Was i sexually abused? is this affecting me still? not sure about anything...?!


Question: Was i sexually abused!? is this affecting me still!? not sure about anything!.!.!.!?
im male and 28 years old now!. and this is the first time ive told anyone about any of this!. when i was 12 i had a friend up the street!. he was a vietnamese guy and he was 18 at the time caus he had a car he could have been 19 not sure!. we were friends for about 3 years!. to the point we started to masturbate together!. and it was him that instigated all of this caus he used to put on porno movies!. it got to the point where he would start touching me!. and playing with me alot!. and he somehow got me to touch him!. he would alyways get me to finish his orgasm!. no one ever knew this but me and him!. the thing is i dont really know how this has affected me!. i was using drugs alot in my teens and had a pretty rough time with myself with my parents splitting up and everything!. my self esteem is fairly low and im afraid of older men!. thats one thing that annoys me the most!. i turn into a little pussy when confronted with older men!. another thing is i am extremly attrated to asian woman!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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my name is Jeff and I am a male survivor!. if you can please check out male survivor!. org!. it is a great site!.

i sexually abused by a neighbor teen when i was six!. the depression, escapes into drugs, sex or other things is quite common!. i suspect it has effected your sexuality and esteem more than you have even yet guessed!. it has a way of snaking into every facet of your life!.

yes, 12yo boys cannot consent!. you lack experience, and used a position of greater knowledge and power to take advantage of you, and that is sexual abuse!.

feel free to write me if you feel!. i am open about my abuse, and i always try to help other survivors if the chance comes along!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It doesn't matter that you're men, or that you were both young!. sexual abuse is sexual abuse!.!. i think you are effected by this and should speak to someone you trust about it, talking about these things can help, get into contact with a counsellor, they will help you overcome these fears and learn to live your life the way you deserve to!. Don't let past experiences or fears rule your life, you have a lot to live for, don't surrender!. Seek help and talk about your problems, it does help, and you can get better!. If you're attracted to this asian woman, let her be your goal, ask her out for coffee, get your confidence back, even if she says no, it would have be worth a shot!. Never give up!.!. you're stronger than that!. :) Good luck, I hope you have the support you deserve!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com

Ok so my view on this is that yes you may have been molested in the sense that at such a young age you are subject to want to "be cool" predators start when they are very young it's not like they turn 18 and become molestors and if he was so much older than you then he knew what he was doing however you were not at an age to fully understand what was going on!.!.!.there for now you are having a hard time grasping what exactly happened and alot of kids who are molested in their lives turn to drugs alcohol or sex to fill this void created from feelign empty!. Your attraction to asian women may have nothing to do with this and you may be looking deeper than you are ready for if it does!.!.!.just because an incident happened doesnt give it the right to determine your life!.!.i do suggest seeking help with this since it has caused a confidence and self esteem issue via confrontaion of men!.!.!.!.It helped me i can give you the tips they gave me but with this i really believe you should seek help since you are willing to face it!.!.!.!.you'll feel better about yourself your relationships whether romantic or platonic it will help pretty much every aspect of your life!.!.!.good luck and god bless!. wish you the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You were abused and it is STILL affecting you!. You need to go through a healing process!. And you need a doctor to fascilitate!. Make an appt!. with a psychiatrist!. If you can't wait that long go to a mental health hospital and tell them you need immediate help!. many have day programs and/or can give emergency counseling but you have to go ask for it!. Don't go to regular ER many don't know how to handle emotional problems and will make you feel worse!.
Don't worry about being attracted to Asian women right now, and you aren't gay - you just are feeling a healthy guilt for what happened - as you realize that it wasn't your fault the guilt will go away!.
Good luck and Prayers!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

our mind is so strong we could remember load of things,when i was your age my friends did it to me as instructed,30 years since,iam not gay,nless you doing blowjobs on him then possibly you might be gay,you choose your preference!.no laughing matter!.its your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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