND NOW MOST GUYS SEE ME HOW I SEE MY SELF AND THAT IS BEAUTIFUL IT'S A LITTLE BIT OF MIND OVER MATTER!. REDIRECT YOURSELF!. TRY THAT AND STOP TALKING BOUT HURTING YOURSELF!. IT'S NOT WORTH IT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL YOU JUST HAVE TO BRING IT OUT!.Www@Answer-Health@Com