Should I tell my new boyfriend that I'm on Anti-depressants?!
Question: Should I tell my new boyfriend that I'm on Anti-depressants!?
I've been dating this great wonderfull guy for 2weeks now!. And he makes me so happy, I dont want to do anything to screw up the relationship!.
I've been on anti-depressants for about 4months now!. (thanks to my stupid abusive ex for the most part!. Plus he made fun of me for being on anti-depressants!. He would always say "have you taken your "crazy pills" yet!?)!. But Im scared to tell him, because I dont want him to think Im some nut case or something!.
I'm on Effexor XR and it sometimes causes my hands to shake, or I'll do a random twitch at night, and he has seen the scars on my arms!. (he asked about them but i made up a lie)!. I know he notices the twitching/shaking!.
I just really dont want to scare him off!.!. should I tell him or keep it to myself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've been on anti-depressants for about 4months now!. (thanks to my stupid abusive ex for the most part!. Plus he made fun of me for being on anti-depressants!. He would always say "have you taken your "crazy pills" yet!?)!. But Im scared to tell him, because I dont want him to think Im some nut case or something!.
I'm on Effexor XR and it sometimes causes my hands to shake, or I'll do a random twitch at night, and he has seen the scars on my arms!. (he asked about them but i made up a lie)!. I know he notices the twitching/shaking!.
I just really dont want to scare him off!.!. should I tell him or keep it to myself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
There is nothing to be ashamed of!. Depression is a clincial problem, not a crazy problem!.
Scars on your arms!? I take it you self injure!. Are you still doing that!. Self injury is it's own special beast!.
If you are confident that your depression (and yes the self injury too), are behind you, then you are ready for a relationship!.!.!.!. and there is no reason why you shouldn't talk about it!. You are a survivor!
If you aren't thru the bad times, being in a relationship can be problematic!.!.!.trust me when I say this, happiness can only be found within, not from a relationship!. If you feel you need to keep this kind of thing secret from him, it sounds like the gray cloud is still over your head!. You may want to consider focusing on yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Scars on your arms!? I take it you self injure!. Are you still doing that!. Self injury is it's own special beast!.
If you are confident that your depression (and yes the self injury too), are behind you, then you are ready for a relationship!.!.!.!. and there is no reason why you shouldn't talk about it!. You are a survivor!
If you aren't thru the bad times, being in a relationship can be problematic!.!.!.trust me when I say this, happiness can only be found within, not from a relationship!. If you feel you need to keep this kind of thing secret from him, it sounds like the gray cloud is still over your head!. You may want to consider focusing on yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yea if he really loves u he will understandWww@Answer-Health@Com
"he has seen the scars on my arms!. (he asked about them but i made up a lie)!. "
Fix the lying part first, the meds second!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Fix the lying part first, the meds second!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It really depends on what type of person he is and what kind of relationship you have!. As for the twitches at night, so many do that, so i dont think he will become suspicious of you!. It is really common!.
You could tell him straight away and it might scare him or you could wait a while and he might feel betrayed!. If i were you, i would wait a while longer!. It has only been two weeks!. Wait for your relationship to become serious enough but not too serious that he will feel betrayed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You could tell him straight away and it might scare him or you could wait a while and he might feel betrayed!. If i were you, i would wait a while longer!. It has only been two weeks!. Wait for your relationship to become serious enough but not too serious that he will feel betrayed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would go ahead and tell him!. The longer you wait to tell him, the harder it's going to be for him to accept why you took so long for you to tell him!. If he is really interested in you then he will stay!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If the side effects are noticeable, better to tell him the truth than for him to imagine something that's worse than the truth!.
Let him know why you're on the meds, and if you're expected to be able to go off of them!. If you're on them due to a traumatic relationship, then there's no reason to think that in a few months you might not be ready to be med-free again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Let him know why you're on the meds, and if you're expected to be able to go off of them!. If you're on them due to a traumatic relationship, then there's no reason to think that in a few months you might not be ready to be med-free again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him so it will help YOU!. Suffering from depression is serious, you need all the love and support you can get!. By telling him it will free you up to be yourself around him!. He will be able to better understand your moods!. But just realize that IF, he doesn't understand - that's not your fault, that's his issue, please try not to make that your issue!. And remember just take things one day at a time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Before my husband an I started dating, I laid everything on the line!. I knew him less than a day, and I told him my history with depression, my history of hospitalization, my struggle with medicines, etc etc etc!.!.!.
He accepted me, loves me, and took me whole package!.
If I could do it differently, I would probably not give him EVERYTHING upfront, but at the time I wanted to be able to cut my loses if he couldn't deal!.
Anti-dpressants are no different than insulin!. You are correcting a chemical imbalance!. If you were diabetic would you feel ashamed about taking insulin!? You are doing what you need to do to feel stable!.
Be proud you sought help, be proud you are taking care of things, be proud you are a strong woman who walked away from an abusive ex!. If your new man is as great and wonderful as you say he is, he will stay!.
If not, its been 2 weeks, cut your losses and find someone who can deal with real people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He accepted me, loves me, and took me whole package!.
If I could do it differently, I would probably not give him EVERYTHING upfront, but at the time I wanted to be able to cut my loses if he couldn't deal!.
Anti-dpressants are no different than insulin!. You are correcting a chemical imbalance!. If you were diabetic would you feel ashamed about taking insulin!? You are doing what you need to do to feel stable!.
Be proud you sought help, be proud you are taking care of things, be proud you are a strong woman who walked away from an abusive ex!. If your new man is as great and wonderful as you say he is, he will stay!.
If not, its been 2 weeks, cut your losses and find someone who can deal with real people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no!.!. do not tell him first of all you have not been in the realitionship long enough to tell something so personal!.!. if you were to break up soon who knows how many people he would tell!.!. anyways get yourself taken care of first then later down the road when you can truly trust him you can tell !.good luck girl!.!. and be well!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well in my case my girl friend has ocd itll occur every once in a while if she didnt take her meds!. She has hormonal imbalances too so shes taking pills!. She has been completely open with me from the very start and I love her so much that I couldnt care less what anybody thinks of her!. I think if your boyfriend really loves you then he would want you not hiding anything from him!. You should tell him this and then you find out what your relationship is really all aboutWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hiding this from him is basically lying!.
Yes, tell him!.
If he were on them, would you want to know!? And if he hid that from you, how would you feel!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, tell him!.
If he were on them, would you want to know!? And if he hid that from you, how would you feel!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Since you have only been dating 2 weeks, I'd wait a little while, get to know him a little better, start a discussion to see his views on medications are!. How he responds will indicated whether or not you should tell him, or even be dating him!.
And you should have been honest about your scars when he asked!. Starting off a possible relationship with lies never is a good thing!. That could have actually been a great opportunity to bring up the anti-depressants since they go hand in hand!. Seriously, maybe if he understood the scars, he would most likely understand needing anti-depressants!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
And you should have been honest about your scars when he asked!. Starting off a possible relationship with lies never is a good thing!. That could have actually been a great opportunity to bring up the anti-depressants since they go hand in hand!. Seriously, maybe if he understood the scars, he would most likely understand needing anti-depressants!.Www@Answer-Health@Com