My dad died?!
Question: My dad died!?
he was also my best friend !. i loved him so much and i miss him
like crazy already !. his laughter , jokes ,voice , i'll never hear again , and the pain i feel at this moment just hurts so much , he was fit and healthy a week ago and the collapsed and died of a brain haemorrhage out of nowhere people say you should be happy he's not suffering any more and there right but it still doesent help !. my wife tries to say the the right thing but as both her parents are still alive she just doesent understand how i feel we used to speak 3 times a day and all saturday afternoons about the football scores who going to beat who , transfer speculation , you have it all then in an instance nothing and now we have the pain of clearing the house of his life and everything i see or touch has a memory of something!.!.i dont belive in life after death i wish i did so im never going to see him again is there any cure for the heartache i feel right now sorry for my rambling but i just needed to get it offWww@Answer-Health@Com
like crazy already !. his laughter , jokes ,voice , i'll never hear again , and the pain i feel at this moment just hurts so much , he was fit and healthy a week ago and the collapsed and died of a brain haemorrhage out of nowhere people say you should be happy he's not suffering any more and there right but it still doesent help !. my wife tries to say the the right thing but as both her parents are still alive she just doesent understand how i feel we used to speak 3 times a day and all saturday afternoons about the football scores who going to beat who , transfer speculation , you have it all then in an instance nothing and now we have the pain of clearing the house of his life and everything i see or touch has a memory of something!.!.i dont belive in life after death i wish i did so im never going to see him again is there any cure for the heartache i feel right now sorry for my rambling but i just needed to get it offWww@Answer-Health@Com
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My dear fellow,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss!. My Dad died on the 8th of February this year, and I genuinely mean, "I know what you are going through"!.
I know it doesn't help, but I wanted you to know that you're not alone!. I still live in the farm that I had the priviledge of sharing with my Dad for the last twenty four years!.
My Dad died in hospital after six months of misery!. He had a heart attack in August last year, and was offered a triple coronary artery by-pass!. It was meant to give him five to ten years of good qaulity of life, but something went wrong and he never really picked-up!. Eventually, his will to live was eroded away, and another attack in January put him back into hospital, but he never did come out alive!.
Even now, the loss is almost beyond belief!. He was meant to be here, and I still live and function among the many projects that he began working on, but didn't finish, just as if he will be back later to continue!.
It's tough to get by day-to-day, and it isn't just the physical presence, but also it's all that wealth of knowledge, experience, family history and memories of shared times - all severed in an instant!. There was so much more I wanted to ask him and to share with him!.
When my Mum died, twenty one years ago, it knock seven bells out of me - this has knocked seven, fourteen, and twenty eight out of me!.
I don't know how, but somehow, we have to survive, and we have to continue, and, God willing, in time, we will!. I'm sure you feel lost and alone right now, even with all your family and friends around you - I know I do, but one day, things will slowly begin to get better - it's just going to be a long and hard journey to get there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so sorry to hear of your loss!. My Dad died on the 8th of February this year, and I genuinely mean, "I know what you are going through"!.
I know it doesn't help, but I wanted you to know that you're not alone!. I still live in the farm that I had the priviledge of sharing with my Dad for the last twenty four years!.
My Dad died in hospital after six months of misery!. He had a heart attack in August last year, and was offered a triple coronary artery by-pass!. It was meant to give him five to ten years of good qaulity of life, but something went wrong and he never really picked-up!. Eventually, his will to live was eroded away, and another attack in January put him back into hospital, but he never did come out alive!.
Even now, the loss is almost beyond belief!. He was meant to be here, and I still live and function among the many projects that he began working on, but didn't finish, just as if he will be back later to continue!.
It's tough to get by day-to-day, and it isn't just the physical presence, but also it's all that wealth of knowledge, experience, family history and memories of shared times - all severed in an instant!. There was so much more I wanted to ask him and to share with him!.
When my Mum died, twenty one years ago, it knock seven bells out of me - this has knocked seven, fourteen, and twenty eight out of me!.
I don't know how, but somehow, we have to survive, and we have to continue, and, God willing, in time, we will!. I'm sure you feel lost and alone right now, even with all your family and friends around you - I know I do, but one day, things will slowly begin to get better - it's just going to be a long and hard journey to get there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry to hear that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can only imagine how you must be feeling, i have lost my Uncle, Nanna, Grandma and Grandad!.!.!. but loosing a dad must be hell! I wish you happiness!.!.!.!.!.!.!.xxxxxxxxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am really sorry for your loss!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try reading a book called Johnathan Livingston seagul, it's all about moving onto the next life as you have done all you can in your current life!. Not sure if it will help but no harm in trying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Mine died year before last
but I can only imagine what you are going through!.
Strength to you, brother!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
but I can only imagine what you are going through!.
Strength to you, brother!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Gutted to hear that and i know what you are going through as i have been there!. It hurts like hell at the moment and you will always have the "bad" days when you cant come to terms with it, but in time, you will never stop missing him, you will just get used to him not being there in body, but hang on to the fact that his spirit is always around along with lots of great memories too!. You have done yourself proud by acknowledging how you feel and taking this first step to assist yourself in getting over it or on with it and there are organisations out there that are only to happy to help you in your hour of need!. It takes a man to not only admit there is a problem, but to start to get it sorted or seek help with it as bottling it in is a cowards way of "dealing" with it!. Wishing you all the strength you need to deal with this terrible situation!. Take care and try and keep smiling!. Good luck for the future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
time heals all wounds!. keep him fresh in your heart!Www@Answer-Health@Com
So sorry for your sad loss!.
My Dad died when I was 10 years old!.
It is no consolation at the moment, but time will heal your pain!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My Dad died when I was 10 years old!.
It is no consolation at the moment, but time will heal your pain!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry for your loss!.
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i am really sorry to hear that you have lost your dad!. All the feelings you are feeling are normal when grieving!. You sound like you were especially close to your dad, which of course will make it so much harder!.
It is really important to talk about your feelings though, and not bottle things up, remember your wife is only trying to help and you dont want to push her away!.
Losing someone so suddenly and unexpectedly is a huge shock to the system, as you never get time to adjust and prepare (not that you can ever prepare to lose someone you love)!.
As corny as it sounds you need to hold on to those good times you had with your dad and how much he meant to you!. Especially how much you loved each other, that will never die!. There is no cure for this, just time is a great healer, I know you wont forget your dad, he will live on in your heart forever!. It sounds like he loved you so much which is what will get you through this!.
good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is really important to talk about your feelings though, and not bottle things up, remember your wife is only trying to help and you dont want to push her away!.
Losing someone so suddenly and unexpectedly is a huge shock to the system, as you never get time to adjust and prepare (not that you can ever prepare to lose someone you love)!.
As corny as it sounds you need to hold on to those good times you had with your dad and how much he meant to you!. Especially how much you loved each other, that will never die!. There is no cure for this, just time is a great healer, I know you wont forget your dad, he will live on in your heart forever!. It sounds like he loved you so much which is what will get you through this!.
good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well, that sounds quite awful!.
There's not much you can do about it I'm afraid!. The pain will grow less immediate as time passes, but you will probably always miss him!.
Be glad you had such a wonderful father, someone you got on so well with, and someone so fgantastic that you *will* miss them!. Plenty of fathers are so rubbish that they would not get to earn such feelings!.
Be glad of the time you had together - try to focus on that!. Sounds like you had a good one, albeit for not quite long enough!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's not much you can do about it I'm afraid!. The pain will grow less immediate as time passes, but you will probably always miss him!.
Be glad you had such a wonderful father, someone you got on so well with, and someone so fgantastic that you *will* miss them!. Plenty of fathers are so rubbish that they would not get to earn such feelings!.
Be glad of the time you had together - try to focus on that!. Sounds like you had a good one, albeit for not quite long enough!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry to hear that!. my dad died 9 years ago and i still miss him every day, i can only tell you that it does get easier to deal with but obviously losing someone so dear,is very traumatic and it will take time!. i dont believe in life after death either!.
I hope that it becomes a little easier for you to cope with and if you feel it is to bad please get some bereavment councelling this does help as sometimes your family are to close to be able to talk to about it but you do need to share how you are feeling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hope that it becomes a little easier for you to cope with and if you feel it is to bad please get some bereavment councelling this does help as sometimes your family are to close to be able to talk to about it but you do need to share how you are feeling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry for your loss, but I think that you need to see a counsellor and maybe get some help!!
help doesn't mean you're crazy!.!.!.I just think you're having a difficult time and struggling to move on with thems!.
The only cure I can suggest is getting a prescription off the doctor!.!.!.a friend of mine, his dad died quite sudden!.!.!.took a heart attack and died walking down a street!.!.he was the same!.!.!.my friend just throws his life into my family as he knows that's what his dad would want him to do!.!.
Anotehr thing I suggest is you and your wife take some time off and go away and just spent some time simply grieving!.!.!.
i wish i could put into words how sorry i am for your loss!.!.!.but i can't!.!.!.it's so sad to lose a loved one, you're not rambling by the way!.!.when you clean his house!.!.!.everytime you look at something remember the good times, i'm sure he wouldn't want you to be sad!.
don't totally blank your wife out too, she needs you as much as you need her after all she has lost her father-in-law
it probably feels like life will never be the same, but time is a great healer and things will get better, you had some wonderful times with your dad!.!.!.be happy at that!.!.!.others like myself have fathers who don't care about them and who drink themselves stupid!.!.!.not realising that they're throwing their lives away!. hope you're feeling better and i've helped !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
help doesn't mean you're crazy!.!.!.I just think you're having a difficult time and struggling to move on with thems!.
The only cure I can suggest is getting a prescription off the doctor!.!.!.a friend of mine, his dad died quite sudden!.!.!.took a heart attack and died walking down a street!.!.he was the same!.!.!.my friend just throws his life into my family as he knows that's what his dad would want him to do!.!.
Anotehr thing I suggest is you and your wife take some time off and go away and just spent some time simply grieving!.!.!.
i wish i could put into words how sorry i am for your loss!.!.!.but i can't!.!.!.it's so sad to lose a loved one, you're not rambling by the way!.!.when you clean his house!.!.!.everytime you look at something remember the good times, i'm sure he wouldn't want you to be sad!.
don't totally blank your wife out too, she needs you as much as you need her after all she has lost her father-in-law
it probably feels like life will never be the same, but time is a great healer and things will get better, you had some wonderful times with your dad!.!.!.be happy at that!.!.!.others like myself have fathers who don't care about them and who drink themselves stupid!.!.!.not realising that they're throwing their lives away!. hope you're feeling better and i've helped !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
i sympathise with you my dad died in 1991, he was 60, i still miss him sometimes!.
i know there are no words that anyone can say that will take away the pain and heartache that you feel right now, but try to believe that all your pain etc will fade, try to remember the good times, also please don't shut out your wife!.
take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
i know there are no words that anyone can say that will take away the pain and heartache that you feel right now, but try to believe that all your pain etc will fade, try to remember the good times, also please don't shut out your wife!.
take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry to hear of your loss and i know where your coming from My mother died nearly 3 years ago now and at first i didn't know how to feel, i was just numb and unsure how to handle it!.
But the only real cure for Heartache is tI'me! your never stop missing him but as time goes on you will be able to accept it and move on!
its not much to you now but you should be celebrating his life rather then mourning his death!.
your a very lucky person to have been close to someone like the way you have described and to be so close to your Dad is very rare!.
a lot of people have horrible parents who Beat, or neglect there kids the fact that you have lost your best mate as well as your Father is a wonderful, wonderful commendation to your fathers parenting skills!.
I hope that i can be as good a father to my kids as your father has been to you!.
Again im sorry for your loss, but keep your chin up that's what your dad would want
DazWww@Answer-Health@Com
But the only real cure for Heartache is tI'me! your never stop missing him but as time goes on you will be able to accept it and move on!
its not much to you now but you should be celebrating his life rather then mourning his death!.
your a very lucky person to have been close to someone like the way you have described and to be so close to your Dad is very rare!.
a lot of people have horrible parents who Beat, or neglect there kids the fact that you have lost your best mate as well as your Father is a wonderful, wonderful commendation to your fathers parenting skills!.
I hope that i can be as good a father to my kids as your father has been to you!.
Again im sorry for your loss, but keep your chin up that's what your dad would want
DazWww@Answer-Health@Com
My Dad died just over 2 years ago after a long and painful illness!. I miss him, its weird him not being around and I hate that my Mum has been left on her own!.
It gets easier, you do learn to deal with it!. Your life will slowly adapt to him not being there!. As cliched as this sounds, your Dad wouldn't want you to spend months grieving and being sad, he would want you to be the happy loving son that you were he were alive, you owe it to him to remain that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It gets easier, you do learn to deal with it!. Your life will slowly adapt to him not being there!. As cliched as this sounds, your Dad wouldn't want you to spend months grieving and being sad, he would want you to be the happy loving son that you were he were alive, you owe it to him to remain that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sending you my deepest sympathy!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. I lost my Dad a few years ago!. The pain will never completely go but you learn to live with it!.
Remember all them good times with your Dad , write them down so you never forget!. Talk about him often , and talk to him all the time !. He is still with you !.!. always
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Remember all them good times with your Dad , write them down so you never forget!. Talk about him often , and talk to him all the time !. He is still with you !.!. always
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I felt like this a few years back when I lost m Nan, she was like a mother to me, raised me from a child!. I felt like no one understood how I felt but with time comes healing!. It may not seem like you'll ever smile again,but you will,you have to give it time and dont ever be affraid of crying or feeling hurt,this is just the natural greiving process, never bottle your feelings!. I'm very sorry for your loss!.
Stacey,UKWww@Answer-Health@Com
Stacey,UKWww@Answer-Health@Com
Please do not try and rush things- it can take a long time to go through the greiving process - up to 12 months and if you want to ramble then you just do that ; we won't mind!. If it starts to fell too bad then I suggest you contact an organisation called CRUISE (I think that is how they spell it) who specially try to help people who are bereaved!. They will provide a listening ear and help you get through this!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It doesn''t help to hear "Well, at least he didn't suffer"!. That is true!. But it is even more agonizing to watch them suffer and there is nothing anyone can do because that is all the doctors can do!. !. !. and that is to keep them alive suffering!. Watching someone who is proud, lose their dignity is painful!. They want to go now, and I understand!. My dad has a few days to live!. He is not "happy" to go this way!. He had hoped to go in his sleep!.
You have memories!. That is good to have!. They are yours and yours alone!. Cherish them but don't allow them to cripple your continued existance!. You have a wife and a future ahead of you!. It would have happened this way sooner or later (sooner was in your case)!.
We move on (because that is what they would have wanted)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have memories!. That is good to have!. They are yours and yours alone!. Cherish them but don't allow them to cripple your continued existance!. You have a wife and a future ahead of you!. It would have happened this way sooner or later (sooner was in your case)!.
We move on (because that is what they would have wanted)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am sorry to hear about your loss!.I know what you are going through i lost my mum at 18 it was the day before mothers day!.People said it would get better in time 13 years on and its not you just learn to live with the pain!.if you have a child you could share the thing you and your dad did!.You could talk about him so you keep his memory alive !.Clearing the house is hard but make sure you keep some thing that holds special meaning to the both of you maybe some thing that makes you smile or laugh!.Then in the dark times you have some thing to hold on to!.There is light at the end of the tunnel
Good luck i will be thinking of youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck i will be thinking of youWww@Answer-Health@Com
My dad died when I was 11years old, sadly I'll never have an adult relationship with him as you did with your own father!. You need to cherish those memories and not be sad to express how you feel!. People who haven't lost a person as close to them as you were to your dad won't understand but don't stop them from trying!. Your wife is trying to support you in the best way she can so don't push her away, let her in and talk to her, when you feel ready!.
It hurts so much when you lose someone, anyone, that you cared so very deeply for!. You won't forget them but time will ease the pain - its not just a saying, over time your grief won't feel like someone has stabbed you in the gut!. Over time, you can think about them and talk about them without feeling anger and sadness at their death but joy and happiness at being part of their life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It hurts so much when you lose someone, anyone, that you cared so very deeply for!. You won't forget them but time will ease the pain - its not just a saying, over time your grief won't feel like someone has stabbed you in the gut!. Over time, you can think about them and talk about them without feeling anger and sadness at their death but joy and happiness at being part of their life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can't even begin to understand how you must be feeling right now!. But here are some words that might help!.
"In the eyes of God we are all one family!. We all came from the one Heart!. And we will all return to the one Heart!. When the one hurts, we all hurt!. I feel your grief!. I, as one of God's family, am here for you!. To know: to understand!. To be a shoulder to cry on until the grief and sense of loss mellows into fond and endearing memory" Let your dear wife be the shoulder to cry on!. God bless you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"In the eyes of God we are all one family!. We all came from the one Heart!. And we will all return to the one Heart!. When the one hurts, we all hurt!. I feel your grief!. I, as one of God's family, am here for you!. To know: to understand!. To be a shoulder to cry on until the grief and sense of loss mellows into fond and endearing memory" Let your dear wife be the shoulder to cry on!. God bless you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My heart goes out to you!.Cry your eyes out for however long it takesWww@Answer-Health@Com
I lost my father and his parents, my aunt and a cousin all within a few years time, it was very hard to deal with and as a matter of fact in the beginning I didnt deal with it!. I kept pushing all those hurt feelings and any memories I had of them out of my mind for a while but it would always come rushing out no matter how hard I tried not to feel them!. What did seem to help was eventually letting myself feel the pain fully and let myself think deeply about all the things we shared in life the good and the bad memories!. Greiving is a process and you have a right to feel sorrow and take some time to dwell on it because its healthy and normal to feel the pain!. Nothing anyone can say will erase that pain for you, its just something that takes time , and no we wont get over losing loved ones a sadness and feeling of loss never goes away but it does get easier over time and easier to go on with life!. You can expect death to change you a little as well , for example some things I liked to do before then I didnt do anymore or as much, and I even changed my college field because i lost the passion for it!. No matter what anyone says its going to take time and thats the only way to heal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh I am very sorry to hear that I cant Imagine how u feel !. I have my both parents but I'm close to my dad more!.but the only thing I wanted to say is his not dead !. his alive in you !. his gonna be with u !. all the time!. not just his dad means his gone no no his a live !.!. u will see him in u and in Ur kids!. just remember the good times and ask god for Mersey in him!. is just about time and u will be fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm really sorry to hear of your loss!. I understand how you are feeling as I lost my grandfather a couple of years ago and he was more like a farther to me!.
I'm afraid that the only healer is time, this is going to hurt and probably you will feel like there is no brighter day but believe me when I say that things will get easier, I can't say how long it will take as grief is different for each person, but it WILL GET BETTER!
Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm afraid that the only healer is time, this is going to hurt and probably you will feel like there is no brighter day but believe me when I say that things will get easier, I can't say how long it will take as grief is different for each person, but it WILL GET BETTER!
Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry about your dad!.
In times to come you will be glad of the good relationship you had!.
Some people have never had that!.
Take care xWww@Answer-Health@Com
In times to come you will be glad of the good relationship you had!.
Some people have never had that!.
Take care xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Keep him in your heart, talk about him, laugh about things you did together, things he said!. As long as you remember him he will never be dead!. My dad died in 1986, but he is still living in my heart and in my kids and in my memory!. Your dad will always be apart of you!. You have life because of him Never forget that!. I feel for you coz it is the worst pain possible!. But keep him in your heart,the pain will be bearable!. Bless you xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am soo sorry for your loss,
be happy that you had such a good relationship with him
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be happy that you had such a good relationship with him
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