How do you help a friend overcome victim and self-destructive mentality?!
Question: How do you help a friend overcome victim and self-destructive mentality!?
How do you help someone stop feeling sorry for themselves!.
My ex and now friend took our break up hard, so much so that he started using drugs, and got kicked out!. I let him stay in my extra room provided that he goes to work every day!.!.!.!.and an AA meeting, and stays sober!.
But he complains about how life is so hard, and how he didnt feel well so the best thing for his body was to go to sleep , and skip work!.
He went to work but only after i told him that his condition was a result of his negative choices!. How do i get HIM to start thinking in a more motivated way!?
(if you dont have positive advice !.!.!.keep it movin')Www@Answer-Health@Com
My ex and now friend took our break up hard, so much so that he started using drugs, and got kicked out!. I let him stay in my extra room provided that he goes to work every day!.!.!.!.and an AA meeting, and stays sober!.
But he complains about how life is so hard, and how he didnt feel well so the best thing for his body was to go to sleep , and skip work!.
He went to work but only after i told him that his condition was a result of his negative choices!. How do i get HIM to start thinking in a more motivated way!?
(if you dont have positive advice !.!.!.keep it movin')Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
its also possible that he could have some form of depression, as a result of the drugs and alcohol!. I don't want to sound like a horrible person here either so bear with me!. It is also possible that people become to reliant on a person when they know that they can act like the victim and get away with it, its a safe guard for them so they dont have to deal with things that happened and are happening!. (i am not saying to kick him out or anything like that) Just that when the reliant easy option is there, some people are more likely to continue taking that option!. Possibly get him involved in more social interaction where he takes more of the central role, and has more of a chance to show himself as the person he is now!. he might see how far he has come, from drugs and alcohol to being sober, this might encourage some pride and self fulfilment in him that could possibly be lacking and increase his motivation to improve his life more!. I hope this makes sense!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Addicition is painful and very decievieng!
Keep encouraging him to go to NA and AAWww@Answer-Health@Com
Keep encouraging him to go to NA and AAWww@Answer-Health@Com
Encouragement!.
Just let him know that you still care about him and you want him to get better!.
Talk to him!.
Show him you care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just let him know that you still care about him and you want him to get better!.
Talk to him!.
Show him you care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
there are so many people in this world who have so many more problems like loss of limbs, cancer , and other fatal disease!. god loves us and he created a beautiful world for us!. when was the last time he saw a sun rise!? work will keep his mind off things and do him good!. he needs all the motivation he can get!. life can be great if only he will allow himself to enjoy it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com